What Will I Say to Oprah?
And Ė more immediately Ė it makes me wonder what Iím gonna talk about when my book comes out and Iím out there on the talk show circuit!
Canít you see me now? ďSo Oprah. Yes, I wrote a book called ďWhatís Up [bleep] [bleep]. Itís an empowering book committed to helping women learn to love their [bleep]. The way I see it, you have to love your [bleep] to love yourself. Most of us carry so much shame, embarrassment, and trauma in our [bleep] that weíve lost the ability to be truly joyful and vital. I wrote this book to demystify the [bleep], to educate women about [bleep] [bleep], and to remind you that youíre absolutely perfect, just the way you are. Iím here to tell you [bleep] RULE!Ē
Okay, so that didnít go so well. Maybe I need to paint a picture of a little green bush trimmed into a heart. Then whenever I need to use the word ďvagina,Ē Iíll just hold up my prop and smile. HmmÖ.
I’m Not Alone
Iíve discovered that women crave the opportunity to talk about vaginas. Wherever I go, women gather and tell me stories. When I teach workshops and join in community with women, they naturally recreate the Red Tent and talk about what makes them female. Maybe itís me. Maybe having a gynecologist best friend brings it out in women. But I think we need to get rid of this silly taboo and shine a bright Pink light on what makes us female.
Iím not alone in thinking so. According to a study conducted online in August 2009 by Harris Interactive on behalf of Kotex, among more than 1,600 North American women ages 14-35, 7 in 10 women believe it’s time for society to change how it talks about vaginal health, yet less than half (45%) feel empowered to make a difference.
In response to this, Kotex has launched a campaign to get women talking. Theyíve created a series of hysterical ads that poke fun at the whole sterility of feminine hygiene ads. (I mean really, people. Periods are messy. Get real. Own it!)
I say kudos to them. Letís tell it like it is. Letís get this party started. Letís say VAGINA. And letís change the way television (and the rest of the world) talks about what it means to be a woman. I mean, come on. Weíve all got Ďem. Thereís nothing dirty or shameful or icky about them. And donít forget. Vaginas make the world go round.
What do you think? Tell us how you feel. Does all this V-talk turn you off? Are you grossed out? Ramped up? Pissed off? Turned on? Come on. Get real. DishÖ