Centuries old, Tantric practices are part of a much larger Hindu/Vedic tradition of which sexuality is only part. The full practice of Tantra is a lifelong spiritual quest that demonstrates the interconnectedness of everything and includes yoga, meditation, and breath work as well as sexual techniques. The Western and more modern interpretation of Tantra has become synonymous with spiritual and sacred sexuality. Tantric books and practices explore and teach techniques that are capable of elevating the participants to a sublime and ecstatic spiritual plane.
Many teachers caution against the confusion associated with “tantric bliss” as a path to intense orgasmic pleasure. In fact, the power of the practices is often the sublimation of orgasmic pleasure toward a rising spiritual energy of divine connection.
I am not an expert or even a devoted student of Tantric practices. I have read some popular titles and seen a few videos that teach the techniques and spent some time researching the topic online. There are more than 500,000 references listed in a Google Search for “Tantric Sex.” Yet even without an exhaustive education, the principles behind Tantric practice can go a long way in deepening the connection you share with your partner.
There are a few simple techniques that I often recommend to customers and clients without even situating them in the context of Tantra, which in fact is where they came from.
Step One: Keep your eyes open. The idea of making love with your eyes open is one of the fundamentals of deep connection in intimacy. It is surprisingly harder to do than you might expect. Move toward this idea as an intention, rather than a rule; you will be amazed as the collection of glimpses that will reshape how you think about your partner and yourself. It is not easy to be seen, even by the people we love. Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.