6. Stop reading or watching depressing or violent things. Really? Is that really necessary to your life happiness? Iím not talking about news. Iím talking about fiction. Entertainment. Find other ways to get a buzz, but stop getting it from other peopleís pain and misery.
7. Examine yourself and your past deeply. If you are not happy, get therapy. If you are stumped about something, ask an expert. I just read two books by Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child and The Body Never Lies. Both books offer amazing insights into why things happen to us and how we should think about them.
8. Try new things. You actually get a hormonal boost whenever you try something new. So take a trip somewhere youíve never beenóeven if itís down a new street. Try a new activity, or take a class in something youíve always thought about. Read a book or watch a show that teaches you something new. Try a new food. You may not like it, but you will like the new knowledge it has provided for you.
9. Allow yourself to feel desire. I have to admit, when I read stories about women who donít feel desire, I thinkÖis there something wrong with me? I think sexual desire is the creative life force that is the fuel for almost anything great. And yes, it is all in your head, so think about it. A lot. Itís free, itís awesome and itís good for you. Revel in it. If you need a jump-start, read a romance novel. Any religion or person who tries to deny or suppress desire almost invariably ends up in tragedy (I wonít list them all here). I believe that the God who created this universe created sexual desire as a very special gift. Use it appropriately.
10. Be grateful. Every night when I go to bed I thank the universe for all my blessings. I ask for guidance, too. But mostly I just feel thankful for my husband, my children, my family, and my home. After all, everything else has just a fraction of importance compared to those things. And maybe thatís what people are talking about when they wonder how I do it ďall.Ē† (I put that in quotes because I certainly have a GIANT list of things I havenít done yet that I want to do). I know whatís truly important and what isnít. And for that, too, I am grateful.
Thatís what the art of living in balance is all about.