The Choices In Your Life

Since we all take our choices very seriously, adopting this new attitude requires a major shift. Today, you can begin with a simple exercise. Sit down for a few minutes and reassess some of the important choices you’ve made over the years.

Take a piece of paper and make two columns labeled “Good Choice” and “Bad Choice.” Under each column, list at least five choices relating to those moments you consider the most memorable and decisive in your life so far – you’ll probably start with turning points shared by most people, but be sure to include private choices that no one knows about except you.

Once you have your list, think of at least one good thing that came out of the bad choices and one bad thing that came out of the good choices. This is an exercise in breaking down labels, getting more in touch with how flexible reality really is.

If you pay attention, you may be able to see that not one but many good things came from your bad decisions while many bad ones are tangled up in your good decisions.

No single decision you ever made has led in a straight line to where you find yourself now. You peeked down some roads and took a few steps before turning back. You followed some roads that came to a dead end and others that got lost at too many intersections.

Ultimately, all roads are connected to all other roads. So break out of the mindset that your life consists of good and bad choices that set your destiny on an unswerving course. Your life is the product of your awareness. Every choice follows from that, and so does every step of growth.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2004).

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608 comments

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola2 years ago

Thanks for the information.

Aud Nordby
Aud nordby2 years ago

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Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey2 years ago

Growth only comes from people who want to grow. The very, very large majority, NEVER change. Or change for the worse.

Just look around. It is evidenced everywhere. Criminals have an 80% recitdivism rate and spend the rest of their lives in and out of prison.

So, at least 80% of them do not change, only learned how to commit better crimes from exposure to worse criminals than themselves over time.

One really has to be open and honest with who they are and look closely and non defensively about what actions they have taken to be in the situation they are now in.

And ask themselves, "What can I do different(better) to improve my situation?(leave,change attitude, accept(usually the worst choice). "What is it about my behavior that brings these situations to come?"(if they are repeatedly bad one's). "Who is the person that I want to be known for/as?"

If it helps, think of the one person you admire the most for their positive traits. Mine is Mother Teresa. It doesn't mean I am going to sell all my worldly possessions and move to India.

But I admire her honesty, fairness, integrity, genuineness, caring, her work ethic all balanced with faith and real world needs. In my mind, she is untouchable.

You have to be completely self honest with who you are first to ever be able to affect a positive change, a life change.

Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey2 years ago

Growth only comes from people who want to grow. The very, very large majority, NEVER change. Or change for the worse.

Just look around. It is evidenced everywhere. Criminals have an 80% recitdivism rate and spend the rest of their lives in and out of prison.

So, at least 80% of them do not change, only learned how to commit better crimes from exposure to worse criminals than themselves over time.

One really has to be open and honest with who they are and look closely and non defensively about what actions they have taken to be in the situation they are now in.

And ask themselves, "What can I do different(better) to improve my situation?(leave,change attitude, accept(usually the worst choice). "What is it about my behavior that brings these situations to come?"(if they are repeatedly bad one's). "Who is the person that I want to be known for/as?"

If it helps, think of the one person you admire the most for their positive traits. Mine is Mother Teresa. It doesn't mean I am going to sell all my worldly possessions and move to India.

But I admire her honesty, fairness, integrity, genuineness, caring, her work ethic all balanced with faith and real world needs. In my mind, she is untouchable.

You have to be completely self honest with who you are first to ever be able to affect a positive change, a life change.

Heidi Aubrey
Heidi Aubrey2 years ago

Growth only comes from people who want to grow. The very, very large majority, NEVER change. Or change for the worse.

Just look around. It is evidenced everywhere. Criminals have an 80% recitdivism rate and spend the rest of their lives in and out of prison.

So, at least 80% of them do not change, only learned how to commit better crimes from exposure to worse criminals than themselves over time.

One really has to be open and honest with who they are and look closely and non defensively about what actions they have taken to be in the situation they are now in.

And ask themselves, "What can I do different(better) to improve my situation?(leave,change attitude, accept(usually the worst choice). "What is it about my behavior that brings these situations to come?"(if they are repeatedly bad one's). "Who is the person that I want to be known for/as?"

If it helps, think of the one person you admire the most for their positive traits. Mine is Mother Teresa. It doesn't mean I am going to sell all my worldly possessions and move to India.

But I admire her honesty, fairness, integrity, genuineness, caring, her work ethic all balanced with faith and real world needs. In my mind, she is untouchable.

You have to be completely self honest with who you are first to ever be able to affect a positive change, a life change.

J.L. A.
JL A.2 years ago

good reminder

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola2 years ago

thanks for the interesting post

Kath R.
Kath P.4 years ago

Thought provoking article.
I liked Carole K.'s contribution to it.

Tim Cheung
Tim C.4 years ago

thanks

Tim Cheung
Tim C.4 years ago

thanks