You walk past bridal mags and flinch. Or youíre content just living together. Or maybe you prefer a bohemian, nontraditional, independent lifestyle free from any societal influence. Or maybe you havenít found the one or donít even believe in the concept of the one.
There are lots of reasons why marriage might not be for you.
And if you donít want to get married, thatís no big deal these days. You can live your life as a loving, liberated, secure, satisfied person who does what he/she pleases. Damn those outdated, oppressive notions of being an unwanted spinster or romantic failure.
But what about the occasional day when you look at your married friends with envy.
Or when your family asks for the millionth time, ďYou donít like being alone, do you?Ē
Or when you fill out your 817th form, check off the Single/Not Married box, and lose your effing mind.
If you ever have a moment of self-doubt around not being married, please hear this: Being unmarried doesnít mean no babies, no home, no relationship, no sex, no carpools and no happiness.
Just like being married doesnít guarantee babies, a home, a healthy relationship, hot sex, carpools, happiness or anything really.
Our point: Create the life you want. You donít have to do anything except the stuff that pays the rent and makes you happy. If you want to have a kid, there are ways to do that. (Until then, thereís birth control.) If you want to be a homeowner, work towards it. And if you want to shack up without the formality of a marriage certificate, go for it. Just donít ever feel bad about your choice if you choose not to marry.
If it’s right for you, it’s right.
Originally published on bedsider.org.