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The Light That Shines


Society & Culture  (tags: health, Body-Mind-Spirit, disease, cancer, women, society )

Gene
- 488 days ago - thebreastcancersite.greatergood.com
This is a video story, it's only 15 minutes but it is incredibly moving and wonderful. I hope you'll take the time to meet Jill and hear her story.



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Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 6:25 am
I visit a place called the Hunger Site every day, I have for more than 15 years now. It supports, for free, 8 amazing charities. It began with just the Hunger site but has grown over the years into an incredible instrument for helping others in many ways, including our pets. Each one has several things you can look at every day, cute animal stories, heart breaking hunger stories, all with a mixture of hope for the good we can collectively do for others, and ourselves.

This particular charity has been part of the site for a long time. It's the Breast Cancer tab and today there is a marvelous video by an amazing young woman who has had an incredibly difficult journey these past three years, unfortunately there will not be a happy ending for her, but what she's done will touch millions of lives in a wonderful way. I'd like to see this video go viral for every woman, every man, all of us. We need to know what is possible even in the most dire circumstances. She is a role model, she is every woman..I hope you'll consider making the site one of your stops too, but I really hope just for today, in this season, that you'll watch her story. It will be good for your soul. It certainly was for mine.
 

Arielle S. (316)
Friday March 29, 2013, 6:47 am
What a beautiful spirit - inside and out. This young woman will leave her mark on many lives. Thank you for sharing this and for telling us about the site, too - like you, it is wonderful.

 

Autumn S. (142)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:04 am
Thank you so much Gene. What an amazing you lady. I've just found the site in the past 2 months and it's a great place. You have such a kind heart :)
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:09 am
I couldn't agree more with you Arielle and Autumn, she is absolutely incredible in her courage. I can't imagine dealing with all that myself and keeping such a wonderfully loving perspective on who she is. This falls, for me, into the category of things I will never understand, I can only trust our Creator, and we, know what we are doing, at the level of our souls if not consciously. She is an inspiration and perhaps that is why she is here. I don't know, I just really admire her courage and the love she radiates despite, perhaps in spite, of it all.
 

Arlene Mary Baladi (40)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:32 am
What a truly loving young woman she is Gene. Thank you so much for sharing her story with us!
 

Beth S. (321)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:34 am
Thank you, Gene. I cried through most of the video. How much strength and acceptance Jill had should be a model for us all. Really, what could be more beautiful than the story of one's journey on the emotional and physical roller coaster, and coming out with a life- and love-affirming view and commitment, with Jill's embrace of herself, even the parts that are were no longer there.

She didn't define herself and her life by her breasts or her hair, but she brought the most she could to every minute she had left in her life, and she was a joy and an inspiration to those around her.

Gene, as usual, you support women and other good causes. We are so lucky to have your perspective, your gift of words to convey the thoughts you do so well. You must be an incredibly compassionate and empathetic person to take this to your heart and desire to have other women strengthened by it.

My dad is presently undergoing rounds of chemotherapy for prostate cancer that metastasized to his bones. He has lived a long and good life, and also celebrated and gave thanks for every day. We should all realize how blessed we are and make each day count.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:56 am
You cannot currently send a star to Gene because you have done so within the last day.
 

Kit B. (277)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:23 am

I guess this morning it didn't take much to bring me to tears. Though I honestly think it would have done so, even if everything was peachy.

Changing or touching just one life and you change the world.

This beautiful but deeply painful story will touch and change the lives of so many. She offers hope to the hopeless, smiles when there is nothing left to smile about, love in a world that is desperately needing love.

I am so deeply moved by Jill's story.

I have not done, my clicks to day at the Animal Rescue site, breast cancer, hunger, literacy, aid to veteran's, treatment for autism, the Rainforest, diabetes, all clicks for the Greater Good - one click each, will help in these needed areas of relief. Less time than it takes to make a cup of coffee and you have reached out to help so many.

http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/clickToGive/ars/home?ThirdPartyClicks=ERA_032913_ARS_m
 

Barbara F. (84)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:36 am
Noted. Thank you so much, Gene, for sending this remarkable story to me! What an incredible young woman she is! Yes, I said, IS. The name, "The Light That Shines", is present tense, therefore, she IS still with us, in some way. Anyone who watches that video can't help but feel that.
 

Just Carole (341)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:44 am

I am, uncharacteristically, speechless. (All adjectives seem insufficient.)

Thank you for sharing this intense glimpse of an incredible woman. She was very blessed to be surrounded by such supportive friends and loved ones.

They are, as she is, to be commended. How wonderful that they have assured that her light continues to shine.

I will, definitely, be sharing this with others, and among them is a very dear friend/sister of mine who has survived breast cancer. She, too, is a glowing light who embodies strength and courage.

 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:59 am
Oh, Beth, I did too. I just found her attitude so inspiring, I can only hope I'd be so brave facing what she is and I'm old and grizzled while she's young and vibrantly full of love and life. Life can seem so unfair sometimes, but I truly believe there is purpose even when we can't see it from here.

I do support lots of things, yes, but because they need supporting. I support women's issues especially because for all of time my gender has treated yours badly, often horribly, and that simply isn't right and I think one of the things we are here to do is decide what is right, for ourselves, and then act on that. So while I cannot make amends for eons of bad behavior, I can point it out when I see it now and support those trying to change things. I think we are entering an era in which women will play a dominant role on the world stage and it is about time. That has some playing out to do yet, of course, but I see it beginning and I support that. It is for the good of all of us in the long run. I'm sure it won't be easy as some men, as we have proven repeatedly and forever, are unwilling to give up the reins of power easily, but this will be a peaceful revolution, as I see it coming from within, and the guys won't even see it coming until it has happened and they actually see their lives are the better for it. That's a process. This story I shared because it touched me so and it is a message of hope despite what is going to happen, she shows us all what we can be, if we choose to. And I know the women here choose to.

