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What Does Every Woman Want?

Love is a Weapon

Relationships help women to live longer than men, and married men longer than single men with the same cancers, but relationships are not meant to make you submissive or lead to an attitude of, “I’ll make this marriage or job work if it kills me.” Think of a relationship as an ordeal or a struggle. My wife does because she knows 1+1=3. That is when two people get together they create a third entity, the marriage or relationship of any type.

Relationships are work because they relate to creating a third entity and are not about personal benefits. How to decide what to do relates to your health. If the relationship is affecting your health then I would say to eliminate it and love from a distance. However, if your health is not at risk then ask yourself how could love resolve this dilemma? Love is a weapon I recommend. You can kill with kindness, torment with tenderness and become blind to faults, with love.

I learned the power of love years ago after an accident. I fell off our roof when a ladder broke and hit my head on the pavement. I developed amnesia due to the injury and it improved our marriage dramatically. When my memory returned I sought marriage counseling. The therapist handed me a piece of paper and said, “Read this and do what it says and save yourself a lot of time and money.” What she handed me was Corinthians 1:13. I have been working at it ever since and it has provided me with thirty five wonderful years of married life and thirty five out of fifty two isn’t too bad.

So construct your life out of the bricks of love but never forget to use humor as the cement which helps to hold the bricks together. I will also prescribe a dog or cat for you and do not ever let the child in you die. They will create healing relationships and teach you to live in the moment.


DR. BERNIE S. SIEGEL, a sought-after speaker and media presence, is the author of many books including the blockbuster Love, Medicine, and MiraclesPeace, Love, and Healing; and 365 Prescriptions for the Soul. He lives in Woodbridge, Connecticut.


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10:09AM PDT on May 4, 2012


8:22AM PDT on May 4, 2012

I so love the message. Thank You !

6:20PM PDT on Oct 3, 2011

EVERY WOMAN WANTS: a simple, calming bath... just some time to herself to soak and unwind. Candles, bubbles, and soft music. Afterwards, a soft bed and a cold class of chocolate milk.

9:31AM PDT on Sep 30, 2011


2:22AM PDT on Aug 14, 2011

good article, thanks.

7:12AM PDT on Jul 31, 2011

I don't get it. What is this? Bricks of love? WTH? Why can a female not be defined by her own essence? Now I need a relationship to be validated? Huh? I can tell you what this woman wants. For people to not try to burden her with moralistic nonsense.

5:06AM PDT on Jul 31, 2011

Women want ....a man with a job....a car....a house.....medicare.... IF he has this......THEN SHE WILL AGREE to go out with him to see...IF IT COULD WORK.........

Forget days....

This is what i see around me with young women and it is very wonder young men do not know where they belong any more!

1:05PM PDT on Jul 26, 2011


4:28AM PDT on Jul 24, 2011

I enjoyed the article still:

"What do women want'?" How about what do people want? I'd say men and women, as individuals wnat more or less the same stuff: Feel secure, happy and loved.

As for the 1000 times heard "do what makes you happy", I guess I'm in the unlucky bunhc of those few who can not do what would make us happy simply because, to put it blunt, sometimes someone has to take care of the mess and sometimes there is no one else to pick up the pieces but you.

Everyone would love to do what they want. But at least for some people, if they did, who would take care of their sick parents/kids, for example? The social welfare that doesn't cover for it? We'd all love to work in what we like. But what are we to do, drop the part time jobs we dislike when they're the only source of income right now? Force someone to hire us? MAybe we could if we were alone and with no further duties. But as if, for example, we have sick people who depend on us, we can't. That's life for many of us, and doing what we'd "love" is just not in the equation.

The article was sweet and well intentioned. But please, every once in a while,could we get some real advice instead of slightly unrealistic stereotypes?

10:12AM PDT on Jul 23, 2011


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I have always loved the idea of a green table! Those corks with the magnets are too cute!

Good to be reminded - you can never have too much fruits and vegetables.

What a wonderful idea - thanks for sharing.


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