Each of us has developed a strong belief in a false self built up from the ego. Ego is limited, constricted, clinging, acquisitive, closed off and afraid. Just listening to this list makes it hard to believe that anyone would owe their allegiance to these values, but consider how much behavior is motivated by them.
The true self is of immediate value because it can fulfill needs that the ego cannot. These needs are as follows:
- The need for safety.
- The need to belong.
- The need to be acknowledged by others.
- The need to matter.
- The need to express yourself freely.
- The need for love.
Desire and fulfillment are the natural rhythm of life. Each of these needs exists to be met. Your true self is already fulfilled, therefore when you merge with your true self, you will be able to feel completely wanted, safe, worthy and loved. Expressing yourself will come naturally and freely. You will matter more than you ever imagined.
The ego sees the same needs and feels the same desire, but it reaches outside for fulfillment.
Adapted from The Deeper Wound by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).