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Tropical Moments and Other Joys of Menopause

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Tropical Moments and Other Joys of Menopause

Menopause is one of those strange times when the body takes over and does its own thing beyond our control. Deb knows the ups and downs of menopause from years of sleepless nights spent flinging off the bed covers, feeling bloated like a beached whale, or getting bitchy for no reason.

We recently talked with Dr. Mache Seibel, director of the Complicated Menopause Program at Mass Medical School: “Menopause is a window of time like puberty backward. Puberty is when there are great body changes, hormonal changes, raging feelings and things that are going on that you don’t understand, and menopause is when there are raging feelings and body changes, emotions and things that you don’t understand. Women spend at least ten years in menopause but the benefits last for years to come: no need for contraception, no fear of pregnancy, children are leaving or have left home so there can be greater spontaneity and freedom. In other words, women can go from making babies to making love!”

As a seasoned veteran, Deb has meditated her way through the changes: Meditation is the most important thing I ever did for myself, over and above all the Chinese herbs, yam creams, or other remedies. One of the difficulties with having hot flashes, for instance, is the incredible longing to get away from the heat, whether by flinging open windows or running outside in the snow, but often such activity just increases the heat. Very simply, hot sweats increase with stress and decrease with deep relaxation. Being or sitting still releases all resistance and enables the body to cool down more quickly. Meditation also shows us how all things do pass, including such intense physical discomfort.

“We don’t stop enough in life, there is rarely a pause button we can push,” says Mache. “Music would not be pretty if there weren’t some rests in between the notes and meditation gives us that spaciousness. Menopause is one phase of life while meditation transcends all phases of life. It realigns and regroups the cells, atoms are aligned, molecules re-ordered. People should try meditation for 3 minutes, then for 5 or 6, until they find a space that fits their day.”

Most especially, menopause is when we can drop all the labels and come into our own sense of who we are. It is a time for us to emerge! We may want to start dancing or rock climbing, become a poet, write a book or work for the homeless—whatever it may be, now is the time to just do it!

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You can learn more in our book, Be The Change: How Meditation Can Transform You and the World, forewords by the Dalai Lama and Robert Thurman, with contributors Marianne Williamson, Jane Fonda, Ram Dass, Byron Katie and others. Our 3 meditation CD’s: Metta—Loving kindness and Forgiveness; Samadhi–Breath Awareness and Insight; and Yoga Nidra–Inner Conscious Relaxation, are available at: EdandDebShapiro.com

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12:46AM PDT on May 1, 2012

Thanks for the article.

8:24PM PDT on Sep 20, 2011

Oh to add, also having sex, no worrys of pregnancy, well what about vaginismus? You dry out, no matter what lube u use, this is a big problem, penetration is very painful, in fact excruciating. Im glad im not with a partner now. and this is all along with thw wrinkles, the crepeness on ya arms, your bingo wings. Im sorry but im a perfectionist and i have always looked gud and wanted to keep looking gud but it just pisses me off that i think the guys got the better deal. nx time i pass this way i wanna be a man .

8:24PM PDT on Sep 20, 2011

Oh to add, also having sex, no worrys of pregnancy, well what about vaginismus? You dry out, no matter what lube u use, this is a big problem, penetration is very painful, in fact excruciating. Im glad im not with a partner now. and this is all along with thw wrinkles, the crepeness on ya arms, your bingo wings. Im sorry but im a perfectionist and i have always looked gud and wanted to keep looking gud but it just pisses me off that i think the guys got the better deal. nx time i pass this way i wanna be a man .

8:20PM PDT on Sep 20, 2011

I dont think theres one good thing about meopause, its not great, its a sign that your getting older and thats it. U start getting aches and pains u never had, your more at risk of cancer and heart attacks,. You go thru a traumatic time, your not in control, and you wonder whats happening to your body and mind. Its awful and horrible, well for me and i bet theres lots of women out there the same,. Sum women are lucky and sail thru it. I havent yet. Im 56 now.Its got slightly better but, every now and then something seems to change ,u have moments ,i mean a week or so where u feel and look diffrent.Its hard to explain. You cant go jetting off and doing all that stuff , what the above says, thats was what u shudda dun when u were younger and thats my opinion. We aint wonderwoman anymore.

8:29AM PDT on Aug 6, 2011

Thank you

9:08PM PDT on May 27, 2011

Nice song for all the red hot mamas. Humor helps too!
Yes, we can live life to the fullest at menopause! The best years are still to come. Thanks!

2:25AM PST on Jan 16, 2011

Thankyou for this, my herbal remedies are not working at all,I bought them for the hot sweats,which seem to have arrived with a vengence.like it says,going into the cold e.g.in the snow,makes them worse,triggers them too.
Im post menopause & have finally quit stimulants like smoking,alcohol,too much caffeine &keep getting the desire to do yoga.Im only 42,but it really does feel like time for a calm spell.Some sleep would help,so hopefully meditation will be the bit Ive missed!

11:47PM PST on Dec 13, 2010

Thanx

10:40AM PST on Dec 5, 2010

Flax seed is supposed to be fantastic ,it helps every cell in the body.

4:07PM PST on Dec 1, 2010

ruth a- true meditation can never disturb your mind

BUT

not being able to do it can cause frustration

Meditation is the greatest gift you can give your self - Be happy!

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