The Three Steps to Forgiveness

Something has to die in order for us to begin to know our truths.
–Adrienne Rich

How many of us find our lives poisoned by the inability to forgive?
We know how difficult it is to cultivate inner peace without
forgiveness, and yet many of us find ourselves holding on to anger
and resentment instead.

This simple approach to forgiveness invites us to begin thinking
about the issue in a different way. Find out the three “A’s”
of forgiveness, and begin the process:

1. AWARENESS
What is denied cannot be forgiven.
Awareness of our inner world is as important as awareness of our outer world.
Our egos will fight our attempts to become more aware of our darker sides.
Watch thoughts without judgment–develop a “compassionate witness.”
The ability to watch thinking means we are not our thoughts.

2. ACCEPTANCE
What you resist persists.
Acceptance dissolves guilt.
Acceptance invites healing and change.
Change is feared and can block forgiveness.

3. ASKING FOR HELP
Awareness and acceptance are our responsibility.
A genuine desire for peace invites healing.
Our inner guide completes the forgiveness process and will choose the form forgiveness takes: our job is to surrender to its guidance.

Adapted from The Findhorn Book of Forgiveness, by Michael Dawson (Findhorn Press, 2003). Copyright (c) 2003 by Michael Dawson. Reprinted by permission of Lantern Books.
Adapted from The Findhorn Book of Forgiveness, by Michael Dawson (Findhorn Press, 2003).

363 comments

Monica May
Monica May3 years ago

thanks

Helen Wu
Helen Wu3 years ago

Thank you for sharing :)

Carol H.
Carol H.3 years ago

When I have been angry or resentful, the one thing that has helped is the Ho'opono'opono meditation.

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Duane B.
.3 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

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Christine W.3 years ago

Thanks for the tips.

a             y m.
g d c.4 years ago

"Forgiving ourselves allows us to create a garden of violets that will perfume our own and other’s lives with the fragrance of love."

------ Annie Bond


LMj Sunshine

Interesting, thank you.

LMj Sunshine

Interesting, thank you.

LMj Sunshine

Interesting, thank you.