No matter how bad your habits, your vices, how badly you feel about yourself, take a moment to accept yourself and start where you are when you make this New Year’s resolutions. Here is inspiring guidance for starting just where you are:
“I was in a dead-end relationship, smoking two packs a day, eating too much, and walking around in a cloud of depression. I hated myself. I hated my body; I hated my rotten attitude; I hated what I had become; and every time I tried to do anything positive–diet, exercise, cheer up, quit smoking–I’d last for a few days and then fall apart and hate myself even more.
One day when I was working up the determination to quit smoking again, my sister–who was always on my case to quit–bought me a pack of cigarettes and told me if I was ready to give up something, then I should give up being so hard on myself. At first I thought she was being sarcastic. When I realized she was dead serious, I started to cry. It turned out to be a lot harder than I ever imagined, but it was a beginning–the real beginning of my life.”
All change begins with awareness. If you wish to cultivate more simplicity, love, and peace of mind in your life through the practice of kindness, the place to begin is an examination of where you are. The key is to look kindly upon yourself–to hold in nonjudgmental awareness just where you are right now in your life.
The paradox is that when we begin to notice, without judgment, just where we are, we create the space for something different to happen. By treating ourselves with the kindness of acceptance, we make it possible to be transformed.