Step Two: Mind Your Breathing. Becoming conscious about your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra. An easy way to start this is to intentionally count your breaths together. Associating breath and penetration, both shallow and deep, forces you to find a rhythm and timing that you both share. Slowing down with each other and taking a breath with each connection is incredibly exciting.
Combine these two ideas into one of my favorite intimate activities. As described earlier, see if you can get to the finish line together. Again, keep looking into each other’s eyes, and distinguish between deep and shallow penetration. Start with shallow and move toward deep penetration in a rhythm that you both follow. This will require concentration and focus, which alone changes the nature of intimacy. The first round is nine shallow and one deep stroke, each one connected through breath and eye contact. The second round is eight shallow, two deep. The pattern continues and then repeats, if you can—although I have rarely gotten through more than one round.
Imbuing our physical love with intent and attention is the key to transforming love into a force of unity. My first line of products was called Sacred Moments: Even without any formal study of Tantra, I sensed that the closest we can get to the divine is in the act of making love to someone you really love. Have fun.
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