Want to Feel Happy? Try This

When we read this quick tip for feeling happier, it made us smile. We tried it–and it really works. It is such a simple mind-tweak, but it is so effective. See for yourself!

If I am unhappy, I can restore my happiness by silently saying to whomever is before me: “I seek your peace. What am I not giving you? What can I give you now?” But if I am happy and want to be unhappy, I can think instead: “I seek my personal pleasure. What am I not getting from you? What do I need from you now?”

Adapted from Morning Notes by Hugh Prather (Conari Press, 2005). Copyright (c) 2005 by Hugh Prather. Reprinted by permission of Conari Press.
Adapted from Morning Notes by Hugh Prather (Conari Press, 2005).


Aud Nordby
Aud n4 years ago


Dale B.
Dale B4 years ago

One more important thing I forgot. I find it useful to make a list of all the things in my life that I am happy about. It's funny how the list gets longer and longer. I think because of the stress of everyday life we tend to forget the good things in our lives and it's good to be reminded of what we should be thankful for.

Dale B.
Dale B4 years ago

I wouldn't advice asking your kids "What can I give you now"? They usually don't need any help in that department.

I'm not trying to be pessimistic, but I don't find this advice helpful at all. I find happiness in helping people every chance I get. In my neighborhood, in stores or anywhere else I go I will lend a hand (a ride, a few bucks) to anyone who needs it. What's sad is how uncommon this is these days. I was at Sam's Club a couple months ago and saw an elderly couple looking at mattresses. I thought they were looking for an employee to help them load it on their cart so I offered to do it for them. The first thing they said is "Do you work here?". I said no but that has never stopped me from lending a hand when I see one is needed. Of course there are many people who will take advantage of me if I were to give them the chance.

Tatiana Velitchkov
Tatiana V4 years ago

Thank you for the great advice!

Tom Rose
Thomas R4 years ago

Short and sweet. Thanks.

Arthur Goh
Arthur Goh4 years ago

In short, be kind and be generous. And, when dealing with others, use your heart rather than your head. However, be cautious, for these virtues can often be misunderstood as your weaknesses too.

Joanne S.
Jo S4 years ago

Thanks Annie, will give it a try!

Emma S.
Emma S4 years ago

Really nice. Thanks, Annie!

Natasha Salgado
Past Member 4 years ago

Thanks for the good advice!

Monica May
Monica May4 years ago