Iíve been fielding questions from tweens and their mothers as part of a corporate spokesperson role with UbyKotex, and for those of you with tween girls, I thought Iíd share what has come up!
I am getting pimples, crying for no reason A LOT, have hair under my arms and started discharging last summer, my body is ready but my period hasn’t come, is there a timetable?
Every girl going through puberty is SO different that thereís really no set timetable. Usually, once you start getting signs of puberty like acne, mood swings, underarm hair or pubic hair, or breast development, your period will follow within a year or two. But if your body is taking its own good slow molasses time, donít worry.
I know how frustrating it can be, especially if your friends are developing and getting their periods. Trust me — I feel you, sister. I remember how anxious I was to get my period because I felt so uncool and immature when my friends were developing earlier than me. But try to be patient and trust that your time will come. Itís normal to be as old as 16 when your period first starts, so as long as youíre younger than that, try to just relax and let it happen. If youíre older than 16 and still havenít gotten your period, see your doctor.
Iím 12, and I get so emotional sometimes that I just hate it. Is there something I can do to help this?
Feeling deep emotions is completely normal for someone your age. Not only are your hormones raging, but youíre growing up, and with that comes new responsibilities, challenges, physical developments, relationships, and other stuff that may stress you out. My mother called my 12th year my ďdoor-slamming year.Ē Apparently, I slammed a whole lot of doors. And then when I turned 13, it just magically stopped. I said, ďMom, youíve turned so much nicer,Ē and she just rolled her eyes. Like “Uh, honey — itís not me, itís you!Ē
If your emotions are swirling all month long, the best thing you can do is give yourself permission to feel your feelings. Cry if you feel sad. Get a pillow and smack it if you feel angry. Laugh if you feel joyful. Trying to hide our feelings only makes them worse. So feel them — and then communicate about them. Talk to your Mom, your BFF, or a therapist if you need one.
If your emotional swings only come before your period, talk to your doctor. It could be PMS (premenstrual syndrome) and there are natural remedies, as well as prescription treatments, that can help.