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Step Two:  Mind Your Breathing. Becoming conscious about your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra.   An easy way to start this is to intentionally count your breaths together.  Associating breath and penetration, both shallow and deep, forces you to find a rhythm and timing that you both share.  Slowing down with each other and taking a breath with each connection is incredibly exciting.

Combine these two ideas into one of my favorite intimate activities. As described earlier, see if you can get to the finish line together.   Again, keep looking into each other’s eyes, and distinguish between deep and shallow penetration.  Start with shallow and move toward deep penetration in a rhythm that you both follow.  This will require concentration and focus, which alone changes the nature of intimacy.   The first round is nine shallow and one deep stroke, each one connected through breath and eye contact.  The second round is eight shallow, two deep.  The pattern continues and then repeats, if you can—although I have rarely gotten through more than one round.

Imbuing our physical love with intent and attention is the key to transforming love into a force of unity.  My first line of products was called Sacred Moments: Even without any formal study of Tantra, I sensed that the closest we can get to the divine is in the act of making love to someone you really love.   Have fun.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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10:07PM PST on Jan 11, 2014

ty, for this post, care2

10:50AM PDT on Apr 8, 2013

nice article thanks

2:44PM PDT on Apr 7, 2013

yes, one has to be present in the moment .Focusing on their parntner and not just the act of having sex but the intimacy of pleasure with the one you care about

2:26PM PDT on Apr 7, 2013

thanks :-)

3:33PM PDT on Mar 18, 2013

Good guide to finding the right partner - someone you can keep your eyes open with!

10:34AM PDT on Sep 20, 2011

Thank you--this is beautiful!

4:02PM PDT on Jun 18, 2011

I'm in... we're BOTH in.

7:53AM PDT on Apr 26, 2011

Would love to try it :)

9:06PM PDT on Mar 25, 2011

If this giveaway is still going, I would love to win.

6:50PM PST on Feb 28, 2011

I would love to try this.

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