Trust And Believe

Trust means that you are offered the promise of safety and can accept it. Both parts are necessary Ė there has to be the offer of emotional openness and also the ability to accept that a safe haven is truly present.

The question is, where can any of us turn for trust? First you must trust yourself, finding enough security so you are not blocked from your own release. We all feel inhibited. It is embarrassing to cry out in anguish.

Look inside and ask yourself if you hold any of the following beliefs: Iíve been hurting so long that itís too late to change. Iím waiting for someone to notice my pain. My pain means that I am alive. I deserve to be this way. Why wonít someone rescue me? I am crying out to be loved. I am not meant to understand.

Each of these attitudes gives you a reason to prolong suffering and block its release. Every time you repeat these rationales, you thicken the walls that imprison you. You have the choice to hold onto these beliefs for as long as you want, but trapped energies become stronger the more they are repressed.

The cycle of denial and suffering has to be broken. In place of the negative beliefs that have thickened the walls of repression, begin to absorb those beliefs that make the walls thinner, even if you havenít fully accepted them yet. Each positive belief reverses a negative one.

It doesnít matter how long Iíve been hurting this way: I can change. Perhaps not enough people have noticed my pain and taken it seriously, but I have noticed, and that is enough. My pain doesnít make me alive, it shuts out countless possibilities by blocking them from my life. I deserved to be healed. I donít need rescuing; I need help. There is always someone willing to help. I may not understand what is happening to me now, but if I undertake the healing journey, understanding will come.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Elisa F.
Elisa F.1 years ago

This is one of Deepak's books that I haven't read. Great article...can't wait to read more :)

Patricia H.
Patricia H.3 years ago

Thanks for sharing

Atocha B.
Mary B.3 years ago


Brian Hamilton
Brian Hamilton3 years ago


heather g.
heather g.3 years ago

I always work on the basis of trust and communicate that way .... I have thought of myself as being naive at times after being caught out, but still want to continue being what I truly am authentically in the world

Wes Giesbrecht
Past Member 3 years ago

Not a bad excerpt. Nice change from the usual.

Ron Grubner
Ron Grubner3 years ago

Faith and trust go hand- in- hand. "Faith is the substance of things unseen " Without faith,there would be no trust .Faith gives the purpose,the goal,the belief,the realisation,the understanding and the acceptance.But trust enforces the reason because it removes doubt. Therefore the strength of trust determines the level of doubt remaining.Faith accepts existence but trust has to be earned.Both have to be earned and learned .Human nature always ensures differing levels of trust both on ones self and in another.Because of the realisation we have that we ourselves can fail,we understand the same truth in others.How much do we trust our own self ? What level of faith do we have to be able to trust that a goal can be accomplished or that we won't be let down and hurt which in turn causes trust to be diminished? Friendships are dependant on faith and trust. Lives can also be dependant on them.
Male and female are meant to compliment each other...not oppose . The differences between have a purpose but so often the purpose is abused and not observed. Faith and trust are lost and a division developes.The same principle of purpose applies right through society.The ways of dealing with it vary but first it means trusting ourselves before dealing with and trusting others.

Kathryn Fallon
Kathryn Fallon3 years ago

Excellent post, it should be read a number of times for its message to really sink in...

Becky Y.
Rebecca Y.3 years ago

When I was a Family Mentor in a very poor neighborhood, the teachers and principal would often ask me how I got through to the children and their parents. It was in all the ways that Mr. Chopra talks about in this article. I was never able to fully explain what happened to me as I listened to the kids and their parents but I believed they could do better and they trusted that I was there to help them. The gift of believing and trusting is a very important gift that I was given and was able to somehow use to help the children and their parents. I have so many stories to tell of the kids that began to believe again and trust in themselves. God has been good to me.

Lynn C.
Lynn c.3 years ago

Wonderful sharing by the members.