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Your Emotional Debt

Your Emotional Debt

On the surface, everyday life has become much more comfortable than ever before. Yet people still lead lives of quiet desperation. The source of this desperation is repression, a sense that you cannot be what you want to be, cannot feel what you want to feel, cannot do what you want to do.

A creator should never be trapped in this way. No authority looms over you to enforce repression; it is entirely self-forced. Any part of yourself that you cannot face puts a barrier between you and reality.

Yet emotions are entirely private. Only you know how you feel, and when you stop censoring your emotions, the effect goes far beyond feeling better. Your aim is not to experience only positive emotions.

We all owe emotional debts to the past, in the form of feelings we couldn’t allow ourselves to express. The past isn’t over as long as these debts go unpaid. You don’t have to return to the person who made you angry or afraid, with the intention of revising how the past turned out. For that person, the impact can never be the same as it is for you.

Every hidden, blocked feeling is like a chunk of frozen consciousness. It is another obstacle between you and the silent witness that must be dissolved. Time and attention have to be paid, sitting with your feelings and letting them say what they have to say.

The purpose of getting rid of emotional debt is to find your place in the present.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2004).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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12:38PM PDT on Oct 24, 2013

'Your aim is not to experience only positive emotions.' When I first read that, I felt a little sad. But, after some thought, I've decided there's something liberating there...

9:53AM PDT on Apr 21, 2012

"The source of this desperation is repression, a sense that you cannot be what you want to be, cannot feel what you want to feel, cannot do what you want to do."

That's because American "society" brainwashes people in fairy tales. They are told as children that they "can be anybody they want to be" and that's a lie. Only a handful of people ever realize their dreams, yet "society" holds out that carrot enticing everybody to
keep dreaming, keep hoping for totally unrealistic goals. First off we are brought up in
superstitious "religions" complete with fairy gods, imaginary "angels" and pie heavens.
This BS gets topped off with Hollywood movies with "happy endings". Dumb people fall for this happy horse manure until they grow up and realize they have been lied to their whole lives. The truth is, you CAN'T be what you want to be, you CAN'T do what you want to do
99% of the time, because you really DON'T have that much CONTROL over your life. It's the RICH PEOPLE WHO RUN THE WORLD WHO CONTROL OUR LIVES. And WE don't OWE any emotional debts to anybody, THEY OWE US, because THEY are the ones who LIED to us. If our OPPRESSORS would not have REPRESSED US, we wouldn't be REPRESSED RIGHT NOW. This is just another article blaming the VICTIM.

7:34AM PDT on Apr 21, 2012

good perspective

3:44AM PDT on Apr 21, 2012

This is the great thing about have to be honest in order for it to work.

10:27PM PDT on Apr 20, 2012


4:27AM PST on Feb 19, 2012

Thanks for the article.

1:34PM PDT on Sep 30, 2011

thank you

11:35AM PDT on Jul 17, 2011

I have a huge emotional debt that I hope to "pay down" soon. Carying it around with me has really had a negative impact on my life and general outlook. Thanks.

12:32PM PDT on Apr 27, 2011

Carry a lot of it if you were born Catholic as I was.

4:58AM PDT on Oct 1, 2010

I just went through a situation where I cleared out some emotional debt. I didn't even know I had it, but now that I have gone through the process it is surprising I missed it. A lot of emotional goals I was struggling with seem to take less effort now. I am glad that I was able to dislodge this hidden root, and I recommend this process for anyone.

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