Valentineís Day is the most romantic day of the yearÖor is it? Mention Valentineís Day and visions of hearts, flowers, candy, fancy dinners, and dancing are sure to follow. If youíre feeling it, itís a wonderful day, but not everyone is comfortable with the idea of forcing romance into a prescribed day. Even some romantic couples prefer to skip the formalities. Besides, weíre not all paired up in romantic relationships. Some are happy about that, others not so much.
What to do on Valentineís Day is an easy decision for starry-eyed lovers, but what about those who arenít in a romantic relationship, or who arenít feeling particularly lovey-dovey this year? Well, thereís no law that says you canít simply ignore the day completely. Or, you can ditch all preconceived notions and celebrate Valentineís Day your way with these ideas:
1. Celebrate Your Friendships
Just because youíre without a romantic partner, it doesnít necessarily follow that youíre sad about that. Valentineís Day is a celebration of love, but there are many ways to love. Lots of single women choose Valentineís Day for a girlsí night out. Some dress to the nines, hit the town, and sip champagne. Others prefer comfy jeans and a night of karaoke, a movie, or just hanging out at home. If youíre fortunate enough to have good friends in your life, thatís something worth celebrating!
2. Share the Valentine’s Day †Love
What if you hate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps youíve loved and lost or you loathe the commercial aspects of a forced love holiday. The good news is that itís only one day out of the year. You can choose to boycott the day, or you can take your feelings of loneliness or grief or inadequacy or anger or indifference and turn the whole thing into a day of good will toward someone who could use a little good will. The possibilities are endless, but here are a few ideas to get started:
- Call or visit your grandparents or an elderly neighbor who seems alone.
- Buddy up with a fellow Valentineís Day hater whoíd like some company.
- If youíre not in the mood for fellow humans, how about showering some love on the residents of your local animal shelter?
- Donate blood ó winter weather can strain supplies and your donation can save lives. Now thatís a show of love.
- Investigate local charities and find one who could use your help.
- Perform a random act of kindness ó itís one of the best mood-lifters there is. It doesnít have to be anything extraordinary and you can even do it anonymously.
3. Ease the Pressure
Youíre in a relationship, but it hasnít exactly been smooth sailing lately. Thereís a chance that spending some time together in a romantic setting will rekindle the flame, but it could also be just plain awkward and uncomfortable. Itís a choice only you can make, but you donít have to give in to the pressure of the day. Allow yourselves to put it off for another time and take a cue from the list above. Doing something nice for someone else is a great way to let go of your own problems for awhile. It might even help you put your relationship in perspective.
Maybe youíre in a happy relationship, but you just donít get the whole Valentine vibe. Thatís okay, too. Happy couples donít need a special day to express love. Do whatever makes you feel good, without concern for what others may think.
4. Enjoy Some “Me Time”
Youíre an introvert, the kind of person who revels in solitude. You need your space! Not that thereís anything wrong with that. Why not use your alone time for some self-pampering? Set a nice dinner table for yourself, complete with candles and a bit of bubbly. Visit a spa, if thatís your thing. Enjoy your favorite foods, soak in a hot bath, curl up with your favorite book or movie ó and make no apologies for it. A little “me time” is a great way to energize your spirit and marshal your inner strengths.
Celebrating Valentineís Day together can be great fun for the whole family. Young children can get involved in creating special decorations and planning a special dessert. Choose a family-friendly movie, prepare some snacks, and gather around for some together time. Do something that makes you laugh. Take pictures. Take advantage of the opportunity to make memories. If thereís a romantic relationship in the home, you can celebrate twice.
It doesnít have to be all hearts and flowers. Your Valentineís Day, your way. Whatever you do, happy Valentineís Day!
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