There is no “supposed to be” in bodies. The question is not size of shape or years of age, or even having two of everything for some do not. But the wild issue is, does this body feel, does it have right connection to pleasure, to heart, to soul, to the wild? Does it have happiness, joy? Can it in its own way move, dance, jiggle, sway, thrust? Nothing else matters.
–Clarissa Pinkola Estes, from Women Who Run with the Wolves.
A few months ago, I talked with a friend whose husband had died after several grueling months battling a debilitating illness. She told me, “Before he got sick, I used to obsess about my thighs and the size of my stomach and all the rest of it. Now I just don’t. My perspective has changed.”
Find out what my friend has learned about what a truly beautiful body is–it will inspire you.
“It was so hard watching what my husband went through,” she said. “He was such a strong man, and it was terrible to see him so thin and weak. But the whole thing taught me so much. For one thing, instead of worrying that my thighs are too big, I’m just grateful I can walk. The size of my stomach doesn’t matter: I can eat and enjoy my food and digest it. I realized how crazy it is to think about all that other stuff when I have a body that functions. All our bodies are beautiful.”