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The Art of Kissing

Employing the breath as a space holder and using it to connect to your partner conveys the deep connection that it cultivates. Breathing through your nose and allowing deeper breaths to align you with your partner is one way to get the connection deeply. Many tantric techniques rely only on synchronized breathing to create a mystical and profound unity. This slow attentive kissing can open the doorway to deep passion that may just leave you gasping for air. Our lips have the ability to give our kisses an enormous vocabulary. The human lips are covered with thousands of nerve endings and have the ability to communicate soft opening as well as firm control. Experiment with softening your lips even for a short kiss and see how that changes the dialogue. Hard kisses with tight lips can be overwhelming even in the midst of serious passion. Soft open-mouth kisses invite your partner into a dialogue, which is the goal. Feel for response. Open-mouthed kissing can teach you a lot about opening to relationships: about how to avoid forcing things, as well as giving both partners the opportunity to be active participants choosing their unspoken words.

The agile tongue can speak volumes in a kiss. Unfortunately, many people misunderstand the French kiss is as a simple insertion of their tongue in the mouth of their partner. Nothing can kill a kissing mood faster than a sloppy tongue in the midst of a tentative open-mouth kissing conversation. Consider the tongue as your diplomat, and just like in a good conversationalist, use the tongue judiciously to communicate interest, curiosity and intrigue. A light tongue tracing the lips, quick darting meeting of tongues in the center of open lips is incredibly exciting and will open the conversation to new levels.

Developing the artistic capacity to communicate with kisses will not only enhance the physical intimacy that you share but you will be surprised at how much safer and more open your verbal conversations will become.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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4:21PM PDT on May 24, 2013

Excellent tips.

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1:28AM PDT on Jul 3, 2011

hugs and a big kiss X to all x

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5:39PM PDT on Jul 1, 2011

very interesting...might be time to find someone to pucker up with :)

10:37AM PDT on Jul 1, 2011

I was so shy with the man i love and our first kisses were awkward and shy ones. That made everything all the sweeter for both of us knowing that the other wasn't an expert in kissing and we learned together. It was beautiful and perfect when we got it right.

12:23AM PDT on Jul 1, 2011

as kissing cause virus the only kiss i give is X

3:52AM PDT on Jun 27, 2011

As the singer says, "It's in his kiss". That could be stated It's in her kiss as well. Thank you for the article, and Be Blessed.

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