What’s the Big Deal About Sex And Orgasms?

Question: What’s the big deal about sex and orgasms?

So, what is the big deal about sex and orgasms? I recently came across this question sent in to the WTF? Questions You’d Ask Your Sex Therapist If Only You Had One post. Of course, if you’re trying to have a baby, the answer is pretty simple, but I didn’t think the questioner was really asking about the procreative aspects of sex.

My first personal reaction was “because it’s fun!” But then it occurred to me that I know people who feel guilty when they experience sexual fun, which makes it difficult for them to fully enjoy it, much less own their sexuality fully and freely. This struck me as too bad, and I got curious to see if there were other reasons to have sex – reasons that might help them overcome the guilt. I poked around a little and came up with some good stuff.

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Sex is Good For Your Body, Mind and Stress Levels

Sex is basically a form of exercise. Even if you’re not hanging from the chandeliers, your circulation increases, your muscles contract and – if you DO swing from the curtain rods – you’re giving yourself quite a workout. Your body pumps with endorphins. Basically, it makes you feel good. And just like your body feels good after a good workout or run, the same is true for sex.

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Kathryn P.

8:05AM PDT on May 2, 2012

I have known of men and women living monastic lives of celibacy who were long-lived. 105 yrs old. I challenge the Western established beliefs that one lives longer because of 'sex'. It is not the same to all people. Obviously there appear to be discrepancies between people as to the necessity or elevation of sex. It is not sacred or we would make altars and be displaying it there. It is not evil or no one would go to heaven who had participated in it. The deepest of emotions of love are not generated by sex, but a mixture of attraction and sensual pleasure. There are more sublime forms of love than this since this conditional love lasts as long as the body is young enough for it. Artificial enhancers or methods to prolong this condition is based on a shallow understanding of love. To die for another is the ultimate level. And if you are not 'willing' to forgo your personal pleasure for the sake of another, you have not experienced true love.

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Victoria L.

10:20PM PST on Dec 11, 2011

Pretty convincing argument but I doubt the validity of a few of those reasons...

December 11
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Abbe A.

4:04PM PDT on Sep 12, 2011

because you want to?

September 12
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Past Member .

10:45PM PDT on Aug 16, 2011

I suffer from Migraines and one thing I discovered is when one is coming on......having sex just makes it disappear!

August 16
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Lika S.

2:23AM PDT on Jun 28, 2011

Even if that earth shaking orgasm doesn't come through, for me, it's ALWAYS felt good, so, when it's an act of mutual agreement, go for it. When you have a good partner that you share your life with, it's the best kind, but, just make sure both people want it.

I've always said it's good for you, now I have proof. Thanks!

June 28
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Sarah L.

6:32PM PDT on Jun 26, 2011

There a good way and a bad way to have sex.The one way is with the person u love.The way is going out a having sex with everyone that u do not love.Sex is also a good work out to.I think it is.Have fun lol...

June 26
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Roisin S.

9:44AM PDT on Jun 21, 2011

sex is good with the right person but not the be all and end all of a relationship or of life in general

June 21
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Elisabeth T.

6:11AM PDT on Jun 21, 2011

Hurray....great article...

Lu Ann P.

11:15PM PDT on Jun 20, 2011

Except for #12 (Help carry a pregnancy to full term.) Not sure about its validity as sex is often discouraged for orgasm can bring on labor. With no other issues, orgasm could definitely help bring some good feelings, but I've never heard of it HELPING to bring to full term.

Otherwise, you forgot...
Makes one feel closer to the human being next to you (presuming, of course) and closer to the very fabric of the Universe!

;)

June 20
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Dawn C.

2:51PM PDT on Jun 20, 2011

Owning Pink is an advertisement for a young female gynecologist's business. The attacks on this dangerously factually inaccurate article may come from employees of a U.S. Physician Business Union like the AMA. It is the zeitgiest of the 40 something bosses today and their underlings. Mean and material girls rule with immaturity! Who would turn down a ski trip, boating excursion, ballet class, motorcycle ride, dream home or a zillion other items or activities, including children for some, for lack of coitus?