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A Gunman, Recalled as Intelligent and Shy, Who Left Few Footprints in Life


Society & Culture  (tags: society, culture, family, ethics, crime, violence, sadness, safety, humans, americans, media, news )

Carrie
- 735 days ago - nytimes.com
He carried a black briefcase to his 10th-grade honors English class, and sat near the door so he could readily slip in and out. When called upon, he was intelligent, but nervous and fidgety, spitting his words out, as if having to speak up were painful.



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Carrie B. (318)
Saturday December 15, 2012, 4:51 pm
How many times have we heard similar descriptions? We, as a society are not taking care of our own. That includes a "gun enthusiast" mother who overlooks a son's emotional problems.
 

Barb Knight (1682)
Saturday December 15, 2012, 5:49 pm
Carrie, in a way the mother is responsible....she shouldn't have shown him how to use guns!! And, she should've gotten help for her son....MENTAL son!!
 

Chris C. (151)
Saturday December 15, 2012, 7:39 pm
Such a terrible sadness in my heart!
 

Rose NoFWDSPLZ (281)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:25 am
TRAGIC
 

Rose NoFWDSPLZ (281)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:27 am
I wonder if he was bullied? which is no excuse for what HE DID
 

Carrie B. (318)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 3:13 am
If we had stricter gun control, perhaps this would not have happened.
 

Edwin M. (356)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 4:19 am
Gun control and mental health programs that were cut long ago might have prevented this tragedy.
 

Elizabeth M. (68)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 7:53 am
I was very surprised that this young man's mother had the gun collection, she had the responsibility to keep them locked up and secure. She must have know that her son had some emotional problems, and sought help for him.
Never the less they were both responsible for this horrific tragedy, that will effect so many for a long time.
 

Debbie Williamson (276)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 12:36 pm
read
 

Jean C. (18)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 1:29 pm
Blame the parents.
 

Shae H. (0)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 1:29 pm
I find it very hard how this article talks about Nancy Lanza being "very involved and very hands-on" with her sons. We're talking about a 20 year old who had psychological issues, and if Nancy was so very "hands-on" with her son's condition, this wouldn't have happened in the first place. Period.

Something tells me there's going to be a lot more stuff dug up about how Nancy raised Adam and how her care with him pushed him to the edge. It's hard to find compassion in someone who slain defenseless babies in this world (and there certainly is no excuse for it), but I do not feel sorry for Nancy Lanza in the least. Keeping weapons at home, unlocked and accessible to someone who knowingly has a mental illness is very irresponsible for a gun handler. When you push somebody over the edge enough, dire things are going to happen.

Bless these families who can even find the courage to pull through this tragedy, this is such a shame on every single end.
 

Paul Wellman (1)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 1:40 pm
I would like to inject a little here.
First I am neither a Right Wing Nut or A Left Wing Nut.
I have been around firearms, of all kinds, all my life. I am 64 years old. I am definitely a “gun enthusiast”.
When this old Left Wing chestnut would come up about the restriction of firearms (after whatever the current tragic event that would stir it up) my back woods Okie family would say “Guns Don't Kill People! - People Kill People!” then laugh at these silly people. I still believe that.
I urge you to read again The New York Times article about Adam Lanza. Hear the facts about Adams obviously painful life experience and total lack of intervention by ANYONE even though there is much talk of the recognition of many such problems by everyone (it seems) that knew him.
How can that be???
Violence is a disease and if we can't put out enough heart and resources to recognize and treat this disease I fear for our society.
As for the Left Wing Nuts that are stirring up this tired old “gun nut” story....
Shame on you for using legitimate grief and sorrow to stir up more hatred and fear to promote your silly ideas. That is definitely NOT what is needed.
 

Virginia Esquer (8)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:01 pm
guns and mental disorders don't mix is like a bomb ready to explode.
 

Gloria H. (88)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:27 pm
Did the father have any connection with his son? Did he walk out on his sons and forget his life long responsibility to be at least emotionally there for his children? Once you create a human life, there is some sort of tie or door that needs to be open. You can't just wish them away. That is the heart responsibility- a blessing or curse of being "a parent".
 

Angelika R. (144)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:41 pm
I hope it is not too late to get back on the right track after your society has allowed a culture of violence to grow too far for too long.
 

Jacqui Gill (0)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:49 pm
How many of these tragedies have to unfold before SOMEONE has the BALLS to bring about a STOP to it. I am almost convinced there's something in the water table there that triggers these actions in the USA. WHY ONLY IN AMERICA... very few other countries have these awful things happen on such a regular basis, and YES< the Mother needs to be held accountable,what kind of excuse for a BRAIN is this woman operating on... Kids learn by example in the beginning, ergo, one has to wander about the ??? Start she gave him in life. !!!
 

Joanne Dixon (40)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:51 pm
Paul, no doubt a few extremists would take away all guns, but that is not what rational people want. Rational people want a ban on assault weapons, which have no purpose in hunting or other sports like skeet, and exist only to kill people. Rational people want a requirement for gun owners to prove and maintain training in gun safety - just as boat owners and owners of other sporting equipment with the potential to result in injuries or death are required to do, and don't seem to have any problem doing. Rational people want requirements set for safe storage of weapons, particularly where there are children or people with mental illnesses. If this seems too strict for you, then you are not just a "gun enthusiast." You are a Gun Nut, and I don't want YOU to have any weapon.

All of the RESPONSIBLE gun owners I have known are already conforming to what rational people are asking.