I'm sorry about your Dad, I know that is difficult, I lost a great uncle that same way in 1997, the same year my youngest son died, then my maternal grandfather in July at 94 and his younger brother in December at 87 of prostate cancer. I will keep you and your father in my thoughts and prayers.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:05 am
You cannot currently send a star to Just Carole because you have done so within the last day. But I tried.
 

Cher Away Personal Msgs ONLY (1466)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:18 am


Thnx for sending me this Carole!!

And Thnx to you Gene for sharing this very moving story.

I lost my Dad to Cancer and my heart goes out to everyone that has lost someone to this awful disease.

 

Linda McKellar (178)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:24 am
I read about this in the Toronto paper. Thanks, I will watch it later.
 

Chris C. (147)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:30 am
Thank you, Gene. I think this incredible, beautiful. courageous woman was put on this earth as an inspiration to other women and men! I think you, Gene, were placed here for the same reason!!! I never fail to be inspired by you, your frirendship, your gift of expresson and your support!
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:36 am
Oh, thanks, Chris. She really is amazing isn't she? I agree with you too, some people, I believe come here for the express of being an example of some kind, not all good people, for the rest of us and I think she's one. Not so sure about me though. I have a past and it isn't as shining brightly as hers, I just try to learn from my mistakes, legion though they be.
 

Chris C. (147)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:40 am
I lost both parents and numerous uncles and aunts to cancer. My brother had cancer at 29 and against all odds is today a 70 yr old survivor. My cousin and his wife's marriage ended after dealing with the devastating death of their 3 yr old, beautiful boy to cancer. My friend just discovered a bump on her neck and immediately got it checked. She just finished her initial treatments for lymphoma. I am privileged to know several very strong women who are breast cancer survivors. My Tai Chi teacher is 80 and a 2-time survivor. I'm lucky - I've only had a few bouts with skin cancer. I pray that we will discover a cure for this disease! It has, for too long, taken away too many of our loved ones!
 

Caitlin Mac (102)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:46 am
I have taken part in the Greater Good charities for years, but of late have been clicking on Care2's clicking spots which may or may not be part of the Greater Good network. I missed this video until I heard from Just Carole. As a survivor myself, I wasn't sure I wanted to see another story, but I couldn't disregard Carole's suggestion. It is a beautiful story, Gene. Thank you for bringing it to us. As others have said here, you seem to have as beautiful a spirit as anyone in the story! I'm glad the film ended when it did, but the lump in my throat knows... the rest of the story.
 

Chris C. (147)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:51 am
Gene - you are an incredible man. We ALL have a past, my friend. It's what we do with the "here and now" that is important! I don't think you really understand how many lives you've touched!

 

Mandi T. (421)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:01 am
TY Carole for sharing such an amazing story.And ty Gene. So touching, brought tears to my eyes. I lost my brother to cancer just 2 yrs ago.
 

Edwin M. (366)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:21 am
Be patient and kind with everyone you meet whether you agree with them or not (I have to admit although I try it is sometimes difficult to do), we never know what challenges others are facing in their lives. Thank you for this Gene and thank you Carole for the forward.
 

Michela m. (3815)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:23 am
Thanks!!! Noted!!
 

SuSanne P. (181)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:25 am
Extending Gratitude to Gene as well as *C* for sharing this amazing story with me this morning. Extending Gratitude to the charity you shared with me as well.
Through my tears I find myself speechless too, even after viewing it a second time. So I borrow the words of Kit, "Changing or touching just one life and you change the world".
The Live of such a Courageous Woman has put a footprint on my Heart for my lifetime.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:32 am
Giggle, Chris, only you could bring a smile to my face on this story. I just blather. And I care, but so does everyone here, it is why we're here, why this community is so strong and gives me such hope over 22 MILLION people who walk the talk here is amazing.

And I know what you mean, Caitlin, the date on the video was early March this year, and she still looks strong and active with stage 4 bone cancer. With that over her head, to do what she did, is so inspiring, it does, as Jack Nicholson said (a fellow I don't particularly care for for the most part but once in a while he finds an acorn) in As Good As It Gets, with Helen Hunt, her story makes me want to be a better man. If it can do that for others as it spreads, she will have accomplished something quite remarkable, that few of us can ever hope to do, touch, with love, the hearts and minds of much of the world. Her story has that potential. Though I am SO sorry it has to be at such a cost. There IS a lump in my throat because I too know the rest of the story though it is not yet written. I wish there were a way to ease things for her, maybe the letters and acknowledgements she is getting know can do that in a way. I sure hope so.
 

Pat B. (354)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:38 am
WOW.!! What a video. I cried, and am so grateful to have gotten this forwarded to me, Thank you, Carole. Through Jill's eyes and her emotions, (who is beautiful, inside and out), one can see how brave and resilient she is. I am touched by this film, and am passing on to friends. Thank you so much, Gene, for this.
 

Elizabeth S. (149)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:51 am
Thank you Gene for posting this most moving video, and thank you Carole for the forward. Noted and sharing with others. i pray that a cure is found soon to eradicate the root of all cancers.
 

pam w. (191)
Friday March 29, 2013, 11:07 am
Thank you, Gene! As always, you bring quality and HEART to the posts you give us.

When my friend Lori was diagnosed with Stage 4 bone cancer (after a double mastectomy) she went on a BIG safari to Africa! Like Jill, Lori wanted to celebrate what she had left.

My heart goes out to Jill and Bart and everyone who loves them.
 

Past Member (0)
Friday March 29, 2013, 11:11 am
Thank you.
 

Farah Hage Ali (156)
Friday March 29, 2013, 11:16 am
noted, thank you for sharing
 

Sue D. (156)
Friday March 29, 2013, 1:19 pm
Thank you Carole for sharing this with me - an Gene, for posting. The comments here say it all so very well...
Jill is a remarkable woman. Through it all she is incredibly honest, open and so positive in her life, despite being given a death sentence. How she can still show so much joy and laughter is beyond me, yet she is an inspiration for all. An amazing woman... with an equally amazing husband and friends.
 

Just Carole (341)
Friday March 29, 2013, 1:47 pm

Thank you to all who responded to my appeal to view this video.

