I recently went to the monthly Finding Meaning in Medicine group I attend with Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen and a few other awesome physicians who gather together to remind each other why we are in service and who we are. Each month, we choose a topic to discuss. The topic was FRIENDSHIP.
One person brought this to share.
The Definition of A True Friend
The Health Benefits Of Friendship
It made me consider my friendships and whether Iím as good a friend as I could be. We all know that feeling connected to those you love and having intimate friendship leads to a happier life. But did you know it also makes you healthier?
While writing this book, Iíve realized that I have to expand the definition of health. Itís not enough to just eat your veggies, move your body, get enough sleep, and follow doctorís orders. Many other factors contribute to your overall health, and friendship is one of them.
The research Iím doing for my book†Mind Over Medicine shows that people with a close network of friends live longer, have healthier brains, survive breast cancer better, survive heart disease better, and get less colds.
But how many of us really think about our friendships when we consider what it means to be healthy?
A Friendship Practice
In my line of work as a blogger, social media junkie, public speaker, and doctor, I communicate with as many as hundreds of people every day. Some of these people are already friends. Some become friends. And some are people Iíve never met and probably never will. It really blurs the line for me regarding who my true friends really are, and I worry that sometimes I spend so much time interacting with (and genuinely loving) strangers that I fail to be as present as I want to be with my true friends.
When my friends need something, Iíll drop everything for them. But when they donít write or call, I have to admit that sometimes I get so busy they slip my mind, and months – sometimes even years – can go by without any communication.
I wanted to change this.
So Iíve started a friendship practice to help me be more mindful of the friends I really love, my inner circle posse of awesome. I wrote all their names on a list and placed the list on my altar, where I meditate every day, so every day I will think of these people at least once. Iím hoping that focusing my attention on those I love will help me be a better friend. Maybe itíll even help my friends feel more loved, connected, and healthy.
As a wise, unnamed person once said, ďA friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.Ē
I want to know the songs in the hearts of those I love.
Are You A Good Friend?
Are you there for the friends in your life? Do you feel comfortable being vulnerable and open with them? Do you ask for what you need from your friends? Do you give them what they need? Do you know the song of a friendís heart? Do they know yours?
Appreciating good friends,
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of†OwningPink.com,†Pink Medicine Revolutionary,†motivational speaker, and author of†Whatís Up Down There? Questions Youíd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
Learn more about†Lissa Rankin here.
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