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Wisdom from Michele Howe

Wisdom from Michele Howe

We are mistake-makers. It is part of being human. Every day, more accurately, every hour, we err. Whether in areas of judgment, precision, or skill…individuals forget to read an entire report, they overlook a deadline, or rush to the next task without first checking their calendar. In short, we are error-ridden folk. This we have in common.

The difference lies in how we handle our mistakes and how we respond to the transgressions of others. Do we write people off, cut them from our life (personally and professionally)? Or in the midst of the heat, do we look for some way to salvage the situation and thereby offer a lifeline to the offender?

As people prone to creating tangled webs of problems (intentionally or not) we have a decision to make. On this barely subconscious level, each person decides whether to offer someone the benefit of the doubt or not. In short mental steps of succession, we’ve already judged and juried another’s transgression or we’ve offered forgiveness.

Depending upon the person who’s harmed us (or our project, objective, feelings or ego), we decide. How we determine to lend some measure of compassion or grace is generally a multifactor proposition. Did we enjoy a good breakfast? Have that second cup of coffee? Was the ride to work uneventful? Did our inbox contain the messages we anticipated? Or none of the above?…Continue reading at

Michele is a women’s health and lifestyle writer.

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3:13PM PST on Nov 11, 2011

thanks Gail

10:31PM PDT on Sep 28, 2011

Well, YOU may have extended trust and been rewarded with a response that was good for both parties. It doesn't always happen for me. In fact, too many times, that trust was looked upon as a weakness and an open door for abuse. Depending on the person (not a cup of coffee, or whether I slept well the night before) I may be able to understand and give that trust again - as you say - no one(!) is perfect, and an incident can be overlooked or worked through. But if it's obvious that the person has no intention of honoring the unspoken agreement that is part of the relationship, then it's adios from me.

Oh boy, I see many lifetimes ahead for me. I've got a long way to go until I can be like the great teachers of the world and deal with others in total love and understanding.


12:54AM PDT on Sep 25, 2011

Thanks for the article.

12:15PM PDT on Sep 23, 2011

How I love this post---it's ok to not be perfect--we are all human, and we must learn to forgive ourselves!!

6:45AM PDT on Sep 23, 2011

Good advice.

10:47PM PDT on Sep 22, 2011


4:45PM PDT on Sep 22, 2011

It isn't what happens to us that counts. It's how we react to what happens that really matters in life.

1:43PM PDT on Sep 22, 2011

Good reminders-especially for those of us who have a hard time forgiving ourselves. Thanks!

12:31PM PDT on Sep 22, 2011


12:30PM PDT on Sep 22, 2011

How true, x

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