You Are Loved

We need our “ordinariness” deemed special. Write down this sentence: Spirit loves me for simply being here. If you can begin to believe this one thing, the man/woman you attract as a lover will hold the same attitude.

Each affair, real or imaginary, has a repeated message to offer: “You are loved.” It is the simplest of messages, but often the hardest to absorb. For spirit isn’t saying, “You are loved as long as your passion for this man/woman lasts.” It is saying, “You are loved,” without any qualifications.

Each man/woman you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are. This isn’t solipsistic but a natural reflection of your needs. We all project similar needs in our search for love. You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge. There is only you as the self, looking at you from a different angle.

The self looking at you is the primary relationship you bring to all situations. Realizing that, you will start to reduce expectations for other relationships. What do you really want from men/women? Security, well-being, a since of belonging? These are all available to you from your own self, and your healing will be to fall in love with that self.

Adapted from The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

100 comments

Emma S.
Emma S3 years ago

Thank you for this. It always seems to me a weird paradox that, when we stop seeking outside ourselves, when we stop being 'needy', we most seem to attract love.

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Danielle I.
Danielle I4 years ago

So true - Thanks :)

Patricia H.
Patricia H.4 years ago

All We Need Is Love.....

Elaine A.
Elaine Al Meqdad4 years ago

You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge. There is only you as the self, looking at you from a different angle.

Ah....The message I live. Like the locket around my neck. I peek in at it often to ensure it is still there AND intact!

Joyce Elisan
Joyce Agas4 years ago

im wounded.. nowhere to go ., nowhere to be found..
why i let this happen.. will i ever surpass this sadness..
the past still haunts me..
still jerking in my sleep ..i just hope darkness leaves.

Dee D.
Dolores D4 years ago

Thanks for letting me know

Rosie Lopez
Rosie Lopez4 years ago

love love love!!

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W5 years ago

Love doesn't exist!

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W5 years ago

Self-love? Do you mean masturbation? :-P