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You Are Loved

posted by Deepak Chopra Jul 16, 2008 3:00 am
You Are Loved
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We need our “ordinariness” deemed special. Write down this sentence: Spirit loves me for simply being here. If you can begin to believe this one thing, the man/woman you attract as a lover will hold the same attitude.

Each affair, real or imaginary, has a repeated message to offer: “You are loved.” It is the simplest of messages, but often the hardest to absorb. For spirit isn’t saying, “You are loved as long as your passion for this man/woman lasts.” It is saying, “You are loved,” without any qualifications.

Each man/woman you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are. This isn’t solipsistic but a natural reflection of your needs. We all project similar needs in our search for love. You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge. There is only you as the self, looking at you from a different angle.

The self looking at you is the primary relationship you bring to all situations. Realizing that, you will start to reduce expectations for other relationships. What do you really want from men/women? Security, well-being, a since of belonging? These are all available to you from your own self, and your healing will be to fall in love with that self.

Adapted from The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Sandra Weisz

what does one do when they are surrounded by predatory types that are vicious , cruel , hurtful, and have no concience? even sending word missles via e-mail, so that i don't even want a computer anymore. i guess just change venues. they say not to take anything personally, it's all projection anyway, but some of the abuse is very very personal. some ultra mean ppl enjoy the suffering of others, which is sadistic, and one can only run away. but usually it's after the damage is done. and also sadists, or extreme bullies, make themselves feel better by trying to dig a hole under an innocent person. their ego is too big, and the real truth is their superiority complex is really a very bad inferioity complex, much worse than someone that just feels inferior, or shy and timid

Mary Walsh

Love....if you really love yourself in a healthy way then loving others follows on....that would be my idea on the subject. Connecting to the inner lover in yourself....a love affair with yourself...I have found that if you have a least on person in your circle of friends who really loves in the true sense...then keep as much company with them as you can and you will learn more about it. Giving other people the gift of themselves is also love.

Thank you Deepak for your inspiration on love....love is the key!

Anita Balazs

What is the reality in it, when I got a disclaimer, when I got a message: Don't call me I'm not alive for you ?? And I love him...

Richard R.

Maybe he brought you into his world to show himself that he is worth the love you have to give him a very special gift for you to be able to do that for people who can at times seem unloveable and feel unloved.

Blessings

Richard

Richard R.

Maybe in that tiny moment that person who has an alcohol problem really could use the love you have to give them, maybe you are their reminder of the love that awaits them instead of that bottle.

Have a great day

Lorelei Whitaker

Awesome words, resonating with the truth deep in my soul. Thank you.

Emerald Jordan

"...each man/woman you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are..." How does this relate to the person who loathes alcohol, and yet often find themself attracted to someone who is battling an alcohol drinking problem?

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