I must admit that, when I received notice from Gene of this submission, I knew in advance that it would be sad and may affect me for the day . . . but, I still proceeded to view it (and it did have that effect on me).

But, I'm glad I did. The day-long effect was something necessary -- a re-examination of my own priorities; and the re-commitment to helping those who, through no fault of their own, are dealt devastating barriers to lives that will not be lived as dreamed.

*I* was not strong for viewing this intimate and brave sharing of a very personal nature. Jill, her friends, her family -- and all others who decide that, instead of feeling sorry for themselves (as is only natural and human, and I'm sure they do at times), they would, instead, leave behind a legacy of strength and hope for others.

THEY are the heroes and warriors.

Again, I thank you for this, Gene.

 

Barbara D. (73)
Friday March 29, 2013, 3:07 pm
What a beautiful, brave woman, and what a wonderful support group (including her amazing husband). Thanks, *C* and Gene, for sharing this with us!
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 3:10 pm
Thank you Carole, for sending this to your friends, and to all who have also shared her incredible story. I've shared it with my offCare2 network of friends too. I only hope I face my own end with half the dignity, grace and love she is demonstrating. It has certainly stayed with me all day too and will a good bit longer, I know. And I'm okay with that because some things are just too wonderful not to remember as long as we can.
 

Henriette Matthijssen (143)
Friday March 29, 2013, 3:14 pm
Thanks Gene for sharing the video of this amazingly beautiful woman with her message leaving every woman to feel beautiful about themselves!
 

LucyKaleido ScopeEyes (79)
Friday March 29, 2013, 3:18 pm
I have watched this video because of the message my friend Carole sent me, convincing me that this was something that I shouldn't miss.

She was right.

I am also moved by the comments here on this thread.

I find Jill (I'm a Jill, too!), the Jill in the video a truly beautiful person, and, as someone said her beauty is not defined by her breasts or her hair, but the look in her eyes, her infectious smile and her joy in living, her appetite for life and love.

Finding out that you have an incurable disease is not necessarily a moment of personal tragedy. It is for the people around you, who love you and who are filled with sorrow & distress at the thought of your going, but for the person concerned it can be a great boost, inciting you to decide to make every minute, every moment count, to enjoy lifefully for as long as it lasts. Existence becomes so much more precious! So I feel I understand Jill's attitude & reaction.

I also realize that she has suffered terrible surgery repeatedly, frightening experiences in themselves, & then the excrutiating pain, as she explains in the video, but she has put these terrible moments into the past & moved forward to take advantage of the joy that she is capable of feeling and capable of generating in others.

I'm sorry that I didn't know about her when she came to Paris. I would have loved to meet her & be a part of her Paris experience. Her opportunity to come to Paris & do fashion photo shoots in Paris was a great source of joy for her and she is absolutely beautiful in all those shots. Her joy is contagious.
I only hope that her illness does not make her again suffer terrible pain and that she will be able to go peacefully.

She is very lucky to have such dear friends & such a loving devoted husband, for they are the basis, the motivation & the raison d'être of her happiness, her will to surmount sadness and distress.

I share the feelings & thought Carole expressed in her first comment: I thank you, Gene, for sharing this intense glimpse of an incredible woman. She was very blessed to be surrounded by such supportive friends and loved ones. They are, as she is, to be commended. How wonderful that they have assured that her light continues to shine.

Like several commenters here, I have lost family members to cancer: both of my father's sisters & my father, too. But I was already living in Paris & did not directly experience their ordeal & their pain. My father developed leukemia late in life, the type of leukemia that evolves slowly, so he was under medication & got regular check-ups & seemed to be doing OK. When he was suddenly hospitalized in critical condition, it was a great shock. I quickly got a plane ticket & flew out of Paris within 2 days, but I was too late. Waiting for the connecting flight to Colorado Springs in Chicago or Houston (can't remember which), I called the hospital & he had already died. I'd had no idea that he had contracted meningitis & that the hospital was unable to treat it, & save him.

I also used to have a Bolivian colleague who was a cancer survivor. She was a unique person in our work environment because of her consistant pleasantness and the little things that she quietly, gently did to bring pleasure to our environment. She was the only person to bring cut flowers to our teachers' room for our collective pleasure & think of decorating a place that had always been merely functional and impersonal. She also loved parties & partying and she always invested in any celebration at work, whether Christmas or whatever, getting all dressed up, bringing music & being ready to dance, & inspire the rest of us. The first time I met her, when she had just joined our organization, I immediately invited her to my home for dinner. I had never done that with anyone else, any other stranger, before. I felt an instantaneous bond with her.

I'm sure Jill is someone people feel that way about.
 

Elaine Al Meqdad (222)
Friday March 29, 2013, 3:36 pm
GENE...YOU HAVE OUTSHONE THEM ALL WITH THIS AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL DOCUMENTARY !!! SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND YET HEARTBREAKING STORY...I AM IN TEARS AT THE UNFAIRNESS THAT LIFE USES AT TIMES TO THROW SUCH HUGE BOULDERS IN OUR PATHS. THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMAN FINDS THE LOVE OF HER LIFE WITH A WONDERFUL FUTURE AHEAD OF THEM. A TRUE FAIRY TALE. AND YET YOU REALIZE THAT ONLY GOD COULD HAVE PUT THESE TWO TOGETHER FOR THE VERY REASON THAT LIFE REALLY ISN'T MADE OF FAIRY TALES BUT, IS BUILT ON THE ONLY THING THAT TRULY MATTERS IN THE END ...AND THAT IS LOVE! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SENDING ME THIS INCREDIBLE STORY, WOMAN AND WORK OF BEAUTIFUL ART...THIS IS A BOOKMARK FOR ETERNITY! PLEASE KEEP US POSTED ON HER LIFE...
LOVE AND HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND,
ELAINE
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 4:25 pm
Again, thank you all. I am so grateful you took the time to watch. In internet terms 15 minutes is forever and it is rare that I watch anything of that length. I really do believe there are people who come here for a purpose, a soul purpose, to teach us something, to show us something about ourselves, sometimes to show us what we are not and I think Jill is one of those special people. I've looked up what she has now and it is not going to be easy, I can only hope and pray it is fast. But the courage it took to do what she did, the love she showed us all by doing so, just proves again, to me, that whatever our differences politically or economically or religiously, in the end the only thing that matters is that we love. That we love each other well. She, a child, with all of life in front of her, a new husband, hopes and dreams, all taken, and still she has the incredible strength and grace to give herself to us all, that we might take inspiration and hope from her sad story. That is love. Personified. And something we can all aspire to because what she is, we are too.
 

