Write a Love Letter to Yourself

Do you constantly criticize yourself? Are you filled with negative self-judgment? If so, you are not alone–most of us suffer terribly from lack of self-acceptance, especially during the Valentine season when everyone is talking about love–but often not feeling much self-love at all! But there is a powerful, loving, healing antidote at hand. When we write an open-hearted letter to ourselves (and you actually mail it and receive it in the mail), we connect with the compassionate Witness Self who sees our struggles and our inner essence and loves us unconditionally. We know people who still reread the letters they wrote to themselves many years ago, and every time they do they find such deep comfort.

This may well be one of the most moving and helpful activities that you ever do. Find the simple directions here, and let the healing begin:

First, find a time and place where you won’t be disturbed. Bring a piece of paper, an envelope and stamp, and a pen with you.

Take a few moments to close your eyes and simply notice your breath and any sounds you can hear where you are.

Now gently bring your attention down from the place behind your eyes, where most of us keep it, down through your throat, down into your heart center. Imagine what that heart center looks like. Is it a safe nest? A warm cave? A glowing temple? Imagine that, in this heart-place, there is a wise and compassionate Witness Self who knows you through and through and who loves you deeply and completely.

Open your eyes and begin to write yourself a letter, writing as the Witness Self. You may choose to write about your triumphs, your challenges, your shining qualities, your deep desires–but every word is filled with respect and admiration for the strong, radiant being you are, seen with limitless love by the Witness.

When you are finished, fold the letter and place it in the envelope, seal it, and address it to yourself. Put the stamp on and, when you have a chance, drop it in a mailbox. When the letter arrives, take a few minutes when you know you won’t be disturbed, find a private place, and read the letter carefully. You may find that you are moved to tears by it; allow your feelings to flow. Thank your inner Witness Self for understanding you so well, refold the letter and put it back in its envelope, and keep it where you can reread it and take its message of love to heart whenever you have need.

By Cait Johnson, Assistant Producer, Care2 Healthy Living Channels.


Sheri J.
Sheri J4 years ago

"The most challenging relationship is one that you have with yourself." - Unknown

Janine J.
Past Member 4 years ago

great idea. thank you for sharing this self-love tool. it's appreciated.

Duane B.
.4 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Dale Overall

Interesting concept as it can help bring comfort to oneself especially when one is feeling down on oneself or the world in general. We are kinder to others than ourselves. Every now it is helpful to send a few kind messages our own way as we are always sending them out to our friends, family and we get lost in the shuffle. Often some of us send ourselves very negative messages.

Am not sure what Teresa W. has been smoking-what in the world are you going on about? Of course she was at a health topic article regarding the subject of orgasm and complained that Care2 was promoting pornography. Since it is a natural human function, hardly as the subject was tastefully conducted.

But going to a site about writing a love letter to oneself and state that she hopes that the person writing this article that: "I hope that she is not propagating masturbation" is just strange. Okay?...can't say that I saw anything about that in writing a gentle and kind letter to oneself. Did I miss something here? Or is being positive to oneself somehow interpreted in a negative fashion? Sorry to go on about this but cannot see how that assumption even came about.

A lovely article about simply being kind to oneself and bringing some inner peace to your busy and hectic day.

Winn Adams
Winn A4 years ago

Interesting and thanks.

Nimue Pendragon

Interesting idea.

Holly Lawrence
Holly Lawrence5 years ago

I have a beautiful husband who writes me love letters!

Elizabeth C.
Elizabeth C5 years ago

Cait, this seems like it would be a powerful tool for connecting with one's self, and that is one of the four types of connection that I believe are essential for happiness and success. I explore the Power of Connection in my blog (Heartspoken.com).

I would love to post this as a guest post on my blog, with proper accreditation of course, in early February as people are thinking about Valentine's Day. Would you consider this? If so, let me know at riverwood50@gmail.com.

Lucy M.
Lucy M.5 years ago

Wow! So many people of struggling with their own fears,worries and inadequacies which can and does affect their relationships with so many. I heard many years ago, from my pastor that was so respected by many who has passed.."the only one standing in your way is yourself".

Zee NoPetitions Kallah
.5 years ago

I'm my own best friend.

I give myself a wink in the mirror and say, "Honey, you cool!"

If I get mad at me I talk to me about it. And me talks back.

It's important for conscious self and subconscious self to be friends and love each other.

Ask my Kahuna. That was one of the first things he taught me, to forgive myself and accept forgiveness from my self.

If the subconscious mind and the conscious mind can't love each other and get along, there's not a chance of making it with the Higher Self.

My kahuna taught me: The subconscious mind can open or block the way to communication with Higher Self.

Sub can also make you sick!!!

My kahuna taught me, it's a wise person who talks to herself and it's an even wiser person who talks back.

Hey, them guys walk on burning coals and never say ouch!