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The Three Steps to Forgiveness

The Three Steps to Forgiveness

Something has to die in order for us to begin to know our truths.
–Adrienne Rich

How many of us find our lives poisoned by the inability to forgive?
We know how difficult it is to cultivate inner peace without
forgiveness, and yet many of us find ourselves holding on to anger
and resentment instead.

This simple approach to forgiveness invites us to begin thinking
about the issue in a different way. Find out the three “A’s”
of forgiveness, and begin the process:

What is denied cannot be forgiven.
Awareness of our inner world is as important as awareness of our outer world.
Our egos will fight our attempts to become more aware of our darker sides.
Watch thoughts without judgment–develop a “compassionate witness.”
The ability to watch thinking means we are not our thoughts.

What you resist persists.
Acceptance dissolves guilt.
Acceptance invites healing and change.
Change is feared and can block forgiveness.

Awareness and acceptance are our responsibility.
A genuine desire for peace invites healing.
Our inner guide completes the forgiveness process and will choose the form forgiveness takes: our job is to surrender to its guidance.

Read more: Spirit, Inspiration

Adapted from The Findhorn Book of Forgiveness, by Michael Dawson (Findhorn Press, 2003). Copyright (c) 2003 by Michael Dawson. Reprinted by permission of Lantern Books.
Adapted from The Findhorn Book of Forgiveness, by Michael Dawson (Findhorn Press, 2003).

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Annie is a renowned expert in non-toxic and green living. She was named one of the top 20 environmental leaders by Body and Soul Magazine and "the foremost expert on green living." - Body & Soul Magazine, 2009. Learn Annie's latest eco-friendly news on, a website dedicated to healthy and green living.


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8:43AM PDT on Apr 28, 2013


6:35AM PDT on Apr 8, 2013

Thank you for sharing :)

2:30AM PDT on Apr 2, 2013

When I have been angry or resentful, the one thing that has helped is the Ho'opono'opono meditation.

1:22AM PST on Jan 4, 2013

Thank you :)

10:58AM PST on Dec 7, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

4:50AM PDT on Sep 10, 2012

Thanks for the tips.

9:34AM PDT on Aug 26, 2012

"Forgiving ourselves allows us to create a garden of violets that will perfume our own and other’s lives with the fragrance of love."

------ Annie Bond

4:05AM PDT on Jul 27, 2012

Interesting, thank you.

4:04AM PDT on Jul 27, 2012

Interesting, thank you.

4:04AM PDT on Jul 27, 2012

Interesting, thank you.

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