Those Annoying Couples on Facebook Really ARE That Happy

Bad news, cynics. All those annoyingly gleeful Facebook friends flooding your timeline with declarations of love, adorable embraces, and anniversary announcements really are as in love as their Facebook missives claim, according to recent research.

Published in the July 2013 issue of Social Psychological and Personality Science, the study found that people who post about the relationship on social media are more secure in their marriages than people who don’t post as often. And here all this time I thought they were overcompensating or just unaware of how annoying they were being!

The study found three main Facebook indicators of a happy offline relationship. First off, those who posted pictures of themselves with their significant other were more likely to report being happy in their relationship. People who reported a higher level of marital satisfaction and closeness with their partner were also much more likely to have posted a profile picture featuring their boo in the past year. And finally, on days when people felt more satisfied in their relationship, they were more likely to share relationship-relevant updates on Facebook. You know, like that time your grandma overshared about her still-going-strong sex life as a 90-year-old!

I can’t help but take these new findings with a grain of salt. After all, just a few days ago, researchers reported that excessive Facebook use can actually ruin romantic relationships, leading to Facebook-induced conflict. One study even found that as many as 20 percent of divorces now cite Facebook in filings, with sexually inappropriate chats with someone other than one’s spouse being the most pinpointed reason. And plenty of us have been the unfortunate witnesses to couples broadcasting relationship conflict on social media…and doesn’t that always seem to come from the couples who also frequently broadcast their undying love?

What do you think—do these new findings hold some truth, or are you skeptical that those so-in-love couples really are as happy as they claim on Facebook?

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120 comments

Patricia K.
Past Member 6 months ago

I don't agree that couples who post mushy posts from time to time & photos of their wedding day 2 years or more after their marriage are the happiest in their relationship. I think it is a sign of insecurity... Trying to convince themselves that their relationship is strong by publicly declaring their love for their spouse when they know in their heart they are struggling with their feelings. I personally know of a friend who has declared his strong connection to another woman & eventually had sex with her. He occasionally puts up mushy posts and gets very few likes for them. People can see thru posts like these.

Tim C.
Tim C.2 years ago

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Karen F.
Karen F.2 years ago

I don't happen to agree with the conclusion that people who make the most noise about how happy they are, are the happiest... with or without Facebook involved. I definitely know people who post many photos of themselves with their lover as a way to attempt to warn off potential interlopers or announce to someone who used to date a certain person, that THEY are the new lover. There are many reasons for posting on Facebook and we can't assume we know what they are or that those who post are being honest to us OR themselves. Nothing new under the sun.
Carole H... I laughed at your comment (very funny) and I feel the same way.

Charlotta G.
Lotta Green2 years ago

Couples showing off their love/children/houses/awesome holidays/purchases/instagram photos of coffee mugs etc are ANNOYING.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson2 years ago

I know that 90% of the people on MY feed are bitching about how unhappy they are, or how strained their relationships are, ect. The few who see genuinely happy hopefully are, since too many aren't. A lot of baby mama drama and the like

Denise Extence
Denise E.3 years ago

Mmmm

federico bortoletto

Grazie per l'articolo.

Susan B.
Susan B.3 years ago

I don't use Facebook, but an interesting article. Thank you.

Carole H.
Carole H.3 years ago

Wouldn't touch Facebook with a barge pole thanks

tiffany t.
tiffany t.3 years ago

interesting