I might also pass on this quote:

Other nations, our neighbors to the north in Canada, for instance, have stricter gun laws with per capita gun ownership about one-third as high as in the United States. But the number of gun murders there are not one-third as high. They are 1/100th as high. As gun-owners and other Americans join to fight the gun extremists, we need to work together to undermine the values and other factors behind those statistics.
(http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/12/15/1170462/-It-s-not-just-a-few-mass-killers-who-are-sick-and-twisted-Some-gun-manufacturers-are-worse?detail=email)
 

Dave C. (227)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 2:58 pm
its all such a horrible tragedy and I suspect we will never truly know his individual motivation.....

my hope, to honour the victims and families who have been so strong and heroic, is that we can use it to motivate us as a nation to make sure this doesn't happen every again....
 

june t. (66)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 4:23 pm
I'm not anti gun or anything. I live in Canada where, while people are allowed to own guns, it really just isn't the thing to do, it is not of much interest to very many people - we just don't have a gun culture. The few people I know who have guns, actually use them for hunting or their job or something like that, but they don't have a fascination for them, they consider them a tool with a specific purpose. And I do know people who live in isolated areas and hunt for their food. That being said, in this case apparently it was the mother that had a fascination with guns, and would take her kids target shooting and such, so Adam learned how to handle and use firearms. She must have known her son had mental health issues, so why she would risk having guns in the house is beyond me, unless she thought she was capable of handling her son (even though he was no longer a child). At the very least, she could have kept them in a storage facility where her son wouldn't have had ready access. And another issue, if guns are allowed for sane people to own, do they not check the other members of the household who may come into contact with the guns? When you inquire for a gun, doesn't someone ask "is there anyone in your household who has a mental health issue"? You could be the one sane person living in a looney bin and own a bunch of firearms - that's a scary thought.
 

Aletta Kraan (146)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 5:41 pm
Very sad !!!!!
 

Karen B. (8)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 5:47 pm
Read.!! What if he received the help he needed, could have been different ending.? For all involved.!!!!
 

pam w. (191)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 6:16 pm
Can we PLEASE not blame the mother?

We will never know what happened in that family.....it's just WRONG to put blame anywhere other than in the mind of Adam Lanza.
 

Klaus Peters (13)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 7:27 pm
A very tragic situation, obviously he needed help, but he reached for a gun that should never have been in his posession in the first place if the USA had better gun laws and restrictions.
 

Past Member (0)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 8:23 pm
Psychiatric Drugs and Mass Shootings

America's Dangerously Gutted Mental Healthcare System.

 

Jelica R. (157)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 8:32 pm
I'm posting this list of petitions everywhere I can:

1. RootsAction.org: Enough vagueness. We want gun control.

2. The PetitionSite: How Many Kids Need to Die? We Need Better Gun Control NOW.

3. The PetitionSite: President Obama: We Need to Talk About Gun Control, TODAY

4. Avaaz: President Obama: Time to Talk About Gun Control

5. MomsRising.org: Today Is the Day for Common Sense Gun Regulations

6. Mayors Against Illegal Guns: Demand a Plan

7. SignOn.org: Newtown, today we tell our leaders "No more!"

8. Daily Kos: Now is the time to talk gun control

9. Faithful America: Mike Huckabee's unchristian rhetoric about school shootings

10. AVAAZ: Tell the NRA: ENOUGH!

11. We the People: Immediately address the issue of gun control through the introduction of legislation in Congress.

Also, call your elected officials at all levels and demand strict gun control policy.
 

Colleen L. (2)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 8:41 pm
Very tragic. He was emotionally sick and something just snapped. I agree with others that there isn't anyone else to blame, but himself. We can all speculate "if's" but that won't change what happened. We need to help ones that may show signs of problems, so we can prevent another tragedy like this ever happening again. Thanks Carrie
 

Nimue Pendragon (275)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 8:57 pm
Noted.
 

Rose NoFWDSPLZ (281)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 9:25 pm
Not all Mass murders have a " mental Illness"
 

Past Member (0)
Sunday December 16, 2012, 10:04 pm
Isn't Mass Murder a 'mental illness' by definition?

 

Paul Wellman (1)
Monday December 17, 2012, 2:32 pm
Like the wars on terror, alcohol, drugs, immigration, etc. the push for a war on firearms (of any kind) will be a miserable failure. Remember it was tried before and proved to be quite a stupid move and was repealed.
Your branding any particular firearm an “assault weapon” just points to your lack of knowledge about guns. Any number of “civilian” weapons would do as much or more damage.
Most importantly this hysteria totally misses the point that desperately needs to be made here.
Our “Culture of Violence” is producing people with huge problems and there is very little being done to address this. Branding anyone evil is a great disservice to them and their families and shows a total lack of understanding about mental illness.
Joanne Dixon points out the difference between the level of American violence and Canadian violence. Her rant about me is hysterical. I am sure she would have no problem denying me a gun at the point of a gun.
There is huge evidence that much of this difference is due to the extreme difference in our cultural heritage. To sum this difference up we have been in endless wars for decades Canada has not.
I am sure that the Prison Industrial Complex is licking it's lips at the prospect of vague stricter laws as a solution to this issue. It will feed their inhumane institutions with more poor souls that will feed their bottom line and that in turn will feed our culture of violence. Around and around we go!
I wish us luck!
 

Jennifer U. (1)
Monday December 17, 2012, 4:04 pm
After reading the story of Adam Lanza I think I can understand why he would do something so terrible. He wasn't acknowledged in his life and his desire was to find fame through a terrible act. Really sad, I feel bad for this guy.
 

Russie C. (4)
Monday December 17, 2012, 7:40 pm
Its not the mothers or fathers or brothers fault, the psycho kid Adam is the one at fault he did the crime, just wish he would of killed himself first and let the innocent kids and other adults live, they didnt deserve to die.
 

Claudia O. (73)
Tuesday December 18, 2012, 7:46 am
We need to do a better job of treating personality disorders. I don't know if anything could have been done for Adam, but it appears that not much was tried. Finding help for people with mental illness is very difficult.
 
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