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Another Young Rape Victim of Football Players Bullied


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Kit
- 646 days ago - alternet.org
Connecticut 13-year-old is sexually assaulted by 18-year-old athletes, then taunted on social media.



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Kit B. (276)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 12:43 pm
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Two football player high school students in Connecticut are charged with the second-degree sexual assault of a 13-year-old girl. The allegations come amid other complaints of hazing at the school, but Torrington High School officials insist that these are individual instances and not a part of a larger cultural problem.

But whether or not the alleged rapists Edgar Gonzalez and Joan Toribio, both 18, are maverick sexual assailants isn’t really the cultural question. Rather, the fact that students in the neighborhood and the school have taken to Twitter blame the young girl and not the alleged rapists highlights a broader rape culture that assumes men are only haphazardly involved in sexual assault, but it is usually the victim’s fault:

“If you look at crime statistics these things happen everywhere and we’re not any different than any other community,” said [Athletic Director Mike McKenna].

But on social media in recent weeks, dozens of athletes and Torrington High School students, male and female, have taunted the 13-year-old victim, calling her a “whore,” criticizing her for “snitching” and “ruining the lives” of the 18-year-old football players, and bullying students who defend her.

The Connecticut Register-Citizen highlights some of the offensive tweets about the girl:

“I wanna know why there’s no punishment for young hoes,” asked “@asmedick.” That comment was reposted three times.

Twelve days after the alleged incident, “@AyooWilliam” tweeted, “You destroyed two people’s life.” Another responded, “I hope you got what you wanted.”

“Sticking up for a girl who wanted the D and then snitched? have a seat pleaseeee,” wrote “@ShelbyyKalinski.”

As the case in Steubenville proved, social media has brought a whole new slew of evidence to sexual assault allegations, particularly among young people. Unfortunately, the lesson some news outlets take from this is that Steubenville was “ a cautionary tale for teenagers living in today’s digital world.” In reality, social media helps to underline a very real problem: A victim-blaming rape culture that is inclined to take the side of the assailant instead of the victim.

(HT: Raw Story)


By Annie-Rose Strasser | Think Progress | alternet |
 

Kit B. (276)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 12:47 pm

When is someone with national prominence going to step up and begin the needed dialogue for people to again understand that RAPE is not a joke, not the fault of a victim, it is a crime of violence. That a 13 year old child and yes at 13 they are children, could be subjected to this crime and be tortured again by school chums is something that should be a call to arms by those with any sense of decency.
 

Rose NoFWDSPLZ (283)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 6:18 pm
They make me sick
 

JL A. (276)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 7:27 pm
And the social media element sounds like it fits the definition of cyberbullying and/or harassment where charges should be brought. Sad the newspaper didn't take the highroad in pointing all of this out.
 

pam w. (191)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 7:35 pm
Their parents must be so proud!

Grrrrr.

When are athletic directors, school administrators, teachers and coaches going to stand with the victims instead of their ''stars?"
 

Kit B. (276)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 7:50 pm

Yes, the news and the school administrators should, No must begin to take this as seriously as they would if it was their own child.

There is glory in being a "celebrity" when it is used to cover up a crime.
 

Kit B. (276)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 7:51 pm

There is NO glory in being a "celebrity" when it is used to cover up a crime. (typo correction)
 

Betsy Bee (1038)
Thursday March 21, 2013, 9:26 pm
Victimize the victim. What else?
 

Many Feathers (134)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:56 am
Shamefull and disgusting
 

Gloria picchetti (300)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:02 am
It's sickening but more sports players are going to go to jail. And it's about time. I feel sorry for young people today. We were never like that in school and we didn't have media to taunt others.
 

Michael Kirkby (86)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:15 am
The problem begins with parenting. Today's children for the most part [there are a lot of good kids out there too] are raised with little or no values; believing they can do anything without repercussions. The second fault lies with the schools themselves who go to the mattress to protect their star athletes at the expense of justice and fair play.
Don't they remember what Bundy's mother said? Not my little Teddy; such a good boy who loves his mother. He'd never do anything like that. The same principle that applied to that cheap, empty suit applies here. I wonder if the all the people who have criticized the victim and pilloried her would feel the same way if it was them in her position or if it happened to their sister.
 

paul m. (93)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:54 am

should be tracked by eyespy
 

Dandelion G. (383)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:55 am
I'm so tired of this outdated attitude that a woman, girl, female, by mearly being in the room or presence where ever she may be is available to have a crime committed upon her by the males of society. And that when they act out in a disrespectful or cruel manner that someone all should be forgiven, that boys will be boys, and she had wanted this crime placed upon her.

And the women who are going along with this line of thinking you need to think about this for it is one of the reason that women are in burqa's, to keep the lusting eye of men from acting out on their impluses towards you. Now if it is that route you want to go down you too could enjoy being covered from head to toe. However I think that it is the man that needs to keep his actions in control.

My feelings on the issue are written out upon another thread that Carole placed on C2 concerning the Steubenville rape case.
Shame on CNN Please sign Petition

Fire football coach Reno Saccoccia immediately. Reported evidence shows that he knew about the rape perpetrated by Trent Mays and Ma'lik Richmond, yet did not report it -- in direct violation of Ohio law.

Please sign this Petition too.

Fire Steubenville Coach for knowingly protecting rapists
 

Dandelion G. (383)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:59 am
typo above....that "someone".....should read "somehow".
 

Kit B. (276)
Friday March 22, 2013, 10:04 am


Fire Steubenville Football Coach Reno Saccoccia - signed and tweeted! Thank you, Sheryl for the petitions and your words.
 

