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Tantric Sex for Beginners: 4 Easy Tips!

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Design an “intimacy space”

This should be a comfortable area that is playful and relaxed. First, clear the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality, so try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, chose a soundtrack of music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.

Breathe Each Other’s Breath

Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. “Becoming conscious about your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra,” says Strgar.

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2:04PM PDT on Mar 20, 2014

Wow, still the myths persist that tantra=sex and Kama Sutra=tantra! Yoga has become so popular in the west and still we don't understand more than just the most superficial aspects. These are nice tips to enhance sensual connection and communication but I'm not so sure they are really Tantra...

7:01PM PDT on Mar 13, 2014

Cant wait to try...

9:32AM PST on Jan 21, 2014

While not always successful, I've "always" believed in and tried to make pleasing my partner a priority. When sex is "fun" and "enjoyable" (I think the world of "eye contact") for both parties, nothing else matters. Don and WE CAN! :-))

11:51AM PST on Dec 22, 2013

Yes, looking into each other's eyes is vital...

7:50AM PST on Nov 30, 2013

Interesting, I can see how this would strengthen a couple's love for each other.

@Judith s. Chill a little, this article is for people that are not novices to tantric and has nothing to do with the religious aspects. The author Veronica Peterson is not saying this is all you need to know to become some Buddha master. One does not need to be a Christan to learn some basic lessons about life from Jesus.

And like Frank pointed out not all men are about getting to the big O as quickly as possible. Maybe when you are 18 that is the goal until you become wiser and learn that it's more about the journey than the destination.

2:58AM PST on Nov 9, 2013


5:28PM PDT on Oct 30, 2013

sex is a magical thing, when shared between individuals who truly care for each other

7:13PM PDT on Oct 27, 2013


7:15AM PDT on Oct 13, 2013

Thanks foe interesting informnation

2:18PM PDT on Oct 6, 2013

"Sorry guys, foreplay is essential in Tantra. A leisurely, slow build helps men control longevity and piques women’s arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand."

I think I speak for most guys when I say that men are getting sick of these gynocentric viewpoints - as if women are perfect in bed. Essentially this is all about making the guy last longer so that the women can benefit the most out of the timespan. I suppose pleasing the man doesn't really matter. Typical Western female sexist thinking.

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