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Our emotions are often stuck at the childhood level, when we were not allowed to experience them fully. Clinical psychologist Doris E. Cohen explains that the child part of us actually takes over our adult nervous system, recreating the same unhealed fears we were unable to fully work through as children. The purpose of this is to bring healing into the unhealed places. An example would be a woman who, at the age of three, was abandoned by her father. Whenever she begins a new relationship, she begins to feel a sense of impending doom—the work of her inner three-year-old. And then she ends up sabotaging the relationship and repeating her abandonment. Nothing changes until she catches herself engaging in this repetition and learns how to comfort the frightened child within her who has been unconsciously running the show.

In this culture, which teaches us to split our adult intellectual knowledge from our emotional reality and needs, one can have a Ph.D. from Harvard but an emotional body that is only two years old. The emotions of a frightened or angry two-year-old, if unexpressed and unacknowledged, become energetically stuck in childish patterns. Emotions that are expressed, felt, and named, on the other hand, simply flow through our energy system, leaving no residual unfinished business. Once stuck emotions are expressed and released, we must also acknowledge that we are no longer children. It’s time to put our adult selves in the driver’s seat of our lives.

We do not have to wait to develop cancer or other diseases in order to get the message that we need to change our vibrational point of attraction and begin creating health. None of us is completely free from the fear, anger, and stress that come and go as part of normal life. When these emotions become intense enough to affect our psychological and emotional well-being on a regular basis, we are heading for physical illness unless we resolve them in a healthy way. When our daily unresolved pain, anger, and frustration rob our bodies of vital health-producing energy, it is essential to bring healing and understanding into our daily thoughts, emotions, and actions.

Here is a crucial point: It is completely possible for a woman to go through her entire life free from physical illness even though she was abused, beaten, or neglected as a child. Early childhood problems do not necessarily cause energy disturbances and physical illness. Often these problems occur only after a woman begins to develop as an individual and form her own identity and opinions separate from those of her family and her tribe. From this vantage point, she often realizes that what happened to her as a child was not acceptable. However, she is realizing this from the perspective of a mature individual, not of the child she was then.

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6:40AM PST on Jan 3, 2011

I do something similar, when I have a day that stresses me to the point I can't sleep, I think one by one of the people who really care about me. Whether I've seen them recently or not, the people who always love me. It refocuses me on the positive and wraps me in a warm circle of love and light.

5:14AM PDT on Aug 3, 2010

I agree with the blockages.....I have a blockage from my past that weighs heavy on me,however, I cant just tell my spirit to come back....I must heal from it to beable to overcome it. Then my spirit will be free from the energy leak.

3:52PM PDT on Jun 24, 2010

Great article. If more people would take responsibility for their lives, what a bonus that would be for the planet and evolution.

5:24AM PDT on Jun 22, 2010

Would love to have this book!!!

8:30AM PDT on Jun 21, 2010

I remember with pleasure the moment when, an adult, unfortunately, I learned that I am a whole being and that i not only have the right but the duty to love and forgive myself. How can I transmit this to as many children? My heart bleeds when I see children who suffer because they are not at ease with themselves.

12:47AM PDT on Jun 21, 2010

Healing is hard, even after forgiveness. forgetting the hurt is even harder. This article has given me some new hope.

10:43AM PDT on Jun 20, 2010

This is a very intriguing concept. I have trouble applying these concepts in my own life. Also, I worry that we will blame the person (or ourselves) when we are not able to fully heal. Peace.

9:03PM PDT on Jun 15, 2010

I hope that some day ...soon...the concept of energy and how we can help our bodies to heal will be mainstream and not just a novel ideal. I believe this is knowledge we lost long ago, not new stuff. Thank you for helping us to remember.

11:47AM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

Northup's book is seminal! Everyone woman should have a copy, including me!

11:10AM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

An interesting book indeed. Am looking forward to reading all of it!

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