Sandra Patterson (61)
Friday March 22, 2013, 10:26 am
signed and noted
 

Shanti S. (0)
Friday March 22, 2013, 12:25 pm
Thank you.
 

Dianne Lien (77)
Friday March 22, 2013, 1:18 pm
""In reality, social media helps to underline a very real problem: A victim-blaming rape culture that is inclined to take the side of the assailant instead of the victim."" This is down right offensive! Where is the compassion, the understanding, what have we as a society come to?
 

Beth M. (244)
Friday March 22, 2013, 3:08 pm
My blood is boiling! Jail time for those who committed the rape rape and for ALL of those blaming the victim!!
 

Val R. (254)
Friday March 22, 2013, 3:11 pm
Terrible -
 

Yvonne White (233)
Friday March 22, 2013, 4:46 pm
Why are these bullies still allowed Internet access? Stalkers, bullies, and even Trolls (one step above rapists, but Probably rapist enablers!;) CAN be Denied Internet Access by the Service Providers!
But since the social Media is about as clueless & indifferent as MainStreamMedia, it probably WON'T shut down bullies..so Real Citizen's who don't want to be promoting Rape had damn well better start protesting and Firing Rapist Enabling Teachers & Administration and for pity's sake go to PTA meetings and set some Fires!!! Are ALL these "parents doing ANY Parenting???? This crap is getting deep & ALL of us suffer for this depraved indifference to Morality - you don't need to be "Christian" to KNOW society is harmed by this kind of sickness.
 

Dandelion G. (383)
Friday March 22, 2013, 5:39 pm
Aho Sista!.....You got girl and you tell it like it is and should be. Stand up against this crap.
 

Yvonne White (233)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:11 pm
I got the pitchforks & torchs - who's got the tar & feathers?
 

Dandelion G. (383)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:12 pm
Us natives we always got lots of feathers.....
 

Kit B. (276)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:17 pm

Sheryl has the feathers, I have the tar...let's get busy.
 

Joy McR (136)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:25 pm
II'll help you with the tar and feathers Kit, Sheryl and Yvonne, this is just so sick, makes my blood boil..
 

Kit B. (276)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:47 pm

We have a gang of angry women. Oh watch out boys!
 

Dandelion G. (383)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:52 pm
"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." - William Congreve 1670-1729

 

Yvonne White (233)
Friday March 22, 2013, 7:54 pm
"I'll cut you man"..Can't remember the person/time when I first heard that, but I use it ALL the time!;)
 

Wendy C. (27)
Friday March 22, 2013, 7:56 pm
Thank you!
 

Lynn Squance (219)
Friday March 22, 2013, 11:03 pm
Aren't these boys just being boys?

Rape is an act of violence, not a sex act and it MUST be seen as such. No matter whether the young 13 year old girl took a provocative action or not (and I am NOT saying she did), at 18 years, these two football players should have known the difference between right and wrong. Instead, they listened to their brains between their legs!

As to other teens coming out in support of the athletes and shaming the girl, they are all idiots and need to stand back and appraise their own morals and ethics. Is it any wonder such shaming is going on when you have highly visible national figures such as the repugnant Limbaugh doing the same thing? It is the young victim that deserves all the support.

Personally, I hope these two boys get prison time, not jail time, but prison time. They are the one's responsible for ruining their own lives and that of the victim, not the victim. I also hope that the teens doing the shaming etc are blacklisted from social media.

Kit, Dandelion and Yvonne --- why don't we invite these 4 little boys (Steubenville and Conneticut) and have a weenie roast! They are bringing the weenies!

Sorry if my last comment offends anyone, but this culture of rape/recording/shaming is an epidemic and has to stop.

 

Veronica C. (46)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 8:10 am
There is a really sick mentality with young boys these days. The kids from Steubenville didn't realize what they were doing was a crime? They thought it was okay?!? Something has to be done to change the mindset of boys/men, but I really don't know how anyone is going to get through to them. And I really can't wrap my mind around the GIRLS bullying the victim after these things happen!!
 

Susanne R. (249)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 8:56 am
This country needs to rethink its current trend of idolizing athletes. In some cases, such adulation goes to the athlete's head and makes him feel as though he have a free pass to do anything. And schools and students who get so wrapped up in their teams and their so-called heroes seem to lose their common sense, compassion and ability to see what's right and what's wrong. What's wrong with the bystanders who defend the evil-doers and even go so far as to demonize the victim? Is their self esteem so low that they live vicariously through their poorly chosen heroes? As a parent and grandparent, I'd be ashamed of a son or grandson who behaved like these athletes did. But I'd also be ashamed of a daughter or granddaughter who blamed the victim and made her life even more difficult. I hope the parents of all those involved are setting their children straight...
 

Kit B. (276)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 11:06 am

By having a conversation about whether or not to allow abortion for rape victims, or discussing the details of the rape, while also fretting about the future of the rapist. Are we allowing the needed or essence of what should the point of the dialogue to be derailed? Should our discussions be about how to teach first that a human body whether male or female should not be an object of shame nor abuse but something to be respected. Could it be we have forgotten to teach our children that NO means no. That when they see a crime, it is not entertainment, but cause for alarm and that it should be reported, sure record it, take pictures, and turn that evidence over to the police, not the Internet.
 

Robyn Bashaw (1)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 1:32 pm
I wonder if this says more about the country's view of rape victims or its obsession with football athletes... Sad either way.
 
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