Do you constantly criticize yourself? Are you filled with negative self-judgment? If so, you are not alone–most of us suffer terribly from lack of self-acceptance, especially during the Valentine season when everyone is talking about love–but often not feeling much self-love at all! But there is a powerful, loving, healing antidote at hand. When we write an open-hearted letter to ourselves (and you actually mail it and receive it in the mail), we connect with the compassionate Witness Self who sees our struggles and our inner essence and loves us unconditionally. We know people who still reread the letters they wrote to themselves many years ago, and every time they do they find such deep comfort.
This may well be one of the most moving and helpful activities that you ever do. Find the simple directions here, and let the healing begin:
First, find a time and place where you won’t be disturbed. Bring a piece of paper, an envelope and stamp, and a pen with you.
Take a few moments to close your eyes and simply notice your breath and any sounds you can hear where you are.
Now gently bring your attention down from the place behind your eyes, where most of us keep it, down through your throat, down into your heart center. Imagine what that heart center looks like. Is it a safe nest? A warm cave? A glowing temple? Imagine that, in this heart-place, there is a wise and compassionate Witness Self who knows you through and through and who loves you deeply and completely.
Open your eyes and begin to write yourself a letter, writing as the Witness Self. You may choose to write about your triumphs, your challenges, your shining qualities, your deep desires–but every word is filled with respect and admiration for the strong, radiant being you are, seen with limitless love by the Witness.
When you are finished, fold the letter and place it in the envelope, seal it, and address it to yourself. Put the stamp on and, when you have a chance, drop it in a mailbox. When the letter arrives, take a few minutes when you know you won’t be disturbed, find a private place, and read the letter carefully. You may find that you are moved to tears by it; allow your feelings to flow. Thank your inner Witness Self for understanding you so well, refold the letter and put it back in its envelope, and keep it where you can reread it and take its message of love to heart whenever you have need.