The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. - Elisabeth Foley
I wish I had more time for friends. Friendship is a magical thing, when we engage in it and I have to admit, this one left my heart aching a bit. I realized last fall that over the last couple of years, I sucked at some of the friendships that mean a great deal to me. Ironically, it’s not only that I haven’t been there for them (which, in fact, I hadn’t been and that sucks) but that I also haven’t been the me that I am when I’m being a good friend. As a life coach, I spend lots of time connecting with incredible women but it’s almost always about work. I missed playing with my friends and while I’m still not the rock star friend I intend to be, I’m showing up more and more and it feels good.
Give yourself the same gift. Once a month, have Indian food with a group of carefully chosen women who make you laugh so hard you cry (I learned that from my friends Laura and Susannah.) Email a friend who lives far away just to tell them about how something made you think of them today (like my friend Allison does). Make beautiful treasures and send them for no good reason (or for a good reason, if you have one) like my friend Suzanne’s rainbow makers. You could send a cd like my friend Jaime does, when you know that a friend needs a pick me up. (Try anything by Florence + The Machine but specifically “Dog Days Are Over”, which I once listened to again and again until a serious spell of desperation passed.) Or you could just pick up the phone and call, even if you don’t have the hour or two it will take to truly catch up (like I will be doing this week with my friend Dave). Or you can just marry them, which is what I did with my best friend.
There are so many options. Do anything you have within your means to reconnect with your community.