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Surviving Pet Loss

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Byron's Altar

PetLoss.com – A pet loss grief support website, including personal support, thoughtful advice, The Monday Pet Loss Candle Ceremony, Tribute Pages, and healing poetry.

Tufts University Pet Loss Suppot Hotline – Callers speak one-on-one with staff members (trained by a psychologist) for as long as they wish.

10 Tips on Coping with Pet Loss by Moira Anderson Allen,  M.E. – Very helpful tips covering everything from coping with feelings to deciding whether to stay with your pet during euthanasia.

ASPCA Pet Loss Support – Includes advice on everything from end of life care to tips on helping you decide if it’s time for euthanasia.

Care2 Pet Heaven eCard – Furry, fluffy, and fantastic. Not only are these cards sending a healing message, all Care2 eCards generate donations to great organizations.

Altar – After Byron passed, I created an altar in the area he used to eat. It included flowers, pictures of him, his dog bowl, collar and favorite toys. Having reflective moments in that sacred space proved to be very healing for me.

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Lisa Spector is a concert pianist, Juilliard graduate, and canine music expert. She is co-founder of Through a Dog's Ear, the first music clinically demonstrated to calm the canine nervous system. Their new high-tech pet gadget, iCalmDog, is the portable solution to canine anxiety. Lisa shares her home and her heart with her two "career change" Labrador Retrievers from Guide Dogs for the Blind, Sanchez and Gina. Follow Lisa's blog here.

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8:42PM PDT on Jul 15, 2014

Thanks

7:50AM PST on Feb 20, 2014

THANK YOU FOR SHAREING SUCH A BEAUTIFUL STORY:) I AM STILL MORNING THE LOSS OF MY BELOVED PONIE WHO PASSED APRIL 2013. I KEEP HIM CLOSE TO MY HEART EVERY DAY AND MISS HIM TERRIBLY BUT BLESSED TO KNOW HE IS NO LONGER IN PAIN. I AM TRUELY LOOKING FORWARD TO ONE DAY BE REUNITED AND CROSS THE BEAUTIFUL RAINBOW BRIDGE TOGETHER. A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE THANKED ME FOR SAVING THIS PRECIOUSE FUR BABIES LIFE BUT I TELL THEM IT WAS PONIE WHO SAVED ME:) RIP MY BIG GUY MOMMY WILL SEE YOU AT THE RAINBOW BRIDGE:) ♡♥♡♥♡♥

2:00PM PST on Dec 2, 2013

dzięki

10:48AM PDT on Aug 5, 2013

Still trying to carry on after my beloved Minou's demise, and I lose another cat.
One of my kittens died on Friday 2nd. He was only 3 months old... I don't know what to think.
I am astonished, shocked, desperate. He was a gorgeous male, grey and white, healthy and sweet. A virus killed him in two days. The vets only make assumptions, nothing certain. How can it be? You are unable to tell me what happened? A healthy kitten, kept indoor and taken good care of, suddenly dies? An innocent creature, a beautiful baby, who plays, eats and purrs, is then dead in my bathroom?
3 months before I moved my cat dies, and 2 months after I move one of my kittens dies.
The coincidence is creepy, unfair and mean. I can't believe this. Misfortune has hit me twice in a 5 months.
What killed him and how? We were about vaccinating him. We wanted to keep him with us forever, not only for one month. I feel empty.

6:07AM PDT on Aug 3, 2013

A dog or cat's life span always seems much too short. Saying goodbye is the hardest part of having them in your life!

3:58AM PDT on Jul 23, 2013

We must know how to say goodbye

9:43AM PDT on Apr 4, 2013

Thank you.... I guess that all animal lovers have to go through this at some point ;(
Sharing.

8:41PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

These comments both give me strenght and make me cry. Please give me some advice to feel better. What are the strongest medicines to fight stress, anxiety, despair, and insomnia?
My beloved cat passed away last Tuesday/Wednesday, at about 4 am. Everything changed. I am devasted. I can't breathe nor sleep. Medicines do nothing. I keep thinking and crying.
What I regret the most is that she died without me on her side: she was warm in her blanket, in her wicker basket, in the bathroom, with the heater near her. I stepped in to check her every 10 minutes, she was stable and tranquil. At about 4 am, I entered the bathroom and saw her static, with her head limp, her eyes wide open and veiled. I had a sussult, kneeled down, and touched her. She didn't move, her eyes still freezed. I touched her chest and felt no beat. I put my face in front of her nose and felt no breathe. I tried to do the cardiac massage: I can't do it properly, and it was too late. First I thought (and hoped) she was in a coma, but I was simply in denial. I started crying, instantly woke up my mother, and called the vet, then rushed to the vet with the car. She only could confirmate that she was gone.

8:33PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

or excpect. I know that. But I can't help to ask: what if I was there 5 minutes earlier? Could have it been possible to do the cardiac massage properly and make her breathe again? Should have I moved her instead of keeping her in the same position? I was afraid to provoke another crisis and worsen her state.
They say she was safe and warm, and not alone, as we were in the house with her. They say seeing your pets die is much worse than finding them asleep forever. But still, I wish I stayed in the bathroom all the time, to be with her when she was leaving, and touch her, and talk to her for the very last time, not only 10 minutes earlier. I can't go over the fact that I should have been with her in that moment. I miss you too much my sister. I only hope you knew how much we loved you. We shared many beautiful years, you slept on my bed, and delighted us with your purrs. That will never be erased. I love you, forever.
Please give me some advice to feel better. What are the strongest medicines to fight stress, anxiety, despair, and insomnia?

11:51AM PST on Feb 22, 2013

I teared up reading that letter. i can't imagine losing my kitty. I bonded strongly with a dog only once, and she was tragically hit by a car after chewing through her runner cable. It tore me apart. I have had 3 dogs since, but have never been able to "bond" or attach in the same way. They are considered my mans dogs. My cat, on the other hand, is my sweet baby. My gift from my guy for my birthday last year, she is my best friend :) Hope the new baby doesn't hurt her feelings :/ (since I know she will still be my baby too)

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