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The Art of Living in Balance

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The Art of Living in Balance

People often ask me how I do it, how I do it ďall.Ē By day, Iím CEO of a media company. Iím on more boards than I can recite in one breath. I have three girls between the ages of 28 (just married) and 4. And I blog, cook, blog about cooking and stuff like this, and in general have enough time to do lots of fun things. I came up with the phrase ďthe art of living in balanceĒ years and years ago when I launched Organic Style magazine. Unfortunately, we had to shut the magazine down. But that phrase still guides me. So, when people ask me how I do it, I often canít give them an easy answer because itís just something Iíve been doing for so long. But since someone asked me just the other day, Iíll try to give an answer that you all can use in your own lives.

1. Surround yourself with good people and keep them happy. Iíve had the same babysitter for 28 years, the same husband for 18. They are reliable, comfortable, and wonderful people I appreciate every day.

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2. Outsource the stuff you donít like to do. I hired a woman to do laundry almost 20 years ago because not only do I loathe doing laundry, but also Iím terrible at it. When I first hired her, it seemed like a total luxury. But freeing up that time gave me the opportunity to devote my time to other areas in my life that led to more success and more happiness. I adore and respect Betty so much that I even wrote a laundry book, Bettyís Book of Laundry Secrets, to capture all her wisdom. Sheís in her 80s and still comes to my house every Monday. I love her.

3. If you see a problem, fix it. When I was younger, I spent a lot of time fuming about problems and people. Now, people often call me ďdirect.Ē But what that means is if there is something I donít understand, or that isnít working, I say something. Iím that person that asks the stupid question in the room that everyone else wanted to ask but was too afraid to. Whether itís a family issue or a work issue, I have found that the direct, respectful approach gets the best results.

4. If you canít fix it, let it go. I am a firm believer in the energy and power of the Universeóthat there is a time to fix and a time to not fix. If you have an issue that you canít resolve, donít keep banging your head against the same wall over and over. Take a break. Try something different. Distract yourself. Forget about it. When the time is right, the opportunity will present itself.

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5. You canít change other people, you can only change yourself. This is something I learned after years of therapy, which was worth every minute and every dollar. Itís not my job to fix other people; itís my job to understand them so that I can fix my own response to them. This alone has saved me countless years of agony.

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12:47PM PDT on Oct 24, 2010


7:56AM PDT on Oct 22, 2010

love it - esp. #4!

10:37PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

beautifully written piece maria...thanks..will keep this in mind for the coming weekend n aft that too :) God bless u !

10:17PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Indeed, we all need to be reminded to BALANCE our lives, mentally, physically and spiritually,:-) Good Thoughts! (I am so happy)...Innercise(Yoga, Tai Chi,)...Exercise(walking, workouts,)...and Meditate (Haree Om Shrii Hung Om Nam Kevalam) (universal mantra)....ATTG:-)

7:59PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Excellent article! Thank you for posting.

7:39PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

thank you :)

5:03PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Great article. I need to work on number 6.

4:50PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Balance is definitely worth strivng for...thanks.

4:04PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Balance, easier said than done... but so worth it

12:32PM PDT on Oct 21, 2010

Thank you for the article. I particularly like the comment about not being able to change other is so true.

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@Paul L: Mind you : the tongue is also a very important diagnostic in TCM :-).

It just shows that we should/could trust what our bodies are telling us. Thanks for the info.


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