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The Enemy Is Within, Not Without

The Enemy Is Within, Not Without

We will always blame and condemn those we feel are responsible for wars and social injustice, without recognizing the degree of violence in ourselves. We must work on ourselves as well as with those we condemn if we wish to move towards peace. — Thich Nhat Hanh, nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Martin Luther King Jr.

There is lots of fear mongering going on at the moment. Fingers are being pointed. Rage is being tossed around. This makes us quake in our boots and be fearful of the “enemy” or the “opposition,” or of anything else outside our known world.

Fear mongering is easy. Fox News political analyst Juan Williams said in 2010 how he gets nervous if he is on a plane with Muslims. Immediately, all his listeners felt a sense of empathy with him; it kindled their own fear, and showed how, when a seed of fear is planted in our mind, it generates instability to the point of paranoia, which can spread like wildfire.

A single match can burn down an entire forest. In the same way, anger can spread and affect all it meets. A 15-minute video, itself the result of anger and irrational fear, has ignited anti-U.S. clashes from Morocco to Malaysia to Sydney, Australia. At the time of writing, seven people have been killed, thousands injured, and innumerable buildings destroyed.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. – President Franklin D. Roosevelt in his first inaugural address

Fear has many faces, many disguises. There is fear that is a natural response to physical danger, and there is fear that is self-created, such as a fear of failure, of the dark, of being out of control, of being different or lonely, or of unfamiliar “other people.” Just as people fear communism, now they fear Muslims. And such fear easily becomes racism. As Juan Williams also said in 1986: “Common sense becomes racism when skin color becomes a formula for figuring out who is a danger to me.”

Ultimately, fear is about survival of the ego, the me-centered self, especially when the structures we have created to keep us feeling safe are, in our limited view, being threatened. The ego-mind casts a shadow of fear of potential loss and destruction. Many of us live our whole lives this way, with shadows haunting us like ghosts wherever we go.

When fear is in control, we become irrational, as well as resistant to change and spontaneity; we get angry, defensive, hidden behind self-constructed walls of protection, which reinforces separateness, isolation and enmity. Fear makes us cling to the known and reject anything that is unknown. Violence invariably arises out of such fear. Unacknowledged, it can wreck havoc in our own lives and in the world around us, as seen in terrorist attacks, gang fighting, rape, or forceful and abusive behavior.

This is the real enemy within: the part in us (whether it is bitter, angry, fearful, ignorant) that refuses to recognize we are all interconnected to each other.

We become fearless only when we can turn fear around and face it, get to know it, release resistance to it, and open our hearts. When we acknowledge and take responsibility for our own fearful and aggressive tendencies, when we see that the enemy within is actually more harmful than the enemy without, then we have the ability to change not only our own lives, but the world as well.

We can make tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness and love our priorities. Which doesn’t mean we are always in spaced-out bliss while ignoring the conflicts around us, but it does mean we have shifted our focus. Those people we have a difficult time with are really our teachers, as without an adversary—or those who trigger a strong reaction such as anger—we would not be motivated to develop loving kindness. So we should be grateful to them for enabling us to be more compassionate, and, as the Dalai Lama says, for teaching us greater patience. We can actually thank our exasperating partners, reckless teenagers, competitive colleagues, or misguided fanatics for the chance to be kind. What a gift!

All this is possible through meditation that not only invites us to witness anger, but also to get to know and make friends with ourselves, to dissolve the “me versus you,” the power struggles, and the one-upmanship. It gives us a midpoint between expressing anger and repressing it, a place where we can hear our feelings with awareness and acceptance.

Meditation may not be a cure-all; it is not going to make all our difficulties go away or suddenly transform our weaknesses into strengths, but it does enable us to rest in an inclusive acceptance of who we are. This does not make us perfect, simply more fully human.

 

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2:19PM PDT on Oct 8, 2012

My inner enemy only compels me to choose snacks poorly. I believe it's the outer enemy that is waging wars in my name that I don't want, giving Shell huge tax subsidies to drill in the Arctic, and basically pimping out the decision-making process of our government to the highest bidder.

4:28PM PDT on Oct 1, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

6:03AM PDT on Sep 22, 2012

Rightly so- but until we stop judging the bad guys, conflict goes on. We've all heard this: we are our worst enemies. So easy to be judge and jury- in most conflicts, personal or otherwise- isn't this the worst scenario that fuels the fire of conflict?



We can make tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness and love our priorities...
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2:11PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Loved it- Thanks

12:10AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Interesting article, thank you. As once quoted by Ralph Waldo Emmerson, "Fear springs from ignorance".

10:24AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

food for thought

4:25AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

Thank you.

3:10AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

Meditation makes us personally feel lighter and less anxious, but the people who choose violence are still out there threatening to kill and destroy. The consequences of their anger can have far-reaching consequences, world-wide. Pretending they don't exist is not a solution and fear is a normal human emotion ultimately in place to protect us. Turning the other cheek usually means you get slapped twice, I'd love for it to be otherwise but let's be realistic.

8:25PM PDT on Sep 18, 2012

please note the Ann Taylor work is not the only thing to do to possibly help - just a boost to help endless other ways to try and help your life

8:21PM PDT on Sep 18, 2012

thanks

to boost "work on ourselves" (in addition to meditation, selfless service, chanting a mantra sincerely, I like some Ann Taylor work)

it wont likely change everything (please use your intuition and good judgement about if its right for you or not - it may not be), but Ann is doing free healing work:

"imprint you in 5 different areas with the following empowering beliefs:
First, you'll be programmed to know that YOU are wonderful in a way that will put a big smile on your face!!
Next, God will imprint you to know that your mother thinks you’re wonderful. Now this will brighten anyone’s day :)
Then you'll be programmed to know that your father thinks you are wonderful. Imagine how happy this will make you!
God will then imprint you to know that your friends think you're wonderful. This is going to make you feel really good!
And finally, you will be programmed to know that the people that you meet think you’re wonderful. This will make all of your future interactions with new people so much more enjoyable!
I want you to experience this dynamic shift in the way you think and feel so I am offering a FR*EE call to you next Thursday, September 20th at 4:00 PM ET. You really don’t want to miss it so sign up now at the link below:

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