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Your Love Relationship

Your Love Relationship

It has become a truism that to receive love we must give love. This reciprocal action keeps the flow of love alive. Without it love would stagnate. Learning to give runs contrary to some very deep conditioning that we all carry around inside, however.

We have all learned to hold on to a good thing. Letting go of anything precious is hard. Loving people have taught themselves that holding on is possessiveness. Anyone who has ever been trapped in a possessive relationship knows its smothering effect. It isnít love when another person cannot give you the space to live your own life.

Love is experienced in relationship. Without someone to love you, the feelings of love–the warmth in a motherís heart, the gladness of friendship, the excitement of intimacy–have no stimulus. That is why the commonest image for being unloved is being alone.

When you are alone, there seems to be no relationship. People who find themselves alone rarely feel any incentive to explore love. They await contact with another person or turn out to seek it. Thus we become dependent on other people to make us feel totally and permanently loved.

This expectation will, however, always be defeated, and although we blame those who failed to respond to us, who responded but then left, who stayed but then changed their minds, none of them is finally the cause of our problem.

The cause is our inability to develop an unshakable relationship with ourselves. The Self is the source of love. People who live their own love stories have learned this lesson above all.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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5:07AM PDT on Jul 4, 2014

We anteaters are cleverer than that.

5:06AM PDT on Jul 4, 2014

weird enough

2:53PM PDT on Jul 3, 2014

Thanks for sharing

7:39PM PDT on Mar 20, 2014

noted

3:31AM PST on Mar 7, 2014

thankyou fr sharing this great article

9:02PM PST on Feb 18, 2014

thank you fr sharing

12:21AM PST on Feb 12, 2014

thank you for sharing :D

11:52PM PST on Feb 4, 2014

thnx :)

3:08PM PST on Nov 6, 2013

Bottom line..Be true to yourself

3:52PM PDT on Sep 4, 2013

Love exists in and of itself. My interpretation of Dr. Chopra's essay is that for us to experience love, we just need to acknowledge its universal presence so it is there even when one is alone.

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