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Surrender to Your Real Needs and Desires
When you first think of the word surrender, you probably associate it with defeat. This is a natural association from the ego’s viewpoint. In any situation where struggle dominates, no one is acting out of love, and it’s inevitable that only one side can win.
You only have to remember the last argument you were in to realize that arriving at a place of mutual love was the furthest thing from your mind.
But there is another meaning to surrender, as you can remember from the experience of falling in love. Falling in love allows you to surrender to what you deeply desire, not what someone else is trying to impose.
Spirit has no ulterior motives. It acknowledges the other person’s need, but it neither takes responsibility for that need nor opposes it. In this way the other person is seen as real, because whenever you need something, your need is your reality.
A lot of the time we are lost in unreal needs. The absence of ulterior motives is what marks spirit. The neediness of an insecure ego doesn’t get disguised by other tactics. When you are in spirit you don’t feel the urge to manipulate, cajole, seduce, demand, beg, or insist. You simply allow, and in that you make an open space for love to flow.
Spirit never acts in a fixed way. In general, to hear that someone you love needs you does result in fulfilling the need. There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touch with spirit:
You don’t oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put another’s wishes on the same plane as your own.
These instincts develop and mature through surrender over the years. But these aren’t learned responses. Love already contains them.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997)
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Love and allow, Love and allow, this is what God does for us and this is what we must learn to do for eachother.
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God is Love, You are God. That God within you is bringing in to you (as karma) response to your every thought, your spoken words, and your deeds. Thus it is VERY important that you maintain only positive thoughts, because your thoughts lead to what you say and do. Surrender means that you are surrendering to that God Within, (Your Soul, your Spirit, that Voice Within), and it means you are giving up your desires and the attachment to your body. Once you surrender your body & desires to God, your wayward senses will also lose their power and you will be free from bondage. There may be some ups and downs in life, but once you have surrendered to God, nothing will disturb you, and God will provide for your every need in more and better ways than you could have conceived.
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I was bein facetious about the Spirit comment. The way I have always thought was akin to the way Alan Alda's character on Mash thinks. You may have preconceived notions but you can make a big freaking joke about it and show the people in a round about way that they can laff at themselves and should. How was it that during the Clinton Administration everybody got along? How did this awful backslide occur? HOW!?
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A bucket of water is filled one drop at a time. Why concentrate on the negative. Turn that negative into something positive. Make a change in your life and then see how it changes others.
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That's the Spirit!
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I find many of these comments warm and fuzzy ( joke) I think is the staement used. HOWEVER no one ever performs like these quotes of Fantasy. Think Im wrong? Ask a Born again Christian about acceptance of non christians. Ask a Jehova Whitness about who they can associate with. Ask Mormans about being against dranking sodas yet they owned Coca-Cola. Spirt acts when it feels it agrees with the other inity and only then. NOT out of wanting to please or pleasure. WHATS IN IT FOR ME is whats on every agenda today. In the past, yes perhaps spirit was closer to its discription in these verses. SPIRIT is what YOU make it. PASSIVE or AGRESSION. How can there be talk of such PASSIVE SPIRIT when males are discouraged from being passive and FEMALES ridiquled by other females if they are passive with males? YEA. Its a WARM and FUZZY trip into non-reality. Want a better hope for realization? Play IMAGINE by John Lennon. That would be much better.
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bless you. i respect your view. hope i did not offended you. overall love is great. in a time as now that is what we need. having someone who love you notwithstanding your faults, belief, background etc and you in return is what is needed in this world.
have a bless day
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"Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues– it is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun." Osho
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it is good to surrender. the best surrender is to surrender to Christ Jesus. He is the greatest LOVE. and if you adapt and way in His way you will be full of LOVE.
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