You Are Loved

God or spirit stands beside us in every aspect of our everyday lives. If you can begin to see how your notion of spirit has been shaped by your early childhood, you can start to look at love as a mirror of the present instead of the past.

This is a key concept: When you fall in love, you fall for a mirror of your own most present needs.

The intense desirability of another person isn’t innate in that person. Desire is born in the one who desires. If your underlying self-image is that of a helpless, unloved child, any show of power arouses incredible yearning in you.

There is nothing wrong with this – we all project similar needs in our search for love. Nor is there anything wrong with a bedazzled state of infatuation. Each affair, real or imaginary, has a repeated message to offer: “You are loved.” It is the simplest of messages, but often the hardest to absorb. For spirit isn’t saying, “You are loved as long as your passion for this person lasts.” It is saying, “You are loved,” without any qualifications.

There is infinite patience in spirit, infinite willingness to wait upon our attention. And one day, in your own time, you will notice.

Each person that you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are. This isn’t solipsistic but a natural reflection of your needs. You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge – there is only you as the Self, looking at you from a different angle.

The Self looking at you is the primary relationship you bring into all situations. Realizing that, you will start to reduce expectations for other relationships. Your healing will be to fall in love with that Self.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

65 comments

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W.4 years ago

No. I'm not. I was indeed an unloved child, but my mother loves only MONEY. Whenever I said I felt unloved, she would dowplay it by saying that none of my friends had as many clothes as I did, because she bought me lots of clothes, most of which I hardly ever wore, but she had an argument to manipulate me with.

autla l.
autla l.5 years ago

thanks

charmaine c.
Charmaine C.6 years ago

Nice and thanks Beng Kiat.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.

the lionheart l.
.6 years ago

As I was growing up spoon fed by the television's depiction of what love is and will be if you follow those life stories. It was glamous and positive and so untrue. It may have been someones desire made into film but realities are far different. So in removing those flawed views what is the real answer to love and relationship? Oh yes; I found in following the televisions presentation of love and relationships, lead down a road of dissappointments, failed expectations and a mind shattered with the results of the venture.
Recalculating my course I found, to love one's self was part of the equation, build one's self in ones own image with self confidence, know your talents and gifts and enjoy them yourself and these things will attract the opposites to you. Attraction to the point that you have choice of many and not a few. What I also learned is; the danger of unspoken desire. Even though it is just a unspoken thought, it is a powerful thought because some where in time that desire can become reality and the person you wanted to meet and date happens in real time. I also learned to protect your soul from what it intakes. The mind is a recording device and very active to the point that even if you didn't want it to happen it would replay those scenes to you until you are it. I turn my eyes away, my ears away from things I don't want to enter my soul and become apart of me. The wrong things can progressively destroy a person.