The Spiritual Work of Self-Love
The only eternal relationship anyone ever has is with the higher Self. The real spiritual work is to learn self-love. The mind can be trained into self-love by being shown, over and over, that the higher Self is a safe haven of love and protection. It is kind of a circular process:
The higher Self cannot protect you until you seek its security; this process begins when you devote time and energy to self-love. Self-love grows when you refuse to follow the impulses of anger and fear, trust that the universe is on your side, form your desires from the heart and watch the higher Self carry them out, believe that you are enough in and of yourself, heed the tenderness and sweetness of your love for others, put your attention on positive energies in every situation, honor your own needs without having to seek outside approval, and cultivate the peace of inner silence.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra, (Three Rivers Press, 1997).