Petra M. (252)
Friday March 29, 2013, 4:27 pm
noted, thank you for sharing !
 

Sandi C. (238)
Friday March 29, 2013, 4:33 pm
What a amazing woman. I've been clicking on that site for a few years, I clicked for all.
 

Natasha Salgado (511)
Friday March 29, 2013, 4:41 pm
Wonderful brave young woman This is a great site and i will be clicking on it everyday. Thank you Gene for sharing this story with us. I would not have known about this site if not for you!!
 

Angelika R. (146)
Friday March 29, 2013, 4:56 pm
I admit it took me a lot of courage to decide for watching the video, after I have very carefully read all comments here. Much to my surprise it was less hard than I have feared and I can already feel the inspiration of her message. Unlike Gene, I am not praying that "it will be fast" as I think this outstanding young woman will have the strenght and ability to live through what is still ahead of her and shine as much and try and enjoy life as much as she has been until she can no longer do so in this world. She will however, continue to shine in the spirit world.
Sincere thanks to our "godfather of matriarchy", our uniquely lovely Gene, and to our dear friend Carole for passing this around!
Thanks to all your great and valuable, some equally moving, comments here as well!
 

Ron B. (223)
Friday March 29, 2013, 5:07 pm
Thanks, Gene. Another wake-up call here that helps to put things into proper perspective whenever I start to feel sorry for myself for any reason.
 

Tamara Noforwardsplz (185)
Friday March 29, 2013, 5:18 pm
First, Gene, you have taken my breath away at your ability to find and share something so incredibly moving, stunning and intimate. It shows a sensitivity and compassion of spirit on your part. As have so many others, my life too, has been touched by cancer. My mother died in my arms from lung cancer that had metastasized to her brain. In watching Jill's amazing grace, the beauty of her spirit and her undaunting courage, I found myself reliving those precious moments with my mother before she passed. The conversations we had, the love and pain we shared and our ability to laugh during the darkest hours were, for me, a blessing. I was able to share all of my emotions with her and I had the incredible chance to say goodbye that so many never have. Jill will never be forgotten because she gave herself to the world in a way that few ever could. I feel as though I have been touched by an angel after watching her story and the love that she is surrounded with is the cornerstone thru which she is able to continue thru this tragic journey that has been laid at her feet. I agree with all here, she is an inspiration and a gift to all of us. I am a big believer in things happening for a reason. And I agree, perhaps her purpose in being here is that she is one of those people who is gifted with the special ability to teach by example. I wish for her a swift and as painless as possible passing when her story comes to it's inevitable ending. This world has a shining star for all too see and when the light no longer shines, the glow of it will still be seen when we close our eyes and listen with our hearts.

So I thank you Gene, and Carole for the forward, for sharing this lesson in love with me and I will be sharing this with all whom I know for I believe this is a message that all were meant to hear. And I also believe that it may bring comfort to many who are experiencing this now.
 

Linda Rust (67)
Friday March 29, 2013, 5:19 pm
Thank you Gene for sharing this, it's very beautiful and poignant story. You're one of the greatest feminists I've ever known! Everything you post just raises the tone here on Care2, I'm very glad you're here.
 

Tamara Noforwardsplz (185)
Friday March 29, 2013, 5:24 pm
P.S. I visit those sites every single day as part of my routine. The chance to make a difference is something that I hold close to my heart and I have all of those sites and many more as a part of my toolbar. Again, Gene, thank you for being who you are.
 

Richelle Rausch (43)
Friday March 29, 2013, 6:10 pm
What wonderful people. Breasts are to feed babies, but men have taught women that they are for men's pleasure. That makes breast cancer even more traumatic for women
 

Brian M. (145)
Friday March 29, 2013, 6:12 pm
What a powerful video. Thanks.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 6:34 pm
So. First, though I thank you all for your kind comments, this is not my story, and I never meant it to be. YOU all take my breath away, every day. I joined Care2 in 2001 but didn't come back until last April, since then we have added 4 MILLION more people, who love and care. THAT is amazing. I'm just proud and happy to know so many of you either as friends or through your stories and writing. Angelika, the only reason I said I hoped it could be fast is I looked up what she has now and its main indicator is pain and that alone makes me cry, this wonderful young woman has suffered enough already. Perhaps that is selfish of me, but I believe she is going to a place we all will, where we came from, where love is all there is. I've glimpsed that place, felt its enormity and cannot do it justice with words. I just don't want her to hurt any more.

I am so happy so many of you have given of your time to watch her story, I admit I have watched it more than once and feel like I am keeping Kleenex in business all by myself today. But there are so many horrible stories here, important stories, important causes, but so much back and forth, all for very good reasons, strongly held opinions, and deeply felt beliefs. But in the end, it is for me, what Ron said above another wake up call for when I start feeling sorry for myself.

