You As Decision-Maker

Don’t obsess over right and wrong decisions. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.

If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. This isn’t a correct assumption because the universe is flexible- it adapts to every decision you make. Right and wrong are only mental constructs.

Go beyond risks. You can go beyond risks by knowing that there is infinite intelligence at work in the hidden dimension of your life. At the level of this intelligence your choices are always supported. The point of looking at risks would be to see if your course of action is reasonable. People who can assess their choices at the deeper level of awareness are aligning themselves with infinite intelligence, and thus they have a greater chance for success than does someone who crunches the numbers.

It is hard to let go when you don’t know if you have made the right choice in the first place. Doubt lingers and ties us to the past. It is important not to make critical decisions when you are in doubt.

The universe supports actions once they are begun, which is the same as saying that once you take a direction, you are setting a mechanism in motion that is very hard to reverse. When you are in doubt, however, you put the universe on hold for a while. It favors no particular direction.

Keep in mind that you are the choice-maker, which means that who you are is far more than any single choice you have ever made or ever will make.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2004).

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Jane H.

11:11AM PDT on Jun 13, 2011

I am nearing the end of my life and I attest to the truth of this post....please younger people trust your decision-making. Risks and decisions I made have all turned out well for me!! But I certainly wasn't sure of that at the time.

send a green star

helen s.

12:00PM PDT on Jun 11, 2011

Christy S. I'm with you on this one. Totally agree.

Shirley Z.

7:10AM PDT on Jun 8, 2011

I have learned some great lessons from making the wrong decisions, so they may have been the right decisions after all. The problem is some people never learn from mistakes. Also there are people in this world that will never let you forget and move on. They wallow in the pleasure of reminding you. So sad for them. They will not accept that you have "grown up", taken responsibility, and changed. I guess some people have no forgiveness in their hearts, or their lives are so bad that they have to point fingers at you to cover their own insecurities.

Jennifer C.

12:38AM PDT on Jun 7, 2011

Great article. To make to Best Decisions we can. Thanks!

christy s.

12:20PM PDT on Jun 6, 2011

I'm so tired of this kind of "positivity". I'm 64 and I pay every single day for the wrong decisions I've made. I think comments like this give people a false sense of having more control over their destiny than they really have and make people like me feel even more guilt because I can't just "let it go".

teresa m.

9:39AM PDT on Jun 6, 2011

Great Post! Thanks.

Ji H.

9:35AM PDT on Jun 6, 2011

You are on target, Julie Dawson! I cannot agree that it is not a bad decision when a person decides to do harm to other living beings. Yes, all decisions require some sort of sacrifice and have consequences.

Wioletta S.

11:49PM PDT on Jun 5, 2011

thanks

Parvez Z.

11:28PM PDT on Jun 5, 2011

Thanks for the article

Francine P.

2:24PM PDT on Jun 5, 2011

so right however, some decisions mean taking the long way which is not always the best plan. However I do not gireve over the bed decision knowing that there is always something to learn. I does require patience and staying centered, not so easy to do in some situation.

Thank you for this article.