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Your Sexual, Creative Impulse
In our culture “good sex” is usually defined in terms of technique and performance. We overlook that sex is a creative act, which doesn’t need to be critiqued or evaluated.
Sex is creative when it produces a new feeling, insight, or experience. In this exercise some of these possibilities are explored. Look at the following list of experiences. Put a check by any you have had at least once during sex. These are suggestive phrases, to be interpreted as you wish–your own perception of bliss, carefreeness, playfulness, and so on is all you need to go by.
Delighted laughter; sense of timelessness; ecstasy; warm flow in the heart; merging with partner; floating sensation, as if the body disappears; warmth or visible light flowing up the spine; loss of ego; carefreeness; playfulness; nonattachment to your performance; complete letting go; expansion; sense of wholeness, safety, belonging; blessings; bliss; acute awareness of self or surroundings; unbounded love; contentment; peace in the center of your heart.
Now look back over your answers; the experiences you have checked indicate your spiritual horizon. That is, you have learned to use sexual energy to create these experiences.
If you have some only once, these are the envelope of your inner growth. The experiences you have had more than once, especially if recently, indicate the growth you have already integrated into your loving personality.
Go back over the list and mark experiences you haven’t had but think could happen next. These are your spiritual goals. Your desire for them is enough to bring them about; on your inner landscape you are already working toward them.
With spiritual growth comes new creative potential–which can take the form of sexual expression–leading to the realization that you are pure potential, able to fulfill any creative impulse.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
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add your comment »Well some of are very religous. Not that Paganism or Witchcraft is recognized by Christians as a legit, or ever will be. That doesn't make all pagans sexual explorers, but without punishment they are at least more fun to be with.
I understand Judy's viewpoint, but I also understand why a lot of those rules were written. Guys liked guys just as much as they liked girls. And not all men wanted to father children.
Well how can you raise an army with that attitude right? Thus laws "from God" forcing men into straight baby-making roles.
None of the Gods or Godesses I know mind sex one bit. ;)
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Judy -
How narrow your world must be. Any God that would forbid his creations from enjoying life is a cruel, inconsiderate and hateful god. Being unhappy,unfulfilled and constantly forbidden to have enjoyment was thought of by humankind. It is meant to control people through fear. If that makes you feel "holy" then by all means, go for it. Your God is not my God, in fact, to be perfectly honest - there is no God, per say. Common sense, education, being kind to others (animal or human) is not purely a religious thing. I don't need fiction to make me a good person. Also, there is no hell, that was written in the Medieval times to control the people and make sure there was always money coming in to the priests. I have read better stories in children's books than what is in the bible. And talk about sex, the bible is full of it. Along with murder,rape, animal abuse, incest, war. The list goes on. Believe what you will if that helps you sleep at night. But know this, there are many more people out there that don't believe as you do. If we need to respect your views, then you should respect ours. We sleep perfectly well!
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Great post from Deepak and mostly great replies--I especially liked what Bob C says--could not agree more!
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Um, Judy, you just implied we all have to live by your moral code. It works for you and that is wonderful, but there is no one true way to handle sexuality.
Since you aren't the type to experiment, free spirits are no threat to you. God can take care of Himself, you know.
Why is it every sex talk devolves into "good" vs. "evil"? Also please don't assume people with freerer sexual mores don't love their partners.
Oh, and if your partner is skilled enough, the first time doesn't hurt a bit. Sorry you got a less than considerate lover for that.
Brenda, unless I invented watching DVDs and reading online stories designed for pleasure I ain't that creative either. ;)
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Judy P writes, "I guess we're living in the age where the Bible tells us evil is considered 'good' and good is considered 'evil'."
I think we're living in an age in which millions of people are taking absolutist positions in a world that is full of infinite colors and shades of gray, while at the same time millions of others think much more freely. Whoever/Whatever created this multicolored, multifaceted, and multicultural world saw fit to season it with people having all manner of different beliefs, attitudes, and mores. Why not honor each other's inherent nature and cultural values rather than insist that everybody live by exactly one code?
To those of you who want to remain virgins until marriage, by all means do so!
To those of you who want to experience sexual union as soon as you feel ready, by all means do so!
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I suppose Danielle is such a modern day free spirited she is not sensitive to those who obey God rather than man. Some people want to keep their morales in check. Nothing at all wrong or unfulfilling to me. It's going to be painful under any 1st time situation, so why knock someone who waits until they are married? If their partner is OK with them being virgins then the Lord is pleased with them both. I'm tired of people pushing thier behavior off on to others like what you did in putting the cart before the horse was so great! I guess we're living in the age where the Bible tells us evil is considered "good" and good is considered "evil".
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I haven't been very "creative" in a long time but still I am very happy. ;)
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Good point Charles. Cockroaches have more rights in the film industry than porn stars do. Hey if folks are doing a job, they have to be safe.
Street level workers too. Heck it used to be a sacred process, something temple workers were proud of.
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Without sincere mutual love, sex turns into mutual masturbation.
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A bit of freedom of expression for sex workers and respect for their work would cetainly help remedy some of the deficiencies in opportunity plus elevate appreciation for biodiversity of experience.
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