I'm also really happy that so many of you have found the Hunger Site through this. I still call it that, though a dear friend calls it the Animal Rescue Site, and he's not wrong either. I fudged about the time I've been visiting it, it began in the mid-90's (I mean who am I fooling, I wasn't a spring chicken then either) with just the Hunger Site, then closed for a bit and reopened with three charities and now has grown into what I think is one of the premier charity sites on the Net, free that is. As Kit pointed out earlier, you can click all 8 charities in the time it takes to sip a cup of coffee, though I think she said make one. I confess, I've never bought anything from the sponsors but I know people do or it wouldn't still be there. It is the first thing I do when I sign on every morning, so simple, and there is always a cute animal story - when you hover one of the five little boxes on each tab, you can see what they are, so I often look at those, most of the others I just click on and move on, but most days one I stop on is the Breast Cancer site, the stories are inspirational, but not one has grabbed me as much as this. As I said earlier, I will rarely watch anything that lasts 15 minutes, except sometimes Rachel Maddow, but I've an inner guide, that I won't go into, but this morning as I clicked the site, she slowed me with a whispered "wait", then please watch. So I did and was overwhelmed as many of you were, then "share it gene", so I did. In that sharing I mentioned I don't usually do this, I think maybe 5 times in the year I've been back she has had me do that. I love what I get from all of you, but I feel pushy if I do it, so I almost never do, Jill was just not someone I could ignore, not someone who should be ignored. She is someone I hope to be when I grow up because I am not nearly the human being she is, now. But I want to be. And sometime, somewhen, here or home, I hope to tell her that in person.
 

Lyn Z. (295)
Friday March 29, 2013, 7:43 pm
Beautiful.
Thanks Gene, and Carole for fwd.
 

Dave C. (213)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:11 pm
thanks, I try to visit greatergood sites as often as able, too
 

Joanne Dixon (37)
Friday March 29, 2013, 8:26 pm
Thank you Gene.
 

LucyKaleido ScopeEyes (79)
Friday March 29, 2013, 9:54 pm
I thank you, Gene, for the personal message you sent me, and I am sorry that I cannot respond. I have been unable to use C2 messaging for writing & sending personal messages ever since my old computer died its natural death & we replaced it with a new one. Even though the new one tells me that java is activated, I am most often unable to even place the cursor into the space alloted for writing text. On the rare occasions that I can place it & write a message, when I send it it arrives without the text & only the message I received & am vainly trying to reply to. Sometimes the 'submit' button is disactivated, too, but when it isn't& I click it, I get a little message that says 'java void = 0'. I am not a computer wizz & don't know how to solve this problem. I don't know if it is 'java' or 'javascript' that enables messaging on C2.

I can add a new subject & send that, though, which is the technique I used to try to thank you for your message & explain my inability to reply.

Please forgive me for taking up space on this thread with this technical problem which is so out of tune with Jill's amazing story & the feelings it has inspired.

You received a beautiful homage from my friend Angelica who has called you "our "godfather of matriarchy", our uniquely lovely Gene"!

I thank you for your compassion regarding my father's death & thank you, too, for what you told me about your father.

On C2, I spend most of my time posting or commenting on avoidable injustices that we must fight against, like wrongful convictions, the poisoning of our environment & fellow humans by greedy, heartless corporations, the damages of war & the use of toxic weapons, the violation of human rights, discrimination & racism, etc

There is no more horrible injustice, though, than the injustice of a deadly illness developing in a young person, like Jill, whose life had barely begun. She expresses that so well in the part of the video where she explains her reaction to the doctor: no that can't be me, I'm too young, I just got married, etc. How can such a beautiful young woman receive what one commentor here has so rightly called 'a death sentence', so undeserved, so unfair?
There is no fighting against that injustice & we are helpless & tearful before this one that no petition & no committed activism can seek to abolish. Only advances in médicine will hopefully, some day, find solutions to that injustice.
Until then, we can only accept the injustice that is carried in our genes & hope to follow the shining example of a self-defined 'Las Vegas party girl' with an amazing spirit & an admirable will to remain undefeated by the abominable hand her genes have dealt her.
 

Susanne R. (249)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:28 pm
What an inspiration this incredible woman is! I'm hoping for a miracle and praying for a cure for Jill and for each and every individual who is facing such a devastating illness. Let's keep clicking, donating whatever we can towards finding a cure, performing our monthly checkups, supporting one another when such a diagnosis is made, and fighting for diagnostic testing and appropriate treatment for women without insurance!. And let's not forget that it's not just women who are stricken with this terrible form of cancer. Men can be victims, too.

Thank you, Gene, for posting this video. You are truly a "ladies man" in the most loving and compassionate way imaginable. And thank you, Carole, for the forward. And please, let's never forget the uninsured! Health care should be a right, not a privilege.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Friday March 29, 2013, 10:31 pm
I think I can fix your problem Lucy. Sent you a message.
Susanne, yes she is. It will take a miracle, but I'm on that page too. I know she is, sweet girl who deserves so much better.
 

Michael Carney (207)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:17 am
Just beautiful...I think it's fate, that I read this on Good Friday...Thanks Gene, and Carole for forwarding this to me...
 

Pat A. (117)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:39 am
What an utterly wonderful and inspiring video - God bless them all, Jill and her friends and family are utterly astonishing!

Since a dear friend of mine suffered a second bout of cancer about six months ago I spent days and days on the net seeing if there was something I could do to help her (and most importantly lift her spirits not burden her with more to do or think about) - and I found three things - one is that in the West our modern diets are grossly lacking in Iodine (see the Stop The Thyroid Madness site and others - all of which point out that Iodine is not just needed by the thyroid to make everything else work properly - but that our breasts and reproductive organs desperately need iodine and it can reverse some cancers according to survivors) the second is to freely and happily (seriously!) choose your own treatment, and third add visualisation to whatever treatment you choose and this can help enormously!

It is important to choose whatever treatment you undergo, and see it as healing, and have positive doctors and surgeons/healers around you - Dr Bernie Siegel is an amazing oncologist who set out to find out why ad how some patients survived when all authorities thought they would not (and vice versa, sadly) and he asked the cancer survivors themselves - and they said it was vital to choose your treatment yourself - not let your family or friends decide for you, or your doctors; then it was vital to see everything as healing and to be as happy and as positive as possible. He also in his books mentions visualisation - which can be used for yourself or for others and has amazing effects - many other books have been written on the subject - and it can be done for animals too! (With Bernie's methods people even had Chemotherapy and had NO side effects!!).

