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The Science Behind Lasting Relationships

The Science Behind Lasting Relationships

Using science and research to back her up, acclaimed writer  Tara Parker-Pope dispels the popular mythology about the death of monogamy with her book, For Better.  Called “the most credible and interesting marital self-help book of all time” by Newsweek, Tara has managed to provide a clear and comprehensive context that proves that saving and improving your marriage/relationship is more than worth the effort. Her collected data demonstrates that couples who cultivate healthy relationships have more sex, more money, better over all health and live longer. Whether single or married, listen to this informative and inspiring conversation about the value of making love work.

Tara writes the “Well” blog for The New York Times, and is one of the newspaper’s most popular and most-emailed journalists.  She wrote for The Wall Street Journal before moving to the Times.  Her work is featured regularly on television and radio. She has appeared on Today, Good Morning America, CNN, Charlie Rose, and numerous National Public Radio shows.   She became interested in marriage research and hoped that For Better would “arm readers with the information they need to save a struggling relationship or strengthen a good one.” There is actually a science behind a good and lasting relationship and For Better offers the optimism and advice to care for our most significant relationships.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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5:34PM PDT on Jun 19, 2011


1:01AM PDT on May 22, 2011

Well, I think in the past, when people decided to get married, they either chose people who were personally compatible and/or made the decision to actually work it out at all costs.

Not only were divorces looked down on, cheating was too.

The key is, to be friends with your partner. Love is like the moon, it waxes and wanes, and when the tide is out, it's that friendship bond that will carry you to the next one. You fell in love for a reason, and sometimes you need that romantic weekend out, or even a date with a dinner and movie...

I've been with mine for about 2.5 years... Even though we're newly weds, people still come up to us thinking we're "boyfriend/girlfriend". It's funny. I take it as a compliment. I guess our honeymoon will last at least 10 years.

1:38PM PDT on May 18, 2011

I've been married a long time and we do alot of things that we did when we dated-like"Going on dates, mini vacations, and picnics".Sometimes people ask us "Have you been dating long?, or "Are you on your honeymoon"? I seriously get a kick out of these questions.But seriously, I do thank GOD for giving me a good husband*

6:16AM PDT on May 18, 2011

Whatever the link has to offer, I can say from experience that making a relationship work is not an easy task, yet the rewards are invaluable. Too many couples have unrealistic expectations and give up too easily, letting their egos keep them from working through the problems and disappointments, riding out the storms, evolving and maturing. Serial monogamy, especially when children are involved, is usually a sad and sorry situation as people continue to make the same mistakes.

8:32AM PDT on May 17, 2011

OH NO the link is not functional, I guess I'll just have to file my divorce now

10:01PM PDT on May 16, 2011

cool thanks

8:07AM PDT on May 16, 2011


7:42AM PDT on May 16, 2011

There are many situations when one cannot maintain a marriage.

11:50PM PDT on May 15, 2011

This is the third interview posted by Wendy where the link does not work and says file not found. I've seen multiple others post to the same effect each time. Please fix this.

9:07PM PDT on May 15, 2011

I don't believe that married couples are any less happy, today, than in previous years.
In the past, divorce was not as easily obtained or accepted. People stayed together, without love and/or caring.

Women, mostly, stayed loyal, and said nothing, while many men had affairs.
Today, most of us believe, what's GOOD FOR THE GOOSE, IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER.

Generally speaking, if men were asked the question, "Which would you prefer, wives of today's thinking, or wives of yesteryear?", many would prefer the latter.
Guess what!!! Those days are gone.

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