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The True Love Checklist

The True Love Checklist

Valentineís Day is almost here, and True Love is on our minds. “True love” encompasses more than just an infatuation or attraction to someone: in fact, many psychologists and healers prefer to call it “conscious love.” But what exactly does this deeper True Love look like?

Here is a list of the important qualities included in a real True Love, a healthy and realistic model that can be a valuable measuring stick for your own relationships. How does yours measure up? Find out, right here:

1. The most important ingredient in true love is individual growth. You will support each otherís dreams and goals and allow room to change and grow.

2. Personal freedom for both people.

3. Good communication on all levels–verbal, energetic, emotional.

4. Individual space.

5. Responsible behavior toward yourself and the other.

6. Personal empowerment.

7. Affinity and friendship.

8. Compatible goals (but not necessarily the same goals).

9. Caring.

10. Bliss (at times).

11. Delight in one another.

12. An ability to say no, and to say yes.

13. Allowing the other to be negative as well as positive.

14. No coercion by either person.

15. The relationship is non-possessive.

16. Each person understands the basis of their attraction.

17. The relationship is based in truth, not fantasy.

18. Both peopleís needs are respected.

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Adapted from Teen Psychic, by Julie Tallard Johnson (Inner Traditions, 2003). Copyright (c) 2003 by Julie Tallard Johnson. Reprinted by permission of Inner Traditions.
Adapted from Teen Psychic, by Julie Tallard Johnson (Inner Traditions, 2003).

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3:41AM PDT on May 15, 2013

Bookmarked and thanks! :)

8:09PM PST on Feb 27, 2013

Great list! I have been with my husband for 15 years and we are both very happy and in love with each other after all these years primarily because we are a great team. We put the other persons needs right up there with our own. I think the fact that we were friends first was a great start. It's a give and take and about having realistic expectations of the other person and the relationship. Ultimately you must find your own true value and worth within first because no other person or anything on the outside can give that to you...

9:06PM PST on Feb 8, 2013

Thank you.

9:05PM PST on Feb 8, 2013

Thank you.

9:04PM PST on Feb 8, 2013

Thank you.

11:15PM PST on Feb 7, 2013

Thank you.

2:51AM PST on Jan 13, 2013

It's an interesting list of ways to love

3:52AM PST on Dec 1, 2012

Good list that gave me some food for thought.

5:30AM PDT on Aug 2, 2012

I don't believe in fairy tales!

4:43AM PDT on Jun 13, 2012

Excellent points. Having brought most into my life I can vouch that they do make a difference.

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