What is happening to us?
These kinds of stories trouble me deeply, because they speak to a much greater dysfunction within ourbroken, outdated patriarchal system of The Old Medicine. This dictatorial, condescending, hierarchical mindset more closely resembles the way our military is structured than the way I believe healing systems should operate. And while doctors in the trenches may feel they are at war against disease, replicating war-like methods of communication within hospitals and patient exam rooms serves no one and doesnít lend itself to healing.
When you practice love, with a little medicine on the side (as I described here), thereís no place for war.
Yet, as health care practitioners, many of us have been hurt within the health care system. Like abused children who go on to become abusers, we are tempted to perpetuate the cycle. And in the face of numerous stressors, we often fail to heal the wounds that have been inflicted upon us. When we suppress, rather than heal, these wounds, we lash out. We hurt others. And in the process, we dim our lights and reduce our healing superpowers.
Patients, nurses, alternative health providers, hospital workers, and doctors have all been severely wounded by the current health care system. We feel battle-scarred and disoriented, traumatized and diminished. Weíve been criticized, ostracized, demoralized, and trivialized. We feel overworked, underpaid, unappreciated, and attacked. Those of us who have recognized the power we have to heal ourselves may have been flicked off like annoying little bugs.
Itís no wonder we feel hurt. (This is why†I apologized to all the wounded doctors out there and all the patients and other health care providers.)
Instead of having our healing gifts cherished and nurtured by the system, they have been bashed and bruised, chopped off and belittled. Itís easy to forget why we were called to practice our healing arts to begin with. We might feel so wounded that we choose to throw in the towel and escape a system that just hurts too much. But as tempting as it is to bail from our callings, because the current health care system is so broken, the world needs us now more than ever.
Now is the time to rise up. As heart-centered patients and practitioners, we must lead the way. We are the future of health care. But we canít change the future until we join hands in the present.
Healing Old Wounds
In order to serve out our missions as healers, we need to first heal ourselves and then band together with others – healers and patients alike. Together, we would become a formidable force others couldnít ignore. Our voice would be heard across the world, as we stand for what is right and true and necessary.
Until doctors, patients, and all the others at the healing round table accept this lack of hierarchy, we will never optimize health care delivery the way I envision in Pink Medicine. As the patient, you may feel uncomfortably stuck in the middle, uncertain how to proceed.
Whether youíre a patient or a practitioner, in order to make a difference in the future of health care, we must start by healing the past. So letís make an effort to forgive how weíve been wronged and release the hurts weíve experienced.
Letís write down every grievance we have, get pissed, rant, cry, scream, and stomp our feet until we let it all out. If you want, share your stories, rants, and nightmares in this†Healing Your Health Care Wounds group Iíve created in the†Owning Pink Community, Iíll bear witness to what youíve experienced – along with others – so you can feel heard.
Then together, we can have a release ceremony. We can burn our grievances, throw the ashes into the ocean, tear our sadness and anger into shreds and bury the shards beneath the earth. Do whatever you need to do to let go.
In order to manifest big change in the world, we need to move past our anger and lead with love. Once we have navigated our way through the anger, and released our charge on the subject, we can move forward into forgiveness. We can open our hearts and invite in compassion for those who have hurt us.
Only then can we really make a global difference in how health care is delivered.