Gene - I do the daily clicks on this site and on the Animal Rescue Site too - I signed up for email reminders a while ago, and the Freekibble - all thanks to Nicky and Dandelion and Nancy on this site. Thanks so much for this Gene - you are a wonderful man, and do so much to help others - you are an inspiration to us all! Thanks so much to Philip for forwarding this - another very good man!

 

Susan Allen (221)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:41 am
Gene, thanks so much for sharing this beautiful story. It was truly inspiring. Like so many others here, I read all the comments and thought long and hard about whether I wanted to watch the video, but I am so glad that I did. She is a very beautiful lady and I was okay, no tears, until the part where her husband was bringing her breakfast in bed after her surgery. I lost my first husband to lung cancer in 1993 and unfortunately have had several friends get the dreaded diagnosis of cancer, some living and some dead now, and it always amazes me the generally very up attitude they all seem to have. I'm glad she chose to make this documentary to share with others her experiences. I have shared this story. Thanks again Gene.
 

Anna Undebeck (203)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:55 am
Thank you Gene for telling this great story! I am deeply touched. Thanks again!
 

LucyKaleido ScopeEyes (79)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 2:47 am
Thank you so much, Gene, for your offer of help to solve my C2 messaging problems.
I don't think I'll have much opportunity to be on C2 this weekend but will try to take advantage of your info asap.

Otherwise, sorry again to take up space here on a non-relevent issue, but:

Personal Message for J Carole:
I have a message I'd like to send you but no way of getting it to you, with my C2 messaging still preventing me from sending out any messages. Could you possibly send me your e-mail address? You know I can receive & read C2 messages.
I have tried sending you my message via e-card but my message is too long & it hasn't shown up on the several C2 e-cards I have tried to use. In fact, you have received one of my attempts, you got the picture I chose for the card, but the message is absent. Hugs, Jill

 

LucyKaleido ScopeEyes (79)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 2:58 am
Thank you, Pat A, for your pertinent & helpful comment.

Please elaborate though on 'adding visualisation,' because I don't understand what you mean by that.
 

Pat A. (117)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 4:13 am

Hi Lucy - there are heaps of books on visualisation techniques - but briefly (and probably inadequately) here goes ....! Basically if you have an illness you envisage what is going on inside you and envisage it being healed - you can imagine seeing the organs/joints etc involved or the cells themselves or even down to the atomic level. Lots of people imagine a little helper (or a group of helpers) - you can imagine angels or mini versions of yourself, or anything that suits your personality (children can envisage their favourite toys helping mend a wound or chase away an illness). One could imagine an oilcan full of lovely golden thick synovial fluid pouring into a dry/inflamed or painful joint and helping it - and over the days and weeks of repetition several times a day it will help. You can envisage a broken bone healing (many times a day) and it will heal astonishingly fast according to those who have done it!

It may sound a little eccentric at first, but then think of the number of times worry and stress cause headaches and other pains, and also ulcers etc - and they say that truly happy, content and unstressed people don't get ill (lucky them!). So if stress and tension can affect the body chemically and then physically, why shouldn't positive thoughts about healing?!

Another thing to do is to firmly stamp on the critical internal voice that most people have - the one that repeats all the negative things said to you in your life, and usually does it when you are exhausted and your defences are down too! So repeat to yourself the good things about yourself and resolve to cure the bits you don't like - we all have them!

Also - I have just heard that cancer researchers say that we all have the potential to get cancer, and that with some people the genes that permit it to happen get turned on and cancer results. Now I don't pretend to understand this but I have heard researchers say it with other illnesses - and surely what gets turned on could (if done in time) get turned off again? Oh I DOOO hope so - for everyone's sake!

One may also do visualisation for pets and for others (with their permission) - and I have tried it recently. With my extremely limited experience I would say that for recent injuries it helps them heal faster, but with long standing conditions it will take a lot longer!

The book I have read says that visualisation is to aid the treatment we are already having - which I think is a good point, as we are still on the nursery slopes of this kind of thing. At the worst, positive thoughts can't do any harm can they - and they could do so much good!

PS - I told a friend of mine how an exercise that I had read to help people with a spastic colon involved envisaging taking it out of the body and stroking it and gently speaking to it, and telling it that it was loved, until it resumed a nice pink healthy colour (the thought of the exercise made me giggle) - and she said she'd give it a miss! I can't think why(!!!).

However we do get so angry with ourselves and our bodies when they fail us and we are under so much pressure and stress - perhaps we could benefit from treating ourselves and our bodies as kindly as we would do a friend in trouble! I hope this might help....


 

Arild Warud (159)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 4:34 am
This is such an important message to tell,thanks for posting Gene and to "C" for the fw.
 

Vivien Green (150)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 6:18 am
My goodness what a radiant and inspirational women.

Thank you for sharing Gene. also thank you Carole for the "heads up"
 

Giana Peranio-Paz (379)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 6:24 am
Thank you Gene for sharing this wonderful story about such a brave woman. I lost a friend to breast cancer just a month or two ago, and it was devastating. We should be thankful for our health each morning.
 

l L. (1)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 7:30 am
Gene; Outstanding!

This young lady is beautiful outside; but especially inside.
It appears she has made a decision to share that beauty as long as she can and is able.
I thank her for that. She is ...casting lifelines... to whom ever will grab hold. Perhaps those in their deepest despair will see this and grab hold of her message..tie a knot and hold on.. if not for another day.. take another breath for another moment and in it the sun will shine and take the pain away, just long enough to make a good difference.
I look at the people who put themselves around her to give her support in her hours of discourse.
The wind beneath her wings.. so to speak. This is a lesson (starting with me) how to be a good comforter to someone going thru the adversities of life. Having tasted that discourse... I am reminded by listening and looking at her, that not to demand or expect her to be my hero or strong one and by both(demand and expectation) that the one going thru; fill my bill of what it means to be my hero by doing this or that or not doing this or that.
If they, hurt or cry or express their going thru sorrows... let them..support them.. be there.. understand.. despite of.. they need that. I saw the tears and the moments in her she put on a big face.. wonder what she was really experiencing? Was that big smiles for us.. to give us lifelines or how she in her beauty wanted us to remember her and that...remember I....was....here...don't forget me... SHe touched me with what she and her supporters have and are doing.

