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When Is It Time To Make A Change?

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When Is It Time To Make A Change?

Several years ago, I ended a very rocky off again/on again relationship. I quit eating meat. A couple of years later, my daughter decided she didn’t want to eat meat anymore either. My wife, who never ate much meat anyway, followed suit too.

My charming son, who previously preferred potatoes and pasta to animal protein, no questions asked, has now declared himself the resident carnivore – the proud and mighty meat eating man of the house. I suspect the renewed commitment to meat consumption reflects his quest to define himself, the lone male, in a household with three girl people, three girl cats, and one neutered boy cat, who he tells me “does not count for the boy team, because we had him fixed”. So, testosterone driven or not, we support him in his life as a meat eater, and he supports us in ours.

Several months ago, I gave up crack, I mean sugar… again. After more than two years without the poison, I’d “relapsed” and felt sincerely mortified to find myself deep in the throes of a toxic relationship with it once again. That is always a good sign that you should stop eating something, when you realize that you not only have a “relationship” with a food, but that you describe it as toxic. Never a good sign, but if there is uncertainty, look for other signs you need to give it up. For example, how often have you had a hysterical fit of crying and screaming because someone used the last of the milk, without warning you or replacing it, leaving you with a dry bowl of Fruity Pebbles? If the answer is more than zero, you might want to give it some thought…

While I have no energy for the debate about whether one can be “addicted” to sugar or not, my relatively recently established policy prohibiting “toxic relationships” forced me to put down the spoon and walk away from sugar for good. Yes, I miss cake but there really isn’t anything that tastes better than sanity feels. I’ve resisted forcing my dietary choices on my family and friends, perhaps excessively so, and the living by example thing works slower than I ever imagined. It’s just me, living sugar-free, and while it is a difficult choice at times, I live with certainty that it is best for me (and everyone who encounters me).

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Christy Diane Farr

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10:09AM PST on Nov 28, 2012

thanks for the article

1:55AM PDT on Jul 17, 2012

Another timely article for me. I've been pushing some "changes" to the back of my mind for some time now--I guess it's time I listened to that "still, small voice"--thank you.

8:17PM PDT on Jul 16, 2012

Thank you for that. Yes, I have conversations in front of the fridge, asking "what is it you need"? aside from moments of amnesia while eating ice ream or chocolate pudding

8:07AM PDT on Jul 16, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

9:27PM PDT on Jul 15, 2012

Listening to my intuition...yep, feel the fear and do it anyway.

2:27PM PDT on Jul 15, 2012

Its time to change when you feel like you are no longer moving in the right direction.

3:49PM PDT on Jul 14, 2012

interesting, thanks

1:42AM PDT on Jul 13, 2012

Very nice and inspiring, thanks!
I'm thinking about eating less animal products (I don't eat meat already), but... Well, there's always this "But".
I probably couldn't (or wouldn't want to) quit them completely, but I make sure to buy organic and free-range.

4:55PM PDT on Jul 12, 2012


4:29AM PDT on Jul 12, 2012

thanks for sharing....just recently i have given up meat and very happy about my decision knowing that I am not eating an animal that has been slaughtered for consumption in the horrific ways I have read. It is a mind over matter decision and I truly can say that I have a happier feeling from within.

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