We all have desires. If we are on a spiritual path, what attitude should we take towards them?
Many spiritual traditions interpret desire as counter productive, something that must be conquered in order to experience realization.
Other schools of thought, such as positive thinking, consider the fulfillment of desire to be the goal of our spiritual work.
I propose an alternative approach. Embrace desire, so you can see through it.
When we deny a desire, it gets bigger. We all know what we will immediately start thinking about if we are told not to think of an elephant. Yet it is also true that if we want to experience inner fulfillment, we must learn to transcend the fickle whims of the mind, which fluctuate constantly in an unending cycle of highs and lows, achievements and disappointments, success and failure.
Spiritual realization is the greatest desire of the heart. Just as an adult is no longer interested in the toys a toddler would find fascinating, a taste of what I call “love-consciousness” makes other desires pale in comparison. It is not by denying desire that liberation is found, but by discovering your truest, purest desire: then the obsession and need surrounding external satisfactions naturally lose their power.