Almost three years ago, I started on the path towards accepting responsibility for everything that happens in my life. I was hardly living my “best life” at the time and the repercussions of that were really starting to be a drag.
If you feel like you’re going through your life, doing your best to deal with what the world is “dishing out to you,” then you know what I’m talking about. It’s a terrible feeling.
The good news is that you can change that. The bad news is that only you can change that.
But you must change it. Because going through life taking what the world gives you, in my opinion, isn’t living at all. It is simply existing. You are breathing, but you are not alive.
I experienced this “living death” for many years. It’s awful. And that’s why I was forced to make a change.
The goal (which is always a work in progress) is to stop offloading anything about my life, my circumstances, my feelings, my frustrations or my fears onto anyone or anything other than myself – everything in my life is to become my responsibility. Not my fault… or my doing necessarily… but my responsibility.
At first, I don’t believe I realized just how much of a big deal this really is. And how it’s something you can work on for the rest of your life. It sounds easy in print doesn’t it?
Well it isn’t.
You don’t see too many people exhibiting this kind of powerful behavior in our world. That’s because the world would have you believe that power is the ability to control people and make them do what you want.
True power, as I’ve discovered, has very little if anything to do with that.
Anyway, it took me longer than I care to admit to go from thinking that “personal responsibility” was a good idea to actually embarking on the journey to LIVE it.
It wasn’t easy at first. It still isn’t at times. That’s because claiming your power through personal responsibility is a decision you must make daily.
You have free will. You are free to give away your power and abdicate ultimate responsibility for your life any moment you wish.
No one is watching. And no one cares what you decide.
The path I am on is one to take back my own power (because I’ve been giving it away to a whole lot of people for a very long time) and to use it in a better way. Like to build the life I want.
Living the idea of personal responsibility is a big step towards doing that.
One of the “growth opportunities” on my way to claiming my true power over my life, was to wrestle with this whole idea of personal responsibility. And the road got pretty darn bumpy for a while.
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