My partner and I have always been well matched sexually and even after years together we still enjoy an expanding intimate connection. The problem is I donít know where my sexy went. My partner isnít complaining, but it is hard for me to find the mood when I feel like I have no sex appeal. Do you have any advice about how to find my mojo?
Feeling sexy is one of the most highly coveted forms of self-confidence that we can experience.† So desired is the feeling of being desirable, most major advertising uses this motivation to sell us everything from toothpaste to soft drinks to cars. And yet acquiring the products has little correlation to that spark that ignites in us when we are feeling ourselves, being ourselves and have full confidence in our sex appeal.
Remember the times when you were crossing the street in your pajamas to get the paper and just strutted with the arousal you knew you were exuding? Or at other times, when you are sweaty and† have messy hair after a workout class but still† stride home immersed in your own attraction.†† Compare this to the times when we spend hours perfecting our makeup, straightening or curling the hair, taking the tags off of a ridiculously expensive dress, but sexy is hiding.† The self-conscious has taken over.
Lacking sexual self-confidence is one of the biggest libido killers and surprisingly affects both men and women. Many studies name insecurity about body image, weight or general appearance as one of the top distractions in our ability to enjoy sex. For even more people it is these same insecurities that step between them and the confidence that allows us to explore and exude our sex appeal.