Our Dirty Little Secret about Self Worth (Video)

Lack of self worth is “epidemic in western culture,” according to Adyashanti, an American spiritual teacher and author. This feeling of inadequacy is a “black hole” that exists in all of our egos. All around us, people feel this lack of self worth and yet no one wants to talk about it — it’s our “dirty little secret.” We want to hide our insecurities away and pretend they don’t exist.

But rather than hiding our secret, Adyashanti teaches how we can recognize these feelings, and actually use them to experience total authenticity. He argues that the black hole in our ego is an entryway to feeling complete.

Listen to Adyashanti and other spiritual teachers, like Anne Lamott and Jack Kornfield, speak at the Wake Up Festival, August 14 – 18. Click here for more information.

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Kamia T.
Kamia T.2 years ago

Really? I sat for over 4 minutes of silliness that didn't give me one bit of information on how to feel better? Very disappointed in this. Every single person has some area of their life or past which doesn't feel good to them. This didn't seem to help at all.

Bryna Pizzo
Bryna Pizzo2 years ago

Now after coming back to the comments, I laughing all over again. I have to thank everyone who added to the humor.

Bryna Pizzo
Bryna Pizzo2 years ago

Thank you all. Carolanne, I have to thank you as well. Your response was so abrupt it sent me off into gales of laughter. I laughed so hard; it made my sides ache.

Angela J.
Angela B.2 years ago

Guess I'm lucky that I know who I am and I've already arrived at the place I want to be. :)
I spend my days surrounded by nature instead of people. I've learned to be my own best friend, instead of enemy. I've come to terms with the fact that although I don't have all the answers, neither does anyone else. If everyone stopped comparing themselves to everyone else, they wouldn't have so many self worth and image problems!!

Nancy Black
Nancy Black2 years ago

Ironically, after watching the video, I began to feel insecure since before watching I didn't realize the "dirty little secret" of unworthiness.

Terry V.
Terry V.2 years ago


Carolanne Powell
Carolanne Powell2 years ago

oh shut up

Jane H.
Jane H.2 years ago

I appreciate Ron's sense of humor and Pat P.'s perspective sooo much! And I agree that we try to cover up our basic feelings of not being "enough".

andrew h.
- -.2 years ago


this may add a boost too

"We may hear someone say, “Oh, I met a friend who is so magnetic; he inspired me and expanded my consciousness.” This is the kind of magnetic power that we all want – attracting, uplifting and expanding. This type of magnetic power is a quality of Spirit. It expands the consciousness but does not stupefy it, as does hypnosis or animal magnetism.

Magnetic power comes from within
Our magnetism is determined by our habitual attitudes and actions. To become magnetic to others, you must make yourself attractive from within. Sattwic actions, including meditative activities, are those that help you realize the pure image of the Self within. Someone with a sattwic personality is sincere, kind, accepting, and possessed of great self-control – qualities that are highly magnetic and produce a good effect on oneself and others. Positive behavior, control of speech, and kind words are qualities which clothe the soul in spiritual magnetism."


heather g.
heather g.2 years ago

I agree with this. He mentioned 'window-dressing' and when you scratch the surface, there's often nothing meaningful, strong and stable underneath.... so for me there is daily learning and effort in trying to understand north americans.
A loving upbringing certainly makes a big difference and contributes to one's self-worth.