From what I know about bone cancer.. it is quite painful.. I have seen patients.. a simple move and their bones broke in this area and then another time.. another place. and there was much screaming in pain and no relief. And she is stage 4? Will remember her. WHerever; there is a cure for cancer and everything else .. we have much.. to do.
There are many people in pain and very ill these days ...more than usual.. I get reports that come from here and there.. Roll up our sleeves...
Thank you Gene. Thank you.
 

janet stothers (18)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 7:47 am
wish more people was like her :)
 

Tammy Baxter (9)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 11:05 am
thank you
 

John B. (215)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 11:10 am
Thank you Gene for posting this link. Marvelous, beautiful, lovely and inspiring Video documentary! I go to this site every day to "click to donate" but had never seen this absolutely wonderful video. Thank you for the heads up! Viewed and noted.
 

John B. (215)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 11:13 am
"You cannot currently send a star to Gene because you have done so within the last day."
 

Sara P. (54)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:07 pm
Thanks from the deep of my heart to share with us this story Gene, I have also to thanks my dear friend Philip that is always there to share incredible and important issues. I think that others comments from me are not necessary, I see here above many nice persons who used wonderful words and my english is not enough so thanks to all of you.
 

Just Carole (341)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 12:29 pm

You expressed yourself very well in English, Sara.

Thank you for your kind words.

 

LucyKaleido ScopeEyes (79)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 1:47 pm
Sara, tante grazie per il tuo commento. Io non parlo cosi bene italiano ma mi piacciono tanto gli italiani e le loro emozioni del cuore. Anche in inglese riesci a comunicare questa bell' emozione. Io vivo a Parigi con un toscano, un Fiorentino, ma ci parliamo soprattutto in francese o in inglese, perché io sono americana, new yorkese. I miei bisnonni - da parte di mio babbo- erano immigrati siciliani, ma non ho imparato l'italiano. Gia mio babbo non aveva imparato l'italiano a casa, la lingua era persa purtroppo. Ma ho frequentato qualche corso qui a Parigi perché volevo imparare la lingua dei miei antenati. Ed ora che vivo da 25 anni con il mio Fiorentino vedo che ho avuto una buona idea di frequentare questi corsi! Ma magari ho tanti progressi da fare ancora!

lyn L. - your sensitive, perceptive comment really touched me. Really!

Pat A. - Thank you so much for your explanation of 'visualization' that is very clear & very well expressed. It doesn't sound off the wall to me at all, because we know, as you say, how our mental & emotional states can cause or induce all sorts of physical ailments from everyday common aches & pains to actual serious illnesses. I remember once hearing a French doctor on the radio here saying that in his opinion the only physical condition that wasn't psychosomatic was a broken leg & even that was not necessarily true, at least not in all cases. Thank you again for the time you took to write that useful explanation and believe me, I am going to read it over several times until I've assimilated it completely. I particularly enjoyed your P.S. about talking to the inflamed colon. I used to suffer from IBS, but no one ever suggested any kind of mind-over-matter technique.
 

Devon Leonard (54)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 2:08 pm
Wowee....that was a beautiful group hug with everyone...all the tears and love is bathing me in such glorious gratitude for Life....! Thank you Jill and all who know and love you, and thank you Gene for your beautifully open and tender heart, and thank you to each of you who shared in this celebration of Life fully lived...!!!!! We Are One....
 

Suheyla C. (229)
Saturday March 30, 2013, 6:11 pm
Thank you,
 

Elle B. (81)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 4:16 am
“How far that little candle throws his beams. So shines a good deed in a weary world.”
― William Shakespeare

“Keep trying to do what is necessary, then what's possible and suddenly you're doing the impossible.”
― St. Francis of Assisi [1181 – 1226]
 

Lisa Hess (6)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 8:52 am
It took me awhile to watch this, i am also a breast cancer survivor, i actually
Had it twice but am so lucky it was caught early both times. May of this year
is my five year anniversary and it is actually scary. Gene you know i have also
Lost my son but I also have had 2 hip replacements and lost my thyroid and my spleen
And 2 years ago must of my pancreas and what is left is failing, this was not to
Cancer but I will go from type 2 to type 1 eventually and they caught ovarian cancer
Early as well it was pre cancer at that point but thanks to an aggressive
Gyn I didn't have to deal with full blown ovarian cancer (caused by my breast
Cancer meds go figure) and next is a shoulder replacement. And arthritis and neuropathy
In both feet, i live every day in pain in my body and heart but I am not yet
On a road to the end as this woman is and i still envy her in a way because
She still knows how to smile and laugh and enjoy her time here. I lost
That a long time ago and the loss of my son was a brick wall for me.
Thank you for the smile on this somber easter day, this is also 2 days
After the 16th anniversary of my sisters death and less then 2 weeks from
The 2 year anniversary of my son's loss. Again thank you for the smile I wont
Have many today
 

BarbCat SunshineLady (1634)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 9:39 am
Jill is such a beautiful woman inside and out. She made up her mind that she wasn't going to let breast cancer take her down, let breast cancer win. That takes COURAGE! That takes SPIRIT! And it takes SMILES! I may not have breast cancer but I know what CHALLENGES are; met up and have accepted CHALLENGES all my life....It takes a STRONG BELIEF that GOD KNOWS WHAT HE'S DOING even when you cry out 'WHY ME, LORD!?' Jill has clearly BY-PASSED the 'WHY ME LORD!?' STAGE with DIGNITY & GRACE. GOD BLESS JILL!! TY for the fwd *C* and Gene for posting!!! HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE; FOR HE IS RISEN!!!
 

DORIS L. (61)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 1:03 pm
This is a most inspring vidio of a most generous, courageous and beautiful woman.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 2:44 pm
Thank you to all for your comments and thoughtfulness here, I hope that loving energy flows to Jill and those of you who here who need it too. Sara, Carole was right, you expressed yourself just fine. And, Lisa, all I can say is I will keep you in my thoughts and believe things are going to improve for you.

