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True Story of Unconventional Wabi Sabi Love

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True Story of Unconventional Wabi Sabi Love

When love comes in an unconventional way, the ripple effect can profoundly affect family and friends. The adjustment from a typical marriage to a deep and meaningful same sex relationship is the perfect example of how helpful the Wabi Sabi principles are in real life. Wabi Sabi Love happens when you focus on the value of imperfection and the freedom in accepting your partner’s flaws. I can’t imagine greater pressure in the outer world than shifting to a same sex relationship.

I am grateful to Julia and Colette for the courage to step up and tell their story. Be sure to leave your comment — I am curious how many women can relate to this story.

Julia & Colette’s Story

Life was sweet. Nearly picture perfect. Julia and her husband of 20 years had a really fabulous life together. They had raised a family, had admirable careers, a wide circle of friends, traveled the world extensively, and participated in important philanthropic activities. She fully expected to spend the rest of her life with him.

Julia began working on a creative project with an old friend, Colette, with whom she had recently reconnected. The two women, opposite in so many ways, discovered that they were very much in sync and shared a very deep connection on so many levels. Gradually, they fell in love.

This initially wasn’t a problem for Colette, who had never married, and had been in several torrid affairs with women. But, for Julia, this situation was completely out of her comfort zone. The most frightening part for her was learning to trust her feelings as she entered this unconventional romance.

“I knew if I made the choice to be with Colette, my life would never be the same. I was falling in love with a woman, and I knew it would dramatically impact my friends and family.”

But, early in their relationship Julia had a premonition in which she knew she would have to say goodbye to her old life. It came in the form of a dream:

She was on a freeway, going in the wrong direction. All the cars were parting for her, much like the Red Sea. She sensed no danger, just a moment of suspension and calm.

When she approached a Jungian therapist about her dream, the therapist remarked, “I guess the wrong way is the right way.”

This dream became Julia’s Wabi Sabi moment. She knew her heart was speaking to her, giving her permission to accept that her feelings for Colette were real and true regardless of how it looked. On the deepest spiritual level, Julia knew this was the direction she was headed: a deeply loving, romantic partnership with a woman. She knew she passionately loved this woman and would pursue the relationship no matter what. In fact, she knew there was no turning back from the beauty and grace of two people falling in love.

Julia had previously been a bit of a people pleaser, always trying to make everyone else happy, making sure that they liked her, and doing the right thing. She admits that trying to hold on to all the perfection took enormous amounts of energy that she no longer had. As her new and unlikely relationship became known to those who loved her, all hell broke lose. She actually created a name for it: The Tsunami. At the same time, she knew in her heart of hearts that this was where she needed to be. She was in the midst of a “choiceless choice.”

And the benefits, ultimately, far outweighed the downside.

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Arielle Ford

Arielle Ford is a highly influential personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 25 years she has been promoting consciousness through all forms of media. Her stellar career includes years as a prominent book publicist, author, literary agent, TV lifestyle reporter, radio host, publishing consultant, relationship expert, and blogger for the Huffington Post. Arielle is the author of nine books including the international bestseller, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her latest book is Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships. She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. www.thewabisabibook.com

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8:15PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

What about her husband and children?

6:29PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

Thanks for the article.

5:26PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

3:43PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

I am very curious about the effect on Julia's family; it was a total turn around from a traditional marriage to a new love; what makes me feel curious is the fact she seemed to be happily married, so to start a relationship while she was still married is not cheating? I am sorry to be ignorant in this issue, just looking for some light in here; I always tought, before to start a new relatioship is fundamental to honor your vows and close the cycle before to start a new one, no matter with whom. Maybe I am naive or ignorant as I stated before, but want to learn more from this kind of experiences and be capable to see life from a diferent perspectve.

2:45PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

thanks

11:42AM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

She's gay, but, what about the rest of the family?

5:49AM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

Thanks

8:04PM PDT on Jul 18, 2012

I think this is a good article, but it concerns me that there was no mention of what this did to the husband and children.

2:15PM PDT on Jul 18, 2012

ty.

1:04PM PDT on Jul 18, 2012

thank you for sharing this heart-warming story. i'm curious to know how julia's family reacted to the change, whether they embraced her and her choices or not.

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