“I know this is going to sound like an insanely ridiculous thing for a wife to say, but I would appreciate it if you would stop doing the dinner dishes.”
Well that actually does sound like an insanely ridiculous thing for a wife to say to her husband, but I said it nonetheless. It was another baby step in my overall plan to take back the life that MS would destroy if I allowed it.
After the diagnosis of multiple sclerosis, physicians, pharmaceutical companies, hospitals, and MS patient-advocacy groups unleashed a mountain of printed material and videos upon us, and we set about the task of learning all we could. Even prior to diagnosis, our suspicions of MS lead us to online research. We began with well-known and well-respected medical sites, then gravitated toward something less formal but slightly more tangible — other people with MS.
Hard research and doctors’ advice are valuable tools, but nothing helps you to understand the reality of life with MS better than people who are living it. Although the stories are varied, the kinship and the lessons to be learned are invaluable. The common theme is that people are living with MS, not merely existing. I wanted to join that crowd.
So back to why I asked my husband to stop doing the dinner dishes. Some of my symptoms were quite severe. My limbs didn’t want to cooperate and I was perpetually fatigued, but my husband willingly took up the slack. Giving in to this thing would be the easiest thing in the world, but I knew in my heart that would not be wise. I decided to get myself back in the driver’s seat of my own life.