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Hurts and wounds from a woman’s past do not become potentially devastating to her, physically or emotionally, until she gets the idea that what happened to her in the past was wrong, that it shouldn’t have happened, and that she was abused purposely and consciously by her family members. No one should be abused in any way. And anyone who was abused was entitled to better. No one would disagree with this. But very few of us had idyllic, pain-free childhoods. Abuse is remarkably common in part because the human race hasn’t had much experience with allowing positive energy and joy into our lives for very long. We have a central nervous system that, for centuries, has been wired to expect and react to conflict—which we are also masters at creating until we recognize this pattern and change it. That’s where our power lies, always.

Regardless of what has happened to us in childhood, it’s our job to feel, transform, and heal our wounds. To thrive, we must become sources of health and healing so that we can break the chains of pain that run in our families. Part of thriving is avoiding toxic blame and resentment that goes on for years. Energy disturbance and subsequent illness result from past abuse only if a woman is unable to work through her emotional and psychological pain with forgiveness and understanding for herself and others—even for those who caused the abuse.

Forgiveness doesn’t preclude anger, however. Feeling rage and anger from past violations is a necessary first step toward healing. Anger mobilizes and energizes us to make long-overdue, life-enhancing changes. It’s far preferable to the stasis of depression. The key is to feel that anger and then move on. Anger and blame are a necessary stop on the road of life, but they make a lousy destination. The longer we stay in this mode, searching for a perpetrator to blame for what happened to us—be it men, our mothers, the government, or doctors—the more our bodies are energetically depleted. I’ve learned how to recognize the poisonous effects of righteous indignation in my own body. Getting stuck in this energy for a long time becomes self-destructive.

Our early family life clearly has a profound influence on our character and health. Nevertheless, our bodies and minds are self-renewing. Writing a new script for ourselves changes our biology. We can decide to heal ourselves and move on.

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Adapted with permission from Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, Bantam, 2010.

This information is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease. 
All material in this article is provided for educational purposes only. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you have regarding a medical condition, and before undertaking any diet, exercise, or other health program.

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6:40AM PST on Jan 3, 2011

I do something similar, when I have a day that stresses me to the point I can't sleep, I think one by one of the people who really care about me. Whether I've seen them recently or not, the people who always love me. It refocuses me on the positive and wraps me in a warm circle of love and light.

5:14AM PDT on Aug 3, 2010

I agree with the blockages.....I have a blockage from my past that weighs heavy on me,however, I cant just tell my spirit to come back....I must heal from it to beable to overcome it. Then my spirit will be free from the energy leak.

3:52PM PDT on Jun 24, 2010

Great article. If more people would take responsibility for their lives, what a bonus that would be for the planet and evolution.

5:24AM PDT on Jun 22, 2010

Would love to have this book!!!

8:30AM PDT on Jun 21, 2010

I remember with pleasure the moment when, an adult, unfortunately, I learned that I am a whole being and that i not only have the right but the duty to love and forgive myself. How can I transmit this to as many children? My heart bleeds when I see children who suffer because they are not at ease with themselves.

12:47AM PDT on Jun 21, 2010

Healing is hard, even after forgiveness. forgetting the hurt is even harder. This article has given me some new hope.

10:43AM PDT on Jun 20, 2010

This is a very intriguing concept. I have trouble applying these concepts in my own life. Also, I worry that we will blame the person (or ourselves) when we are not able to fully heal. Peace.

9:03PM PDT on Jun 15, 2010

I hope that some day ...soon...the concept of energy and how we can help our bodies to heal will be mainstream and not just a novel ideal. I believe this is knowledge we lost long ago, not new stuff. Thank you for helping us to remember.

11:47AM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

Northup's book is seminal! Everyone woman should have a copy, including me!

11:10AM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

An interesting book indeed. Am looking forward to reading all of it!

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