It is not odd, but serendipitous, how things come to or attention. Like I said, I visit the site every day, I most often quickly click through the tabs, occasionally look at the Breast Cancer story and sometimes click it if I feel moved to do so, I was not only moved on Good Friday, as Michael pointed out, to look at this story but more compelled from within, and once that feeling takes hold, I can't ignore it, so I watched and then knew why, I was supposed to share it, it is that important, SHE is that important and a story told so beautifully deserves a wonderful audience. It was hard at first, as some of you have mentioned, to actually start, I knew what was there would cause me discomfort, and it did, but in a marvelous way, not a bad way. There is great love in tragedy, we can often miss that, Jill helped me relearn it. So, today on Easter, I'll visit with her once more. And just thank all of you for your time and for helping tell her story and for the love I know is flowing her way from this wonderful place. I bet she feels it too. I really hope so. Thank you.
 

Don H. (40)
Sunday March 31, 2013, 5:38 pm
Thank you so much, Gene. I appreciate you sharing that with us. Jill is such an inspiration.
 

l L. (1)
Monday April 1, 2013, 6:54 am
well today is the 1st of april and I can't log in.. I wrote a post and it didn't post keep getting the cow petition.. So have a good day all. lyn
 

. (0)
Monday April 1, 2013, 2:59 pm
This is a woman, in the truest sense of the word. Thanks so much for this Gene.
 

Dandelion G. (381)
Monday April 1, 2013, 7:04 pm
I'm sorry for being so late getting to this terrific post of an even more terrific woman and once more Gene your own heart shines through as much as hers does.

In 1997 my husband and I looked at the Dr. as he told my husband he had lymphoma and our hearts sank, we still had two children ages 12 and 9 at home. No, this shouldn't happen to a family that was so close and had children. But it does. We went home trying to figure out how to handle this with our children and other family members when the phone rang, I answered and my husband's brother started to tell me that his wife had just been told she had breast cancer.

I listened with a sinking heart as he still had no idea about his brother so in the same call I had to break that news to him. Over the months and years I watched both of these two loved ones Walk this challenge in life with dignity and with such courage. Arlene went to the Spirit World in 2001 and my husband went to the Spirit World in 2003. I learned a lot from them both in those years, my husband was the male version of this woman and Arlene kept her hearty laugh right up to the end. They humbled me.

Bless Jill for sharing so much of herself, for overcoming stereotypes and what makes us beautiful. As my husband lost his hair, he grew more thin by the months, to me he was still handsome in my eyes, for his beauty also shone from within and filled the lives around him.
 

Just Carole (341)
Monday April 1, 2013, 7:14 pm

Thank you, dear Sheryl, for sharing what is -- I'm sure -- still an extremely painful memory.

My heart goes out to you . . . and all others who have had the floor ripped from under them, and their dreams dissolved, and most especially, had to witness the inevitable demise of a dearly loved one.

I agree with all others who have stated here that I wish this physically and emotionally destructive disease could be eradicated.

Bless your heart, my friend.

 

l L. (1)
Tuesday April 2, 2013, 8:08 am
YOu know... you are all beautiful people here .. as well.. keep shining as well. keep sharing.
 

l L. (1)
Tuesday April 2, 2013, 8:19 am
BTW.. does anyone reminder.. when the word cancer was first introduced as a medical term to society..

I don't but it would be interesting to find out..
I can remember when I was a young woman.. and experiements were being done to ...stop.. the spread of cancer... I often wondered.. they knew about this problem before they told the public and made it a standard of care.. Cause they were testing this and that to see what worked or didn't.. So they knew it was a problem.. before we knew.. The question is why did they know it and not the general public..?
Over the years thru trial and errror the treatments have evolved..
Question... what were the powers that be doing that brought about cancer.. that they were trying to fix it?

The president signed another executive order.. this time giving scientist public and private the right to work or experiment on our brains with his blessings. How much do you think your brain will cost or go for..?

BEWARE.. enough trouble with MONTOSANTO and everything else. I would like to post on that article. Suppose to improve the economy and all that good stuff...REALLY? I don't think so!!!!!!!
 

Mm M. (446)
Wednesday April 3, 2013, 4:53 am
Just caught this from Just "C" and thank you. I was sleepy before and didn't take much to start the tears. Thank you Gene and again, Carole thank you for the heads up dear!
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Wednesday April 3, 2013, 9:27 am
Oh, Dandelion! I'm so sorry for what you went through. One of the things I've learned from Jill's story and the responses to it here and in messages, is that we all have challenges, what is important is how we face them. And that beauty is far from skin deep. Thank you for sharing your story too, I think we all become better people the better we understand, and appreciate, each other and what our paths have taken us through, around and to.
 

Gene Jacobson (247)
Thursday April 4, 2013, 9:46 am
If anyone should happen to drop by again, I've found Jill has a Facebook page, you can reach it through the link at her video. It was a thrill to leave a message for her there. It is quite active, which is also quite wonderful.
 

Gina Caracci (231)
Thursday April 4, 2013, 12:37 pm
Thanks Gene for sharing Jills story with us all. What a beautiful inspiring woman.

I havent been able to stop crying.
 

Dee C. (214)
Friday April 5, 2013, 3:43 pm
I also wasn't able to view this when Carole first sent the link to me..I have since then watched it..and indeed it is women like Jill..like my dear aunt Pat who inspire..encourage..support others even in their own sad plights..

I thank you Carole so very much for sharing this with me..And Gene..Vous remercie gentiment .. cher homme doux..You sir are a treasure..

Duly noted..

 

Just Carole (341)
Friday April 5, 2013, 3:47 pm

Thank you for doing so, Dee (and for all your kind words).

You're very welcome, and appreciated.

 

Joan S. (41)
Friday April 5, 2013, 7:06 pm
Hey Gene
Just got to this and was inspired. Beautiful soul inside and out. Thanks
 
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