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What’s Up Down There? The TWEEN Years

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What’s Up Down There? The TWEEN Years

Iíve been fielding questions from tweens and their mothers as part of a corporate spokesperson role with UbyKotex, and for those of you with tween girls, I thought Iíd share what has come up!

I am getting pimples, crying for no reason A LOT, have hair under my arms and started discharging last summer, my body is ready but my period hasn’t come, is there a timetable?

Every girl going through puberty is SO different that thereís really no set timetable. Usually, once you start getting signs of puberty like acne, mood swings, underarm hair or pubic hair, or breast development, your period will follow within a year or two. But if your body is taking its own good slow molasses time, donít worry.

I know how frustrating it can be, especially if your friends are developing and getting their periods. Trust me — I feel you, sister. I remember how anxious I was to get my period because I felt so uncool and immature when my friends were developing earlier than me. But try to be patient and trust that your time will come. Itís normal to be as old as 16 when your period first starts, so as long as youíre younger than that, try to just relax and let it happen. If youíre older than 16 and still havenít gotten your period, see your doctor.

Iím 12, and I get so emotional sometimes that I just hate it. Is there something I can do to help this?

Feeling deep emotions is completely normal for someone your age. Not only are your hormones raging, but youíre growing up, and with that comes new responsibilities, challenges, physical developments, relationships, and other stuff that may stress you out. My mother called my 12th year my ďdoor-slamming year.Ē Apparently, I slammed a whole lot of doors. And then when I turned 13, it just magically stopped. I said, ďMom, youíve turned so much nicer,Ē and she just rolled her eyes. Like “Uh, honey — itís not me, itís you!Ē

If your emotions are swirling all month long, the best thing you can do is give yourself permission to feel your feelings. Cry if you feel sad. Get a pillow and smack it if you feel angry. Laugh if you feel joyful. Trying to hide our feelings only makes them worse. So feel them — and then communicate about them. Talk to your Mom, your BFF, or a therapist if you need one.

If your emotional swings only come before your period, talk to your doctor. It could be PMS (premenstrual syndrome) and there are natural remedies, as well as prescription treatments, that can help.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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2:54AM PDT on Jun 23, 2013

Thank you :)

11:07AM PDT on Aug 26, 2011

Good advice here.

1:36PM PDT on Aug 18, 2011

Good informational article.

2:18AM PDT on Jul 11, 2011

Thanks, good info.

My mother didn't take me to a gynecologist... I actually had to see a primary, when I was in college.

This is one of those times I'm glad I have a boy. We've had a couple of talks already, and will have another one soon.

2:17AM PDT on Jul 5, 2011

Thank you for all this advice, I'm going to stock it up for when I'll be needing it ... in about 6 or 7 years.

6:56PM PDT on Jul 2, 2011

You may want to consider that not all girls are excited about puberty. The physical changes we go through are purely that- physical. To tie these changes, which are beyond our control, to aspects of cultural "womanhood" that girls may never have considered may make some feel embarrassed and defiant, as if cultural expectations are now taking over in others' perceptions of them, rather than who they are as people. This was the case for me. I would have preferred to be given facts, and never have heard anyone extrapolate about aspects of culturally-conceived "womanhood" that (still) have nothing to do with who I am.

8:16AM PDT on Jul 2, 2011

My girls are still young (8 and 3), but when they start showing signs of puberty I intend to supply them with a care package of reusable organic cotton pads and a menstrual cup. At the same time, I will give them a demonstration of how to use each of the products. I hope that in giving them access to and knowledge of these things early on, they will be better prepared than I was when I first got my period. My mother left me completely in the dark on the whole subject. I had to learn what was happening and how to care for myself from a teacher in my middle school.

12:19AM PDT on Jul 1, 2011


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